BeardPerson
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So, thought I'd ask here as my own abilities to judge human behavior are woefully lacking.
Now, I'm going into my final year at university and as of this stage have done very little in the way of making friends - there's some people I'd say hello to if I bumped into them, but none I'd be able to actually meet up with.
I spent much of this summer doing a studentship where, much to my surprise, I made friends with a fellow student, even being invited over her house a few times for tea and such. Then, of course, the studentship ended and I'm back to sitting on my own and staring at walls.
I've tried to keep contact with this person with the occasional message back and forth (although I haven't been able to engage them in a proper conversation). A couple of days ago I raised meeting up, they went along with it at first, but suddenly stopped messaging. What do I do? I mean, I badly want to meet up because loneliness sucks, but the last thing I want in this to be another person I pester and flap at until they leave. It'd be something just to have them as a friend and I truly don't want to risk that. Then mix in the fact that I worry because I'm awful at even managing conversations (many a person I've alienated with awkward silences) and I worry that if they don't really want to meet it will inevitably go badly.
So...It could just be a missed text, or them politely saying no. I'm quite aware that I'm blowing all out of proportion, but that's what I inevitably do. Thoughts?
Now, I'm going into my final year at university and as of this stage have done very little in the way of making friends - there's some people I'd say hello to if I bumped into them, but none I'd be able to actually meet up with.
I spent much of this summer doing a studentship where, much to my surprise, I made friends with a fellow student, even being invited over her house a few times for tea and such. Then, of course, the studentship ended and I'm back to sitting on my own and staring at walls.
I've tried to keep contact with this person with the occasional message back and forth (although I haven't been able to engage them in a proper conversation). A couple of days ago I raised meeting up, they went along with it at first, but suddenly stopped messaging. What do I do? I mean, I badly want to meet up because loneliness sucks, but the last thing I want in this to be another person I pester and flap at until they leave. It'd be something just to have them as a friend and I truly don't want to risk that. Then mix in the fact that I worry because I'm awful at even managing conversations (many a person I've alienated with awkward silences) and I worry that if they don't really want to meet it will inevitably go badly.
So...It could just be a missed text, or them politely saying no. I'm quite aware that I'm blowing all out of proportion, but that's what I inevitably do. Thoughts?