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1.) The part about not having friends is a big, big issue. Bigger than most people think. You definitely need to have some friends and a social life outside your relationship. Even if it's just once a week, watching a game at your buddy's house (or whatever you like to do). Making friends...

There are free hotlines you can call if you need to talk to someone immediately. Look on the internet for a few minutes, you will find dozens. Some are better than others. I have found these to be helpful in times of personal crisis, but they only solve the immediate problem of needing someone...

I'm of two opposing schools of thought on this issue: A.) If you REALLY can't see yourself putting up with her as a partner for any length fo time...then you should be honest with her, let her down lightly, don't be a jerk, but just tell her you aren't interested. Maybe you can become friends...

1.) If you think you're in the Friend Zone, you're probably in the Friend Zone. I say just roll the dice, make a move. Worst comes to worst she rejects you. Then you can just say, "I'm really sorry." It may change the friendship a little bit, but you want her as a Girlfriend, not just a friend...

At some point, usually 3 to 6 months into a relationship, I always find myself getting bored and frustrated with the person. It has nothing to do with sex; I have no trouble with monogamy. It's more of a mental thing. I get bored with the person's mind. I'm in my early 30s, and every...

If you're thinking that, then maybe you haven't properly "bonded" with your therapist. I know that phrase, in and of itself, sounds creepy. However, as someone who's had a half dozen therapists over the past 20 years. I can tell you that sometimes you are like oil and water: you just don't...

Neo: make an appointment and go see a therapist ASAP. You will be so glad you did. It's not going to fix all of your problems, but therapy is a great way to get an outside perspective on your life and help you work through some of your issues. I've been in therapy on and off since I was 12 years...

Hahaha...I don't know! It's still a work in progress. Finding the right person helps, too...

I know what you mean. Every girlfriend of mine has told me, at some point: "You're a different person than when we met." My guess is, you're not too complex to be loved. If you're a functioning member of society, I'm sure there's someone out there for you. Maybe you are the one who needs to...

Man, I have been in your shoes before twice with different girls who were big drinkers, both of whom were very attractive and very flirty when drunk. A few things: A.) In my opinion, drinking/drugs/partying is one area where two people need to be on the same page. If she's a big drinker and...

Wow...lots of stuff to think about here. But first of all, Cool Breeze, don't get down on Love. Love can be a complex thing. And like ShybutHi says, it can take time to develop. I have had relationship after relationship with nice people who were good partners, but I always ended up leaving...

Spare makes some really good points above. And all of you "nice guys" out there should read a book called "No More Mr. Nice Guy," by Robert Glover. I've recommended it to many of my friends, even my father. Personally, it really helped me realize that a lot of my problems with women were due to...

I have no problem with it as long as--like Callie said--it's done in a tasteful way that is mindful of others who might be around. I think it's actually kind of heartwarming to see a couple in love, being affectionate with each other. Personally, I've always been a pretty "touchy" person, with...

That makes a lot of sense, actually. thank you.

Dude...this is a classic scenario of Depression. If you don't watch out, the sleeping will lead to some real problems. In fact, they used to call depression "sleeping sickness." I've been through this in my life. The only thing that helped me was a.) opening up to the people in my life, b.)...

Got to agree with most of what's been said here. Sounds like what she really wants is a safe source of sex & companionship (you) while she goes out and sluts it up. Which is great...for her. For you...not so good. The best thing to do is dump her ass. Release her into the waters of singledom...

I'm 31 and live in the midwest. About 2 or 3 months ago I broke up with my girlfriend (for the second time, but the first breakup was v. brief). I was okay for the first three weeks, but then I started to regret it and have been miserable ever since. The weird thing is, I'm usually not an...

You know, people do all sorts of weird stuff that we can't explain. Maybe he had something else going on in his life, or maybe there are a million other possibilities that you'll never know of. You can't dwell on this, or else you'll drive yourself crazy. Honestly, the best thing you can do is...

I agree with Hijodeganas in that you're overly focused on this girl. There are lots of other nice ones out there, remember. However, if you like her, definitely try and establish a "new" relationship with her individually and outside of the group. Get her out on a lunch or coffee date and maybe...

I'm 31, and live in the midwest U.S. I ended a relationship about 2.5 months ago. I was the one who left, and I was okay with it for a few weeks, but now I'm really regretting it and feeling depressed/lonely. Weird thing is, I'm not usually a "lonely" person, even when I am alone. I have a job...