Am I alone? Yes; Do I need relationships? Not necessarily

[Olde shoe]

Having been alone since my teenage years, I feel that I can say that I've probably been though the whole gamut of negative emotions.

Now that I'm 31, I have to say that the recent years haven't been so bad. I've become less social, less lonely and most interestingly without a hint of somberness

I know that a lot of people would cry "Bull" on what I've just stated.

I'm quite happy that I've achieved happiness and contentment in my situation, when previously, it was a whole different story. --I'm just speaking for myself.

I think it's awesome to get over all the negative feelings. I feel that I've reached my goal...but of course only time will prove if I'm right or wrong but for now, I lavish in my small victory.

I hope that to those of you who have been struggling with loneliness (With valid reason) for so long could attain some form of peace after all of the heartache and loneliness.

 

[Acquisition]

I am in a similar place as you. I think it comes with mellowing out with age and maybe even growing a bit wiser.

Sure I would like a positive relationship, but it isn't the focus of my life. I think once you've accumulated enough BS with negative relationships and worrying about it all you realize it isn't worth it.

I don't know if any of this is a "goal", but more a process of, well just living better. I mean feeling negative, lonely, depressed for a while doesn't negate that you're living better and feeling better all the time before the episode.

Anyways, what you are doing is working so celebrate. Cheers!

 

[VanillaCreme]

Aging and gaining wisdom indeed. I don't need a relationship either. And I'm at a point where I'd rather not be bothered by one. I believe, though, that good things come to those who wait, and who have the patience to learn how to be alone first. I think once someone learns to do that, they will be able to share their life with someone else.

 

[shysilhouette]

Essentially, your post seems to suggest that you have been lonely for so long your mind has conditioned itself into believing you do not need relationships.

I'm glad you're happier now, but don't become numb!

 

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[AFrozenSoul]

Always glad to know people can overcome their feelings.

 

[himme]

Well lonely... Is it when you don't have a lot of friends or a few family members or those ppl around you are fake...?
I never felt me lonely even though I had NO frens ( fake ones yeah). I have only one person in my life. Strange isn't it? But recently I'm in totally different world, where so many ppl have so many ppl.... And I stared to feel myself...
I had never the feeling of being lonely, now I feel something but I cannot say it's a loneliness!

 

[Solitary]

Yep... Thoughts like these often come into my mind. And I want to believe them so much. I'm always trying to see the good side of being alone, and it really exists, at least for me. But there comes a time when it's not enough, and I feel that something is missing. I see several ways this can play out. First, I may learn to deal with it, just like you did. And I really mean deal with it, not just make myself believe that I'm happy with what I've got. Secondly, I may actually get several satisfying relationships. Or I will remain in the phase in which I am right now. Which is that I have managed to raise such incredible standarts for those percieved 'good relationships' that it may very well be possible that no such thing exists. And so I will get the 'satisfaction' of living in constant longing for something which is not real. And from my point of view it is more bearable since it eliminates all responsibility that I may have, because no matter what actions could be done, it will not resolve the fact that the non-existent thing which I want is, well... Non-existent.

****, it always end up like this. I get carried away and forget that this thread is not all about me, actually

So anyway, I think it's great that you have managed to truly get over these negative aspects of loneliness. It is very rewarding for an individual, as I have verified myself in those moments when I felt content with myself. I hope that your small victory will turn out to be not so small.

 

[serenity107]

I congratulate you on finding contentment with your status. I wish I could find the same satisfaction.