BornMisfit said:
I tried reading a few postings in this section, but it was too horrible. So much bitterness, neediness, and even hatred for the opposite sex. Why? Is it any wonder that you can't find a partner, or lose them, or they're bad to you or dump you? Some of the postings were from very scary disturbed people, and no-one decent would be attracted to someone like that, so why don't you try to change?
I totally expect that my posting will provoke a very confrontational reaction, but that's fine, as long as it makes you wonder about yourself for a second.
I spent years truly believing none of it was my fault and that I was just fine, and that it was the men who were all pig-dogs users and rotten. Then one day I 'woke up' and realised it really was me and my own outlook and attitude that was either putting decent men off, or driving them away, or making bad men want me, because I was a bitter needy doormat-mug; and that was MY fault not theirs. So I changed.
So I'm wondering whether any of you here have thought whether it's YOU who is the problem?
hi.
you said yourself that you think it will provoke a confrontational reaction.
YOU BET!
so please tell me, what makes you think, that if you criticize other people, especially with epithets such as " Some of the postings were from very scary disturbed people, and no-one decent would be attracted to someone like that, so why don't you try to change?" people would just accept it and say ok, fine, so i must be a creep, turn over and die.
to me - people like you are the real disturbed ones, people who think that just because they figured their own lives, everyone else must be wrong and sick for haven't yet figured out their own.
have you lived their lives?
have you any idea what they have gone through?
if not - i suggest that you be a bit kinder, and if someone bothers you - just ignore them. but please, keep your judgement to yourself.
i am happy that you have found your path.
please, just let everyone else find their own, and refrain from judging them until you have been through their lives.
Remedy said:
My posts can be very bitter and all that but I wouldn't call it disturbing so to say. Yet I don't put down people at all or the opposite sex, I just usually put down myself.I treat myself like I'm a piece of garbage and nothing more on here and when I'm alone. That isn't the way I come off as in public although I do never accept compliments out there. So I'm basically the complete opposite of how you were because I feel like everything that happens is my fault whether it be being to ugly or shy around people. Ya I agree that if someone has the same negative attitude when they are out in public they won't be able to find anyone.But this is a place to let out your frustrations and all that so people are just using this site for what it is for. Being alone for so long turns into an unbearable pain and you just have to release it by venting. Going without it for so long will make a person needy and bitter as hell its only natural. Everyone needs to love and be loved. I do understand though that you are definitely not going to find it being so bitter and needy but some people just can't help it you know? You were right in assuming that not all guys out there are pig headed jerks because I know I'm a great guy(at least from a kindness and trustworthy point of view) but I'm just overlooked all the time because people want that really hot person or overlook that really shy person. So in the end ya I guess I'm one of those bitter people but hey when people have treated you like garbage or treated you like you were to ugly all the time you would be the same way... Life just isn't fair and I know I want to love and be loved but when you get the same results you end up bitter.Human beings can be really cruel and it just changes a person overtime.
Hey dear.
i know why you see yourself as you do, although no, it's not true, by far.
from what i know you so far, you are one of the best, truest friends i have, and one of the best people i run into in my life.
and yes, in the end - this life is not fair, and good people get hurt way too much. i just wish you didn't see yourself so negatively
(hug)
i think you are right, that this is a place to vent, and to look for some understanding without judgement.
and people like OP should keep their twisted opinions to themselves.