HannahJocelyn
Member
I have BEEN the victim in the past and now my feet are stuck in it (the past). I catch myself feeling sorry for myself a lot or using my past as an excuse. I really, really hate it and it's making me absolutely despise myself. I read somewhere that when you catch yourself thinking things like that among other thoughts you don't want (insecure thoughts, etc), you should try to watch them go by like clouds and move on. I try to do this and it does work sometimes, but it's really hard to be disciplined and also catch myself in the act. Are there any tips to becoming less selfish in that regard? To help me feel less "victimized"? I just want to look forward at my future and feel confident that it'll be great. I also don't want people to have the impression of me as being self-pitying because I know I'm so much more than that.