Figured this would be an interesting topic and it's something that has been bothering me lately.
For me it's my brother. He's the one person who knows me better than anyone. Well, except for personal emotional things we don't always talk about stuff like that. He claims he never knows what to get me for Christmas, yet he should, I do (which has been really easy the past few years). There are times I see something and think, my brother would love that, and either I buy it right on the spot for him (if its not too expensive).
He never just offers to do anything nice either, and this goes back to like...forever. I can't think of one thing he's ever done just to do it. Like a couple years ago my boss gave me a 500 gift card to a store for Christmas (would have rather had the cash but meh) and while we were in this store shopping my brother found this leather jacket he really like but it was kind of pricey. Me, I'm thinking how am I ever going to use up this gift certificate up at this one store. So I offered to to get it for him using my gift certificate. He was happy I would do that, he did actually thank me. My mom made a real big deal about me doing that and made sure he thanked me. So my brother has a gift certificate to an electronics store and decides to buy a new printer. It came with a digital camera, my mom had bought him one for Christmas so he didn't need it. Our MOM had to suggest to him that he give it to me, since I did use my gift certificate to get him the jacket. He couldn't just say, here you can have this on his own. Even this year when I was showing my mom pictures of all the snow we got where I live, I showed my brother after. He made the comment about it being the camera HE GAVE ME. I quickly reminded him that yes it was the one MOM TOLD HIM to give me. I didn't even think of the leather jacket which was the cause of our mom doing that, which would have been pure icing if I had. But I don't do that, he does though.
For the past several years I've been buying him Xena DVD's from a web store since they were impossible to find around here. I sat down and searched for a place that would ship to Canada and wasn't Ebay. I know he waits every Christmas for the next season, he watches them all the time and even watched the finale season Christmas day on his computer (I was playing video games so he couldn't watch them on the tv ). When he was trying to figure out what to get me one year I had to mention about The Batman Animated Series season sets that were out. This year he should have known what video games I wanted because I made a point of mentioning them on occasion and how they haven't come down in price yet. I even pointed them out telling him which ones I wanted because I knew my mom would be paying for a few. When we got home and my mom asked me what I wanted I told her my brother knew. He said he didn't I just said I wanted that one, that one and that one. He paid no attention to which games they were. I had to write them down.
Just last week while I was visiting him, there is this web site we are both members of that has these "Quests" you can do and get points. He knows I was doing it, which was a 12 days of Christmas thing. The final two days I was at our moms. He was actually doing the quests and mentioned about it. Now its his computer and he pays for the internet but I figured I'd see if he'd offer to let me do them. He didn't. I even later asked if he knew how long it would be up for. He said he thinks they already took it down, didn't offer to check, didn't offer to let me go on and find out. Now I know, I could have just asked him but I ALWAYS have to ask him. He has NEVER just once let me, and when I do ask him he has to make this production out of it. He gives me his superior look (he's always been kind of bossy) and moans like it's such a big deal for him to get up out of his chair for a few minutes to let me use his computer and internet. It might sound silly but its just the principal of the thing, I get so sick of having to ask him and his attitude about it. I didn't even talk to him for a few days last week just because I was so mad at him for being like that. That did nothing, he didn't say anything.
Not long ago when we were Christmas shopping for our mom, we were trying to find a place that might have Elvis Presley ornaments, my mom is a big fan and we've bought them for like the past 10 years or more. The place we used to get them closed. I saw this awesome Batman ornament and commented on how cool it was. Does he buy it? No. I've done this a couple of times and nothing. One year I found this Marilyn Monroe ornament that was really well done, looked just like her, and at the time he had a think for her so I bought it. I've had to buy my own.
Every year I have to point out what I want for Christmas, and he's the one person who I should never have to. Now I do buy a lot of things myself but I buy stuff no one will buy me. My mom doesn't really go for all my interests, she just came around a year ago with video games and started buying them. But he knows what I like.
Even when I ask my brother for change when we are at the comic book shop, its not much and not like I don't have the money I just don't carry loose change in my pockets. I don't want to make the guy break a twenty so I'll ask my brother. He always has to make comments, like I owe him or what not. I have change in my car, not like he couldn't just get it back but he won't he just likes to hang it over my head. Like one time when he needed a few extra bucks so without him even asking I offer to cover it, cause I do owe him, and he has to say out loud, yeah you should after all the change I've used for you.
Several years ago there was this girl he went out with, she used to take the bus where he worked all the time. He went on one date with her and decided she wasn't for him. She was more into Star Wars and stuff like that. I'm not a Star Wars geek but that is right along my alley. I even said something to my mom once when I was talking to her about him. He could have easily told her that he had a brother that she'd be perfect for and hooked us up, but no. We're identical twins not like she would have noticed the difference (lol) just different personality.
I can't talk to him about it because he'd instantly get pissed off. He doesn't like people pointing out his flaws at all, no matter how you try to approach it. It just bothers me that he's like that, and he wonders why people call me the nice twin. He always lets me down, I have a hard time thinking of one really nice unexpected thing he's ever done. Out of anyone in my life he's the one who constantly lets me down, my own brother. Just yesterday one of the guys who used to work with me came in and brought me something. He saw a metal Batman picture that he knew I'd like (it was cheap thank god cause he didn't need to) but he bought it for me. It got me thinking even more on how my brother never does that, ever. Not that I expect a lot out of my brother, but just something, anything.
Holy crap I've rambled on, sorry about that just needed to get it all out. Man am I ever glad this site doesn't time out when you type a novel. LOL
For me it's my brother. He's the one person who knows me better than anyone. Well, except for personal emotional things we don't always talk about stuff like that. He claims he never knows what to get me for Christmas, yet he should, I do (which has been really easy the past few years). There are times I see something and think, my brother would love that, and either I buy it right on the spot for him (if its not too expensive).
He never just offers to do anything nice either, and this goes back to like...forever. I can't think of one thing he's ever done just to do it. Like a couple years ago my boss gave me a 500 gift card to a store for Christmas (would have rather had the cash but meh) and while we were in this store shopping my brother found this leather jacket he really like but it was kind of pricey. Me, I'm thinking how am I ever going to use up this gift certificate up at this one store. So I offered to to get it for him using my gift certificate. He was happy I would do that, he did actually thank me. My mom made a real big deal about me doing that and made sure he thanked me. So my brother has a gift certificate to an electronics store and decides to buy a new printer. It came with a digital camera, my mom had bought him one for Christmas so he didn't need it. Our MOM had to suggest to him that he give it to me, since I did use my gift certificate to get him the jacket. He couldn't just say, here you can have this on his own. Even this year when I was showing my mom pictures of all the snow we got where I live, I showed my brother after. He made the comment about it being the camera HE GAVE ME. I quickly reminded him that yes it was the one MOM TOLD HIM to give me. I didn't even think of the leather jacket which was the cause of our mom doing that, which would have been pure icing if I had. But I don't do that, he does though.
For the past several years I've been buying him Xena DVD's from a web store since they were impossible to find around here. I sat down and searched for a place that would ship to Canada and wasn't Ebay. I know he waits every Christmas for the next season, he watches them all the time and even watched the finale season Christmas day on his computer (I was playing video games so he couldn't watch them on the tv ). When he was trying to figure out what to get me one year I had to mention about The Batman Animated Series season sets that were out. This year he should have known what video games I wanted because I made a point of mentioning them on occasion and how they haven't come down in price yet. I even pointed them out telling him which ones I wanted because I knew my mom would be paying for a few. When we got home and my mom asked me what I wanted I told her my brother knew. He said he didn't I just said I wanted that one, that one and that one. He paid no attention to which games they were. I had to write them down.
Just last week while I was visiting him, there is this web site we are both members of that has these "Quests" you can do and get points. He knows I was doing it, which was a 12 days of Christmas thing. The final two days I was at our moms. He was actually doing the quests and mentioned about it. Now its his computer and he pays for the internet but I figured I'd see if he'd offer to let me do them. He didn't. I even later asked if he knew how long it would be up for. He said he thinks they already took it down, didn't offer to check, didn't offer to let me go on and find out. Now I know, I could have just asked him but I ALWAYS have to ask him. He has NEVER just once let me, and when I do ask him he has to make this production out of it. He gives me his superior look (he's always been kind of bossy) and moans like it's such a big deal for him to get up out of his chair for a few minutes to let me use his computer and internet. It might sound silly but its just the principal of the thing, I get so sick of having to ask him and his attitude about it. I didn't even talk to him for a few days last week just because I was so mad at him for being like that. That did nothing, he didn't say anything.
Not long ago when we were Christmas shopping for our mom, we were trying to find a place that might have Elvis Presley ornaments, my mom is a big fan and we've bought them for like the past 10 years or more. The place we used to get them closed. I saw this awesome Batman ornament and commented on how cool it was. Does he buy it? No. I've done this a couple of times and nothing. One year I found this Marilyn Monroe ornament that was really well done, looked just like her, and at the time he had a think for her so I bought it. I've had to buy my own.
Every year I have to point out what I want for Christmas, and he's the one person who I should never have to. Now I do buy a lot of things myself but I buy stuff no one will buy me. My mom doesn't really go for all my interests, she just came around a year ago with video games and started buying them. But he knows what I like.
Even when I ask my brother for change when we are at the comic book shop, its not much and not like I don't have the money I just don't carry loose change in my pockets. I don't want to make the guy break a twenty so I'll ask my brother. He always has to make comments, like I owe him or what not. I have change in my car, not like he couldn't just get it back but he won't he just likes to hang it over my head. Like one time when he needed a few extra bucks so without him even asking I offer to cover it, cause I do owe him, and he has to say out loud, yeah you should after all the change I've used for you.
Several years ago there was this girl he went out with, she used to take the bus where he worked all the time. He went on one date with her and decided she wasn't for him. She was more into Star Wars and stuff like that. I'm not a Star Wars geek but that is right along my alley. I even said something to my mom once when I was talking to her about him. He could have easily told her that he had a brother that she'd be perfect for and hooked us up, but no. We're identical twins not like she would have noticed the difference (lol) just different personality.
I can't talk to him about it because he'd instantly get pissed off. He doesn't like people pointing out his flaws at all, no matter how you try to approach it. It just bothers me that he's like that, and he wonders why people call me the nice twin. He always lets me down, I have a hard time thinking of one really nice unexpected thing he's ever done. Out of anyone in my life he's the one who constantly lets me down, my own brother. Just yesterday one of the guys who used to work with me came in and brought me something. He saw a metal Batman picture that he knew I'd like (it was cheap thank god cause he didn't need to) but he bought it for me. It got me thinking even more on how my brother never does that, ever. Not that I expect a lot out of my brother, but just something, anything.
Holy crap I've rambled on, sorry about that just needed to get it all out. Man am I ever glad this site doesn't time out when you type a novel. LOL