I've been thinking a lot lately and I am still not sure about all this.
A bit of background. Been out with a fair number of girls in my life, but only had one serious girlfriend who I was with for two years. Things didn't work out with her for a number of reasons and after that I decided to take a break from females to sort of re-evaluate my life, focus on some things I wanted to do and generally figure things out.
It's been about a year now, and I've been out with a couple of girls very casually but that's about it. The problem is, even though there are some fun girls around there don't seem to be any who I would consider having a relationship with. I admit I am scared of getting hurt, and I see how most girls treat their guys and how their relationships go and well .... I don't want to put my time and energy into a girl who will get bored of me in a few months as soon as I start developing feelings and move onto the next guy as if I never existed. This seems to be the pattern most girls take, no break between relationships, no time to get over things, no emotional attachment just .... On your bike, don't like you anymore .... NEXT PLEASE!
I'm not the kind of guy who gets attached to girls quickly or easily, I do like to spend a bit of time getting to know someone before asking them out and try not to freak anyone out by being either too clingy or too sexual too soon, largely because what I really would like is someone who has some morals and is going to care about me. Basically, I just be myself and try to keep it all laid back and see how it goes even though at times my mind races ahead of me trying to figure out what women are thinking and second guess where things are going.
So seriously, is it worth trying to find a decent girl or should I just write women off as mindless amusements and aim to bed them all with no regard for emotions or love or anything like that? I don't think this would come naturally to me, but I would rather that than play a game with the odds stacked completely against me.
A bit of background. Been out with a fair number of girls in my life, but only had one serious girlfriend who I was with for two years. Things didn't work out with her for a number of reasons and after that I decided to take a break from females to sort of re-evaluate my life, focus on some things I wanted to do and generally figure things out.
It's been about a year now, and I've been out with a couple of girls very casually but that's about it. The problem is, even though there are some fun girls around there don't seem to be any who I would consider having a relationship with. I admit I am scared of getting hurt, and I see how most girls treat their guys and how their relationships go and well .... I don't want to put my time and energy into a girl who will get bored of me in a few months as soon as I start developing feelings and move onto the next guy as if I never existed. This seems to be the pattern most girls take, no break between relationships, no time to get over things, no emotional attachment just .... On your bike, don't like you anymore .... NEXT PLEASE!
I'm not the kind of guy who gets attached to girls quickly or easily, I do like to spend a bit of time getting to know someone before asking them out and try not to freak anyone out by being either too clingy or too sexual too soon, largely because what I really would like is someone who has some morals and is going to care about me. Basically, I just be myself and try to keep it all laid back and see how it goes even though at times my mind races ahead of me trying to figure out what women are thinking and second guess where things are going.
So seriously, is it worth trying to find a decent girl or should I just write women off as mindless amusements and aim to bed them all with no regard for emotions or love or anything like that? I don't think this would come naturally to me, but I would rather that than play a game with the odds stacked completely against me.