Ymir
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(Yes I am aware I am one of them.)
I've been a bit inactive recently because life gets in the way and I've been far too drained to offer any advice to people, but I am back with this thread because something is frustrating me very much.
I have a very close friend. But she's getting on my nerves. She's been through a lot of honeysuckle recently regarding a traumatic event and the end of a long term romantic relationship just a couple of months after said event, in the shittiest way possible, and she's been slacking off a lot of school work. I get what's like to have shitty things happening so I tried to offer my support the best way I could, including slapping her name on group projects she did not help one bit to make.
But now she's slacking off school work for a boy who is a liar and completely gross. He told her that he only had eyes for her since the beginning when he had been hitting on me several weeks before; he also told her he didn't want anything serious and when she found someone for a brief period of time he spewed the classic "you used me" bullshit. Everyone thinks he's no good. I, personally, can't stand him for his behavior and the people he associates with (namely a guy who actually harrassed me and another friend of mine).
I am not the most emotional person out there. Takes me a lot of effort to have a close friendship with someone for years. And I'm on my breaking point with her slacking off work, defending a jerk and lying to me about distancing herself from him, instead of at least telling me the ******* truth.
I know she's in a bad place, but I just ******* wish she could see that getting a boyfriend is NOT going to solve the problem. Neither is putting her closest friendships at stake because of a dude who's with her just because she's the first who gave him some attention.
Honestly, I kinda just want to throw myself out of the face of Earth and completely give up on people because I'm really tired of seeing all my efforts go to waste again and again.
I've been a bit inactive recently because life gets in the way and I've been far too drained to offer any advice to people, but I am back with this thread because something is frustrating me very much.
I have a very close friend. But she's getting on my nerves. She's been through a lot of honeysuckle recently regarding a traumatic event and the end of a long term romantic relationship just a couple of months after said event, in the shittiest way possible, and she's been slacking off a lot of school work. I get what's like to have shitty things happening so I tried to offer my support the best way I could, including slapping her name on group projects she did not help one bit to make.
But now she's slacking off school work for a boy who is a liar and completely gross. He told her that he only had eyes for her since the beginning when he had been hitting on me several weeks before; he also told her he didn't want anything serious and when she found someone for a brief period of time he spewed the classic "you used me" bullshit. Everyone thinks he's no good. I, personally, can't stand him for his behavior and the people he associates with (namely a guy who actually harrassed me and another friend of mine).
I am not the most emotional person out there. Takes me a lot of effort to have a close friendship with someone for years. And I'm on my breaking point with her slacking off work, defending a jerk and lying to me about distancing herself from him, instead of at least telling me the ******* truth.
I know she's in a bad place, but I just ******* wish she could see that getting a boyfriend is NOT going to solve the problem. Neither is putting her closest friendships at stake because of a dude who's with her just because she's the first who gave him some attention.
Honestly, I kinda just want to throw myself out of the face of Earth and completely give up on people because I'm really tired of seeing all my efforts go to waste again and again.