tangerinedream said:Your question can be taken two ways.
I think that whether or not we allow ourselves to open up and really love anyone at all is a choice, just as closing ourselves off from those around us is a choice.
IMO, whom we feel drawn to is totally beyond our control. I do not believe that we can manufacture feelings of love for someone just because we want to. We either feel something for someone or we do not. I think that love can grow from a friendship, but if it happens, it happens not because we will it into being, but because it develops of its own accord.
well put I agreetangerinedream said:Your question can be taken two ways.
I think that whether or not we allow ourselves to open up and really love anyone at all is a choice, just as closing ourselves off from those around us is a choice.
IMO, whom we feel drawn to is totally beyond our control. I do not believe that we can manufacture feelings of love for someone just because we want to. We either feel something for someone or we do not. I think that love can grow from a friendship, but if it happens, it happens not because we will it into being, but because it develops of its own accord.
tangerinedream said:Your question can be taken two ways.
I think that whether or not we allow ourselves to open up and really love anyone at all is a choice, just as closing ourselves off from those around us is a choice.
IMO, whom we feel drawn to is totally beyond our control. I do not believe that we can manufacture feelings of love for someone just because we want to. We either feel something for someone or we do not. I think that love can grow from a friendship, but if it happens, it happens not because we will it into being, but because it develops of its own accord.
Okiedokes said:^ Nicely said.
Sci-Fi said:Yes very well put.
Mikey193 said:well put I agree
Ak5 said:Ditto
firebird85 said:Seems like relationships today are formed based on "what you have to offer", where in the past relationships started more naturally and all flaws and differences were accepted and looked past. People were friends and expanded on that while nothing else mattered. Not anymore though. Today it's all streamlined.
If you only go for someone because you are drawn to what they have (job, fancy car, house) you don't love them you love what they have.
You love what they have. Not them as a person. End of story.
Hoffy said:******* A dude, that's not what love is about. Who cares about all that stuff? Not me. As long as the person is a good person, that's all that matters. All that stuff you mention can't buy or get you love. Love is about the person, not what they have.
firebird85 said:There's enough people on this planet that no man or woman should have to be alone if they don't want to. But we create our own demise. If women actually thought like that there probably wouldn't be so many lonely guys out there, but alas.
Hoffy said:Yes I am just posting all my post to practice my gold digging bullshitting ways. Geez >.>
Sci-Fi said:Can we broaden this term of love for a minute? I don't think it can be gender defined. Really love is when you truly care about another person, "lover", family, friend.
Sci-Fi said:It's when you care about their good days and their bad days. When you hand them a tissue to wipe their tears with and jump up and down in times of joy.
Sci-Fi said:When you pick them up when they are down, and they do the same in turn for you. A person you can count on whenever, wherever, however. To me that is love, whether it's female or male. If it grows into something more it grows into something more. We shouldn't be so concerned with out libido's.
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