What do you do to feel safe and secure?
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edgecrusher
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just being at home in my room is all it really takes for me.
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L0nely said:
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Good question. I have to have my own place-door locked. Sometimes I shut the phone off when it's ringing-not in the mood to put up w/ any more of the worlds bullshit. I definately control my envirement-has to be this wasy. The I sit and look at the world outside my window and wonder where everyones going and doing and me w/ unwilling to join in their chacios. Sometimes you just have to throw your hands up and say I've had enough for a day. After reading lots of posts there seems to be a common thread-most of us need to be safe and of course cared about by another loving soul-now if we could just fix that maybe we could just keep on-keeping on. Loving peace to all here.
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evanescencefan91
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take a long shower and get all cozy in my bed with my blankets and a teddy bear, and if that doesn't work I'll take a sedative
problem solved
problem solved
windowsill
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im a huge day dreamer, so i usually go off into my own little world
Major door-locker here and also we have an alarm.
On a psychological level,
the only thing which ever brought me security and a feeling of safety was my faith in God.
BUT that was riddled with inconsistencies and doubts because I was NOT safe as a child.
These days,
it's still my faith in God but as I understand Him through the Bhagavad-Gita and meditation.
On a psychological level,
the only thing which ever brought me security and a feeling of safety was my faith in God.
BUT that was riddled with inconsistencies and doubts because I was NOT safe as a child.
These days,
it's still my faith in God but as I understand Him through the Bhagavad-Gita and meditation.
doesanybodycare
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9mm browning on my night stand and my 140 lb. rotti at my bedside.
Steppenwolfe
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Lay down in bed or talk to someone on the phone, if i can get a hold of one of the few people I talk to.
Brian
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When I lived in my apartment I had a daily routine that usually started around 7 PM, or sometimes whenever I got home until the time I had to leave for some reason:
1. Lock door, windows
2. Close blinds, turn off all lights but one small lamp
3. Crank up heater (if winter)
4. Vidya gaems
5. Porn
6. Movies, anime, Livestream, 4chan
7. Dinner
8. Repeat 6
9. Shower
10. Repeat 5 and 6
11. Read in bed
I was very secure in my routine. Honestly, I kind of miss it. I think this goes to demonstrate that introversion is DEFINITELY a facet of personality, and not a disease; I have adjusted to being around people almost all of the time, but I cherish these moments (like now) that I have alone.
It makes me think, especially now that I am dating someone, that perhaps I don't want a live-in partner like I used to think I did.
There have been days when I felt I wanted to break up with her and not date anybody else long term again, simply because it's not all I cracked it up to be and I miss my alone time. My routine....me. But I think that would be premature. I think I simply need to have my own space again in the near future so I can achieve the needed balance.
1. Lock door, windows
2. Close blinds, turn off all lights but one small lamp
3. Crank up heater (if winter)
4. Vidya gaems
5. Porn
6. Movies, anime, Livestream, 4chan
7. Dinner
8. Repeat 6
9. Shower
10. Repeat 5 and 6
11. Read in bed
I was very secure in my routine. Honestly, I kind of miss it. I think this goes to demonstrate that introversion is DEFINITELY a facet of personality, and not a disease; I have adjusted to being around people almost all of the time, but I cherish these moments (like now) that I have alone.
It makes me think, especially now that I am dating someone, that perhaps I don't want a live-in partner like I used to think I did.
There have been days when I felt I wanted to break up with her and not date anybody else long term again, simply because it's not all I cracked it up to be and I miss my alone time. My routine....me. But I think that would be premature. I think I simply need to have my own space again in the near future so I can achieve the needed balance.
AncientBard
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Nothing makes me feel safe and secure. I really don't know what it feels like and now I feel really awkward based on everyone's posts 0.o
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SophiaGrace
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posting on forums makes me feel secure.
I know that's kind of pathetic.
I know that's kind of pathetic.
Lonesome Crow
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Might sound ood....but i have a friend. We had became each other' security blamket. We make contact everyday...wheather texting or a phone call. Sometimes we each make an excuse jsut to see each other. If only for a brieft moment . Somwtimes weLL hang out ,go shoping or just have dinner. Yeah we're kind of attached
SchemeDreamer
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If there's other people in the house, I have to be in my bedroom. If there's a lot of people in the house(parties, birthdays, Christmas) I have to barricade myself in my bedroom.
Apart from that I'm pretty much always on edge and nervous.
Apart from that I'm pretty much always on edge and nervous.
Broken_Doll
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I lock all doors and windows at night.
I cuddle a soft toy at night otherwise I can't sleep (only when I'm alone in my own bed).
I still suck my thumb in private, that's a secret.
Before I go to bed I check the windows and doors and make sure all of my animals are OK.
I hide under my duvet.
I make sure everything in my bedroom is where I think it should be, everything should be just so.
Stuff like that.
I cuddle a soft toy at night otherwise I can't sleep (only when I'm alone in my own bed).
I still suck my thumb in private, that's a secret.
Before I go to bed I check the windows and doors and make sure all of my animals are OK.
I hide under my duvet.
I make sure everything in my bedroom is where I think it should be, everything should be just so.
Stuff like that.
loketron
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evfan, aren't you in college now? and you have a teddy? lol
and for me its forgetting the world and cuddling up in my comforter and watching youtube on the cell phone to quite my head before bed.
im a poet and i didnt even know it!
and for me its forgetting the world and cuddling up in my comforter and watching youtube on the cell phone to quite my head before bed.
im a poet and i didnt even know it!
Marik_757
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Locking myself in my room ... Ha! =(
Naleena
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Sucking a thumb in the fetal position works really well....not that I know anything about that. **clears throat**
