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Well said, and I agree with you. Thanks for posting it. :)

This is all really interesting to me... I'm just curious about what kinds of things Sigma and Rosebolt hate about the Netherlands. I've always thought of it as a country that seems to have a lot going for it - universal health care, help for the disadvantaged, progressive attitudes, etc. If you...

Yes, I know how you feel. I usually try to avoid any kind of negotiating if I can. I like it when things are simple and clear-cut. In fact, I often feel kind of nervous, or at least slightly uncomfortable, dealing with service people in general (cashiers, hair stylists, etc.) That looks like a...

WallflowerGirl83 - Thanks for your supportive words. Actually, the work part of my job really isn't too stressful; the main problem is some of the manipulative and dishonest people I've had to work with. But I'm working on ways to be able to co-exist better with them, while at the same time...

Yes, I've seen that as well. It's actually a big gripe I have with people. In a strange way it almost seems like excessive self-consciousness and excessive arrogance are sort of co-existing in society, sometimes in the same person. Maybe they're sort of "opposite sides of the same coin" or...

Yes, I think that's the right direction to move in. Often the people who judge you harshly don't really care that much about you to begin with. A lot of times they don't even really know you. If you change yourself to suit them, why would they care if that involves giving up some part of...

Do you ever notice just how much time and energy you spend worrying about what other people think about you? I've never thought of myself as overly "superficial" or whatever, and I tend to believe strongly that people should just "be themselves," but when I stop to notice my own thinking it just...

Peaches - Your question kind of made me think of this quote I read once from Confucius: "Men's natures are alike, it is their habits that carry them far apart." I don't know how relevant that actually is to your question, but it's what came to mind for me (I apologize if I'm not as coherent...

I thought those were really good. The raw emotion comes through so clearly. I think my favorite was probably "Without a Word." I can relate to what you're saying about reaching for things that you hope will help you escape the desolation you feel, only to end up being left "bare." Here's a poem...

Alonewith2cats - Yes, I live alone as well. And my home is also empty every night (mine's an apartment, though). It's not always quiet, but they aren't the kinds of sounds you really want to hear (people walking, noise down through the ceiling, etc.) Depression: Yes. I've already gone the...

So I go through the day, trying to get things done, and succeeding or not to varying degrees. Nighttime comes and I get ready to "settle in" for the evening, etc. But there's a problem. I can't go to bed. It's just this feeling of incompleteness, like I can't give up the day yet. I check to...

Where would the fun in that be, though? :D No, that's interesting, actually, the idea of getting a massage fully clothed. That hadn't occurred to me before. I think I would probably want to go for some "skin on skin," though.

This service is starting to sound more and more appealing :P. I guess it could potentially have other benefits for me as well, as I definitely tend to be on the shy side (would I be "lonely" if I weren't?). Even though, as I said, I really enjoyed the brief little scalp massage I got from the...

A book I read not too long ago told the story of a woman (this was a true story, not fictional) who was really lonely, unable to find a relationship, etc. One of the suggestions the guy who wrote the book (which wasn't specifically about loneliness) had for her was to get massages from time to...

I like them! Good abstract stuff.

Do you struggle to connect? Yes. Don't feel part of the group? Yes. Others can annoy you easily? Yes. Feel people are trying to dominate you from the outset? Yes. Often feel on a totally different wavelength to others? Yes. All of those things are a big part of why I'm on this site. I think...

For me the biggest difference between people who seem "confident" and people who don't seems to be how comfortable they are with themselves. People who lack confidence tend to be more anxious and worried about how people might be seeing them, which tends to cause the exact things they're trying...

Who is the person, or people, who is/are giving you so much s*** about your appearance? From what you've said, their hypercritical attitude kind of makes them look like the one(s) with the problem. If it's just one person, you might do some assessing to try and decide if this is someone you...

I remember a while ago there was this one stylist where I get my hair cut that would do a really, really good job of washing my hair before she cut it. She would take her time, get the water temperature just right, and apply just the right amount of pressure when she washed my hair. Then she...