AnonymousMe
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Hey everyone, I got curious about something and I just want to know what you all think.
I know I’ve said this before, but I have a feeling that if I don’t state it again, no one will understand me. When I dropped out of College, I gave up on dating altogether; I don’t bother in seeking mates anymore, because I know I don’t fulfill enough qualities to be a boyfriend, nevertheless I still have the foolish hope of someone confessing that they like me. I’ve always thought that that would be my way out of loneliness, like someone rescuing me, so to speak, it’s extremely rare for such event to happen, but hey, you never know.
However, yesterday I thought about what could really happen if I find myself in such situation: I think I would actually reject the proposal. If there is someone out there that actually finds me attractive, it’ll make me EXTREMELY happy, but for their sake, there is no way I would allow anyone to date me. People generally seek that special someone who will spend the rest of their lives with, the problem is that I’m probably someone without a proper future. I see it as very dim, poor, desperate and even dangerous if the wrong decisions are made, even if I try to give it my all in anything to have a brighter future, I still don’t have too much faith in myself, I know my strengths and weaknesses and unfortunately, my weaknesses outweigh my strengths. So instead of wasting their time, I could simply tell that I’m not worth their time and that they deserve someone better. There are some stubborn enough in believing that the relationship could work out if they try to help, but it is a very big gamble, I would not allow them to take the risk, honestly… unless if they don’t mind living a cheap life.
I’ve always thought that I don’t want to be in my deathbed thinking that I couldn’t do even one of the most basic things about life, that having at least one partner in my entire life would be enough for me to die happily. I generally don’t care about people and their problems, but when I get involved in their lives, too bad I care about them more than myself; I am someone who disappoints the majority of times after all and I don’t want people reminding me that and me reminding it to them.
So, I wonder everyone, I don’t know how you all feel about getting a girlfriend or a boyfriend, it is a lonely forum, so I assume a lot of you want a significant other, but when someone confesses to you, what would you do? Knowing your circumstances and possible future, would you reject or accept the proposal?
I know I’ve said this before, but I have a feeling that if I don’t state it again, no one will understand me. When I dropped out of College, I gave up on dating altogether; I don’t bother in seeking mates anymore, because I know I don’t fulfill enough qualities to be a boyfriend, nevertheless I still have the foolish hope of someone confessing that they like me. I’ve always thought that that would be my way out of loneliness, like someone rescuing me, so to speak, it’s extremely rare for such event to happen, but hey, you never know.
However, yesterday I thought about what could really happen if I find myself in such situation: I think I would actually reject the proposal. If there is someone out there that actually finds me attractive, it’ll make me EXTREMELY happy, but for their sake, there is no way I would allow anyone to date me. People generally seek that special someone who will spend the rest of their lives with, the problem is that I’m probably someone without a proper future. I see it as very dim, poor, desperate and even dangerous if the wrong decisions are made, even if I try to give it my all in anything to have a brighter future, I still don’t have too much faith in myself, I know my strengths and weaknesses and unfortunately, my weaknesses outweigh my strengths. So instead of wasting their time, I could simply tell that I’m not worth their time and that they deserve someone better. There are some stubborn enough in believing that the relationship could work out if they try to help, but it is a very big gamble, I would not allow them to take the risk, honestly… unless if they don’t mind living a cheap life.
I’ve always thought that I don’t want to be in my deathbed thinking that I couldn’t do even one of the most basic things about life, that having at least one partner in my entire life would be enough for me to die happily. I generally don’t care about people and their problems, but when I get involved in their lives, too bad I care about them more than myself; I am someone who disappoints the majority of times after all and I don’t want people reminding me that and me reminding it to them.
So, I wonder everyone, I don’t know how you all feel about getting a girlfriend or a boyfriend, it is a lonely forum, so I assume a lot of you want a significant other, but when someone confesses to you, what would you do? Knowing your circumstances and possible future, would you reject or accept the proposal?