Would you marry a pornstar???
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TheSkaFish
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No, for a number of reasons.
I'd have a hard time trusting them for one thing. And also, just the number of people they've been with - who have themselves also been with a lot of people - would make me scared of diseases. And it's just not pleasant thinking about how many other people have been in there. I'd wonder if I'm always being compared (and falling short), and to me it's just kinda icky. I don't expect any partners I have to have never been with anyone before me, it's just not reasonable or realistic, in modern times and at my age. But it doesn't mean I'm happy about it. It just is what it is, there's nothing I can do about it.
But probably the biggest reason is that if they were a porn star, then we are incompatible in the first place, because it means they are much more of a risk-taker, reckless, and into being dark/offensive/edgy, rebellious, and vulgar/lewd and crude, than I am. Also it just seems like attention-seeking behavior, and I've never been like that, myself.
I mean, I'm not like, completely puritan and prudish, but it's just too much.
I don't understand the risks some people take in life, it seems stupid to me, like, are you trying to get yourself sick and/or killed? Do you really not care what happens to you at all, if you live or die? I don't get it.
I also think that a lot of people find it easy to say that they don't care what happens to them, or care about anything, out of some kind of idea of being "tough" or "cool" and romanticizing risk. But when their luck runs out, I think that facade falls away, and they wish they hadn't gotten themselves into something they won't be able to fix, and it didn't have to be that way either. That could apply to anything, btw - porn/other sex work, drugs, crime, war, etc.
And they would probably see me as weak, boring, not a "real man", etc. I can't see someone like that falling for me.
I guess this is one thing that makes me seem boring to people though. Because I'm naturally risk-averse and not very edgy/don't have much of a drive to shock or antagonize, people think it means I'm afraid of life, a prude, and have "no personality". I don't know.
I'd have a hard time trusting them for one thing. And also, just the number of people they've been with - who have themselves also been with a lot of people - would make me scared of diseases. And it's just not pleasant thinking about how many other people have been in there. I'd wonder if I'm always being compared (and falling short), and to me it's just kinda icky. I don't expect any partners I have to have never been with anyone before me, it's just not reasonable or realistic, in modern times and at my age. But it doesn't mean I'm happy about it. It just is what it is, there's nothing I can do about it.
But probably the biggest reason is that if they were a porn star, then we are incompatible in the first place, because it means they are much more of a risk-taker, reckless, and into being dark/offensive/edgy, rebellious, and vulgar/lewd and crude, than I am. Also it just seems like attention-seeking behavior, and I've never been like that, myself.
I mean, I'm not like, completely puritan and prudish, but it's just too much.
I don't understand the risks some people take in life, it seems stupid to me, like, are you trying to get yourself sick and/or killed? Do you really not care what happens to you at all, if you live or die? I don't get it.
I also think that a lot of people find it easy to say that they don't care what happens to them, or care about anything, out of some kind of idea of being "tough" or "cool" and romanticizing risk. But when their luck runs out, I think that facade falls away, and they wish they hadn't gotten themselves into something they won't be able to fix, and it didn't have to be that way either. That could apply to anything, btw - porn/other sex work, drugs, crime, war, etc.
And they would probably see me as weak, boring, not a "real man", etc. I can't see someone like that falling for me.
I guess this is one thing that makes me seem boring to people though. Because I'm naturally risk-averse and not very edgy/don't have much of a drive to shock or antagonize, people think it means I'm afraid of life, a prude, and have "no personality". I don't know.
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TheRealCallie
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I would consider an EX porn star, but not a current one.
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Interesting. As long as the kids don't find out what Mum does for a living. That would be my main concern videos at school and the like.
Actually jumping the gun a bit before having kids I suppose performing in bed would be an issue,you'd have to be good at it.
Actually jumping the gun a bit before having kids I suppose performing in bed would be an issue,you'd have to be good at it.
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What she said.
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If he is an ex porn star or a current erotic movie actor, it's okay but it would be very embarrassing to tell what is he doing for living to my mother and other relatives or friends. I would just say he is an actor. However, I wouldn't date with a current porn star.
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You are your choices, even the ones you made in the past. I think that this particular profession or a history of it would disqualify them for me personally. Their views regarding intimacy and privacy would inevitably be in conflict with mine, I couldn't imagine how they wouldn't be.
i dont know if id marry a pornstar. but if my wife sleeps with another man, i wont get mad, after all love is not jealous, tho i'd prefer her not to sleep with another man. if she had a child with anther man tho, that be a different strory. i dont think id want her to have a child wuth another man,
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That's a lot of judging of a whole profession.
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No I wouldn't do it. Only because she slept with so many people.
Might sound like a contradiction but I will not judge her for being a pornstar or an ex pornstar as people are brought up into tragic circumstances and sometimes they will do anything to stay afloat.
I just couldn't marry one. I'd be friends with one though.
Might sound like a contradiction but I will not judge her for being a pornstar or an ex pornstar as people are brought up into tragic circumstances and sometimes they will do anything to stay afloat.
I just couldn't marry one. I'd be friends with one though.
Funny how times change . . .
My grandfather would have been shocked if a man let his wife work outside the home, my father would have been shocked if a man married a woman he knew wasn't a virgin . . .
I don't particularly have a problem with the thought of being in a non-monogamous relationship.
I would expect most of them to be childish and self-involved (more interested in getting attention than in actual sexuality), but I'd give them a chance to prove me wrong.
My grandfather would have been shocked if a man let his wife work outside the home, my father would have been shocked if a man married a woman he knew wasn't a virgin . . .
I don't particularly have a problem with the thought of being in a non-monogamous relationship.
I would expect most of them to be childish and self-involved (more interested in getting attention than in actual sexuality), but I'd give them a chance to prove me wrong.
