This is something that I've always wondered about but it has never really been explained to me in any way that really makes sense.
First let me say that people in general don't usually approach me if they don't already know me. Then again, how does someone get to know someone in the first place. Despite the fact that I almost always feel like I'm always making the first move it is much more likely to me(based mostly on experience and others experience)that if someone were going to approach me it would be a man and not a woman. I don't mean in a social setting either necessarily nor do I mean in a flirty romantic way necessarily either. I just mean in general. I don't even think I've ever had a woman ask me the time or for directions or pretty much anything let alone talk to me first at a bar.
So what gives? Is it a shyness thing? A safety thing? A social conditioning thing? An evolutionary thing? Would it matter if I was Brad Pitt or some other celebrity? I know there are some situations like the rock star or celebrity thing where women might approach a man but is that it? I thought we were all equal human beings but maybe I'm wrong. And no, this isn't even so much a complaint as it is an observation. My curious mind is curious about social things and this is near the top of the list for me.
I'm just curious about this. I would like to hear opinions from both men and women.
Also, I know I'll get the response from some women on here that will go like "well I do approach men" or something. OK. Then why do I never meet women like you?
First let me say that people in general don't usually approach me if they don't already know me. Then again, how does someone get to know someone in the first place. Despite the fact that I almost always feel like I'm always making the first move it is much more likely to me(based mostly on experience and others experience)that if someone were going to approach me it would be a man and not a woman. I don't mean in a social setting either necessarily nor do I mean in a flirty romantic way necessarily either. I just mean in general. I don't even think I've ever had a woman ask me the time or for directions or pretty much anything let alone talk to me first at a bar.
So what gives? Is it a shyness thing? A safety thing? A social conditioning thing? An evolutionary thing? Would it matter if I was Brad Pitt or some other celebrity? I know there are some situations like the rock star or celebrity thing where women might approach a man but is that it? I thought we were all equal human beings but maybe I'm wrong. And no, this isn't even so much a complaint as it is an observation. My curious mind is curious about social things and this is near the top of the list for me.
I'm just curious about this. I would like to hear opinions from both men and women.
Also, I know I'll get the response from some women on here that will go like "well I do approach men" or something. OK. Then why do I never meet women like you?