How many people over 20 are still virgins?

[niceguysfinishlast]

20 and still a virgin.

 

[Shrimp]

23 and never kissed a girl.

 

[boonieghoul]

I was so isolated and cut off from relationships that I was a virgin until I was 50. Upon moving to Saint John, I had three encounters in fairly quick succession: the first was just the first, the second was as dull as beige wallpaper, and the third was like being raped by a woodchuck. In all honesty, I should have stayed away from all three. A guy can only handle so much outside weird, when he's already up to the eyeballs in inside weird.

 

[Xpendable]

27. Doesn't seem to go anywhere.

 

[No_Nickname]

I've always thought it silly to complain about being a virgin, when it's so easy to get laid.

Guys: save up some cash and hire an escort.

Girls: go to a bar and find a really desperate guy.

It probably won't be great sex, but at least you'll pop your cherry.

If the thought of losing your virginity to a relative stranger sounds unappealing, then you're probably in the "saving myself for the right person" mindset. If the right person hasn't entered your life yet, then this isn't a virginity problem - it's a sign that you need to get a new life.

 

[ardour]

I've always thought it silly to complain about being a virgin, when it's so easy to get laid.

Guys: save up some cash and hire an escort.

It's unfulfilling, it takes more than a physical act. Don't need that on our consciences any way.

There seems to be a bit of a theme here, like you're involved in the sex industry somehow.

 

[No_Nickname]

It's unfulfilling, it takes more than a physical act.

If your only concern is that you haven't had your dick wet, then it seems a rather straight-forward solution.

Don't need that on our consciences any way.

Switch your conscience off. Dick. Wet. Problem solved, repent later. If it's a relationship you want, then virginity isn't your problem (more likely, it's a symptom).

There seems to be a bit of a theme here, like you're involved in the sex industry somehow.

I'll be honest, I'm wrestling with the decision to go see an escort. On the one hand: dick, wet. On the other hand: it's expensive, I struggle with time limits, she may fake it, she may dislike me (same as every other girl in existence), and it still won't help me get over that horrible fling I had two years ago.

 

[user 115627]

If your only concern is that you haven't had your dick wet, then it seems a rather straight-forward solution.

If you prefer to see it that pragmatically for yourself, you'd be better off saving your money for a sex doll or a fleshlight I presume.

Switch your conscience off. Dick. Wet. Problem solved, repent later. If it's a relationship you want, then virginity isn't your problem (more likely, it's a symptom).

I think that desire does exist independent from the whole relationship business. People would just like their first time to be more meaningful than a one-night-stand or an escort visit. Whether it's healthy to have your own devirginization that high on your bucket list is written on a different page.

Sloppy analogy incoming: When you plan to have ice cream for the first time, you'd prefer it not to be watered sludge stuffed with flavor enhancers.

PS: Still a virgin here...not that it matters.

 

[No_Nickname]

If you prefer to see it that pragmatically for yourself, you'd be better off saving your money for a sex doll or a fleshlight I presume.

Ew. Sex toys are just gross. If you're gonna spend money, at least get the real thing.

PS: Still a virgin here...not that it matters.

Spoiler: Sex isn't that great. Well, it wasn't for me. I didn't feel like I'd accomplished anything. If anything, I think nailing that girl lowered my partner count.

 

[user 115627]

Ew. Sex toys are just gross. If you're gonna spend money, at least get the real thing.

Not so much of a pragmatist after all...but fair enough. I just looked at the economic advantage.

Spoiler: Sex isn't that great. Well, it wasn't for me. I didn't feel like I'd accomplished anything. If anything, I think nailing that girl lowered my partner count.

Well...if it isn't all that great, why did you post this in the "So what do you want, RIGHT NOW?" thread then?

SEX.

But I suppose I might know the answer already. Even if you don't accomplish anything, it still provides satisfaction of certain needs.

 

[No_Nickname]

Not so much of a pragmatist after all...but fair enough. I just looked at the economic advantage.

Economically, you should just use your hand. Or, save the time and effort, stuff some toilet paper in your underwear and let the wet dreams do it for you. However, since none of those substitute actual sex, the money saved is irrelevant.

Spoiler: Sex isn't that great. Well, it wasn't for me. I didn't feel like I'd accomplished anything. If anything, I think nailing that girl lowered my partner count.

Well...if it isn't all that great, why did you post this in the "So what do you want, RIGHT NOW?" thread then?

Who wants to go through life having banged a negative number of people?

 

[user 115627]

Economically, you should just use your hand. Or, save the time and effort, stuff some toilet paper in your underwear and let the wet dreams do it for you. However, since none of those substitute actual sex, the money saved is irrelevant.

Fair enough. It was the compromise between economy and realistic feel in my head.

Who wants to go through life having banged a negative number of people?

You are entitled to your way of accounting. But in the grand scheme of things, I hope people got or find better things to worry about than how often they scored in life...

 

[No_Nickname]

I hope people got or find better things to worry about than how often they scored in life...

But if you don't score, how will you win?

 

[ladyforsaken]

I hope people got or find better things to worry about than how often they scored in life...

But if you don't score, how will you win?

Why does scoring many numbers in sex such a big deal? I can never get this.

 

[user 115627]

I hope people got or find better things to worry about than how often they scored in life...

But if you don't score, how will you win?

 

[TheRealCallie]

Sex means more to some people than just "getting your dick wet."

 

[TheSkaFish]

Why does scoring many numbers in sex such a big deal? I can never get this.

I have never really understood it myself. The only way I could possibly get it would be about variety, like if you find different combinations of traits attractive that are not all found in one person. But that isn't necessarily about numbers.

No, I definitely think this is one area of life where quality is far better than quantity. I've only ever wanted a relationship with one fantastic person.

 

[Ginock]

I am not going to lie, I am still a virgin at 32 which I know in today society is very old indeed and many would see me as having something wrong with me, maybe there is, maybe I am fundimentaly undateable as it were.

I think half of the problem is I simply don't care, now that is not to suggest I could walk into a club and "pull" more that it's just not important to me, I have friends, I have art, I have my health and honestly? I think I would be far to paranoid and neurotic, the last girl I thought anything sexual may happen with is someone I am frankly happy nothing ever happened with anyway.

So yeah that's me, by all means mock me

 

[user 115627]

I am not going to lie, I am still a virgin at 32 which I know in today society is very old indeed and many would see me as having something wrong with me, maybe there is, maybe I am fundimentaly undateable as it were.

I think half of the problem is I simply don't care, now that is not to suggest I could walk into a club and "pull" more that it's just not important to me, I have friends, I have art, I have my health and honestly? I think I would be far to paranoid and neurotic, the last girl I thought anything sexual may happen with is someone I am frankly happy nothing ever happened with anyway.

So yeah that's me, by all means mock me

Not at all. I feel more inclined to applaud you for remaining level-headed about the matter at that age. Any given day, I'd gladly throw my drink into the faces of people who think there's any justification to mock virgins.

 

[ardour]

I am not going to lie, I am still a virgin at 32 which I know in today society is very old indeed and many would see me as having something wrong with me, maybe there is, maybe I am fundimentaly undateable as it were.

I think half of the problem is I simply don't care, now that is not to suggest I could walk into a club and "pull" more that it's just not important to me, I have friends, I have art, I have my health and honestly? I think I would be far to paranoid and neurotic, the last girl I thought anything sexual may happen with is someone I am frankly happy nothing ever happened with anyway.

So yeah that's me, by all means mock me

Okay, good for you. Really.

There's a certain level of dignity, even pride, in staying a virgin if you happen to be blessed with average and above looks, and have other things going on in life. It says you have standards and aren't willing to compromise.

But for those who feel themselves to be profoundly unlikeable, unattractive, undesirable, it's a different story.