Deal breaker questions

[devaughnclyde]

^^^Well, seeing as how women dressing in men's clothing is generally acceptable in society, yes. It wouldn't bother me too much. In fact, it would be a bit of a turn on to see her wearing my pajama pants or shirts or something. lol

Would you date someone who sells drugs (either as a hobby or for a living)?

Selling drugs is illegal and people who sell them are criminals. If drugs were legal, I would have no problem dating a drug dealer because in that circumstance, she would not be a criminal.

What will you do if you find out that your husband/wife cheated on you?


"When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on."
how to divorce

 

[Ladysphinx]

If it is the first time and not an affair, I'll try and save my marraige, if it happens a second time or an affair, I'd kick he's butt to the curb. But I told my hubby that there are no second chances, and he knows that I tend to make good on my threats. I will move out for a few weeks though just to prove my point. But after 10 yrs of marriage and working through many issues I think it's worth fighting for, especially if you know he does really love you.

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If it is the first time and not an affair, I'll try and save my marraige, if it happens a second time or an affair, I'd kick he's butt to the curb. But I told my hubby that there are no second chances, and he knows that I tend to make good on my threats. I will move out for a few weeks though just to prove my point. But after 10 yrs of marriage and working through many issues I think it's worth fighting for, especially if you know he does really love you.

Will you take back an ex that as made it clear that they still care for you very much, if the relatioship didn't hold the first time because of imuturety?

 

[Badjedidude]

Will you take back an ex that as made it clear that they still care for you very much, if the relatioship didn't hold the first time because of imuturety?

I really can't answer that with an surety. I don't know what I would do if my ex came back and wanted to be with me again. You can bet your ass I'd be glancing sideways at her an awful lot and I'd be pretty paranoid about some things. I dunno. I don't want to be with her, but like I said... I don't know what I would do if she did ask.

Let's just hope she doesn't, eh?

Would it be a deal-breaker if your date told you that they had funded terrorism (eco-terrorism, anti-government, fundamentalist muslim, whatever)?

 

[Ladysphinx]

Yes, I have learned to respect ALL life and any thing that terrorizes ANYONE is not acceptible in my book. I don't agree with all but that root will never be acceptible to me. I get why they might wanna do it in some instances but it's still wrong.

Would it be a deal breaker if your partner lied about what job they really do?

 

[Badjedidude]

Would it be a deal breaker if your partner lied about what job they really do?

Hmmmm I guess that depends on the job. Like if she told me she was an accountant but was really a hooker... then I'd be upset. But if she told me she were an accountant and she were really a secret kick-ass assassin, then HELL YEAH I'D DATE HER!!! That'd be awesome.

Would it be a deal-breaker if you were on your partner's computer and found a HUGE stash of porn?

 

[Dessa]

Depends if it's like some weird fetish of cannibalism then yeah deal breaker.

Would it be a deal breaker if you found some love letters of your partner's ex that he still keeps?

 

[brickinthewall]

Depends if it's like some weird fetish of cannibalism then yeah deal breaker.

Would it be a deal breaker if you found some love letters of your partner's ex that he still keeps?

Who writes letters any more?

 

[Badjedidude]

Would it be a deal breaker if you found some love letters of your partner's ex that he still keeps?

Not necessarily. I myself have some old love letters and whatnot from girls I've been with in the past. Just because I may meet another woman that I love more than any other is no reason to pretend that I don't have memories or that I never had feelings for anyone in the past. It's not like I'm reading those letters every day and crying over them or something. It's just nice to know someone felt that way about me once, and the letters are a reminder.

IMHO people who REQUIRE you to burn/throw away old memories or keepsakes just aren't very mature. *shrug* SO yeah it wouldn't bother me too much.... unless they were letters from like last week or yesterday or something. THEN it would be a problem.

Would you continue to date someone who continually made comments about not being pretty enough for you? Like... needing constant reminders that they're good-looking or whatever.

 

[Dessa]

Probably not. Because that person is either really insecure and well I don't think I have the patience to constantly remind them that I like him/her the way he/she is, or that person is just vain and tries to force compliments outta you all the time. Either way no.


Is not wanting children a deal breaker?

 

[Badjedidude]

^^^Not for me. I could go either way, really. But if I do want kids it will be in like 20 years (or more). I have to much to do right now and I'm afraid having children would just be a burden on my life.

Same question for someone else.

 

[jales]

Yes! Major, major deal breaker.. lol the first thing me and my husband fought about actually. When we decided we liked each other and were going into a relationship.. he wasnt sure that he wanted kids. But then he thought about it and decided that he did.

But yes, kids are important to me, I dont have any yet.. but I want children. So it would not make sense to date someone who doesn't.

Would it be a deal breaker if he or she lived on the other side of the world and the first 3 yrs of the relationship had to be loooong distance?

 

[Ladysphinx]

I don't know honestly. I only knew my hubby four months exactly when we got married. I met him 16 Oct 2000 and married him 16 Feb 2001.

Will it be a deal breaker if the person is a mommy's boy or girl?

 

[jales]

lol @ladysphinx.. in jamaica yes.. since mommy's boy means there that he has sex with his mother.. but yea i know you didnt mean that

 

[Badjedidude]

Will it be a deal breaker if the person is a mommy's boy or girl?

YES. Deal breaker.

I cannot abide a woman who still plays at being a fairy princess and spends her time hiding under mommy and daddy's skirts. Such a woman is weak and unable to face reality, and therefore is not worth my time. You know the kind of person I'm talking about... someone who never moves more than a few blocks away from their parents, someone who requires their parents' permission to do anything, someone who has their parents do everything FOR them (like calling about bills, etc).

I guess I need the women I date to be independent.

Would it be a deal breaker if the person you were dating had a huge beard?

 

[Ladysphinx]

Yeah, I prefer my men clean shaven. I like to be the hairy one. Jk. But honestly facial hair doesn't work for me.

Would it be a deal breaker if the person your dating still sleeps with a teddy every night?

 

[Joseph]

Would it be a deal breaker if the person you were dating had a huge beard?

Yes, because it would mean she had a huge hormonal imbalance.

Would it be a deal breaker if the person you were dating had a different religion than yours or just different theological strongly-held views?

 

[jales]

Nope. It would depend on the person though, once they let me have my beliefs and respected it etc.. I dont mind. I'm happy that my husband and I have the same belief though.

Would it be a deal breaker if the person did not believe in love? Like they would have a relationship and even marry you etc. But they told you from day one that they would never say I love you or so and that they didnt think love existed at all?

Lol yea I know it depends on the person.. but well..

Also

Would it be a deal breaker if the person you were dating had a huge beard?

No, not in the least.

And since no one answered this:

Would it be a deal breaker if the person your dating still sleeps with a teddy every night?

Lol, not at all. But I would hope that with time that would stop
Only because I think stuffed toys are dirty.

If they didnt stop I would wash the teddy every week

 

[Dessa]

Can't build a relationship on that, don't think so. Unless the sex is reeeally good, then perhaps. Unless you didn't catch that, I was kidding.

Would you consider it a deal breaker when someone has a weird fetish (but over all a really nice person)?

 

[Badjedidude]

Would you consider it a deal breaker when someone has a weird fetish (but over all a really nice person)?

Depends on the fetish. If it's something not too horrible, then probably, yeah. The main thing is that I would need to be able to see the fetish as even remotely sexy in order to participate in it or whatever. If it's something like flaying your skin and letting octopi suckle on your bleeding muscle tissue...

Ehhh I just can't see that as sexy or very interesting, hence I would not date such a person. lol

Would it be a deal breaker if your date admitted they had raped someone in the past?

 

[jales]

this one is interesting I would like to say no. But I know this situation personally. And according to my past the answer was no.

It was not a deal breaker. Eventually the relationship ended for another reason though.

For women:
Would it be a deal breaker if your guy had been raped by a male in the past? (I also know this situation personally)

Would you consider it a deal breaker when someone has a weird fetish (but over all a really nice person)?

Depends on the fetish. If it's something not too horrible, then probably, yeah. The main thing is that I would need to be able to see the fetish as even remotely sexy in order to participate in it or whatever. If it's something like flaying your skin and letting octopi suckle on your bleeding muscle tissue...

Ehhh I just can't see that as sexy or very interesting, hence I would not date such a person. lol

Would it be a deal breaker if your date admitted they had raped someone in the past?