Do You Feel Misunderstood?

[LoneKiller]

Greetings.

Being misunderstood is a huge problem of mine. One of my biggest problems that never seems to go away or perhaps it's not meant to, are my pupils that are dilated constantly. Because of past drug problems, my pupils have never shrunk back to normal size. People look at me and see them and automatically think that I'm high. It's frustrating. My family doctor sent me to an eye specialist quite some time ago, and even he didn't know why they won't shrink back to normal. Even though I can understand why, it still hurts because I've worked too **** hard to give that honeysuckle up to hear people whisper in what they feel is privacy that.." Did you see Jason's eyes? He ******* whacked! lol..." I overhead this at a friend's wedding. I was crushed. At least my vision is fine, that's more important to me.

Several forums I've been a member of in the past are suspicious of me because of my politeness. I'm just being myself for Christ's sake! Would people prefer this:".. How are all you dirtbags scum of the earth wastes of life doing this afternoon on this ******* disgraceful mud ball we call Earth? Like I give a fresia anyway.."

People in these forums do nothing but troll day in and day out, ridicule other members they have a problem with on the board, embarrassing them as opposed to using a pm. Tons of rookie members leave due to this degree of disrespect and these jerkoffs have the nerve to create threads on how to get more new members to join! Can you believe that?!

I refuse to hurt and embarrass other members just to fit in with a bunch of jerks who will treat me like honeysuckle anyway. It's a pretty sad state of affairs when everyday respect and courtesy is looked upon as suspicious.
I guess I can understand why maybe some of you might think I'm up to something, but I'm not.

I believe that I've finally found a forum where there is compassion not degradation. Thanks for letting me ***** and moan.

Godspeed.
LK

 

[SophiaGrace]

I've felt misunderstood before. Like, in the past, I would try to hard to please other people bu they would never seem to notice it. It would make me feel really bad. Nowadays I just have to fight with myself regarding trying to make people who don't like me, like me. I just can't stand it when someone I like ignores me or doesn't like me back. I need to get over myself.

Oh and LK the reason why I am accepting of you is because there was a member on here before who I felt was too nice, and I offended them by asking if they really *were* nice. We didn't have good relations after that. :/

So I guess that taught me not to do that.

 

[Badjedidude]

Nah. I generally do well at making myself understood through a variety of means.

 

[princess_valium]

Definately, I am very shy and people often mistake my shyness for ignorance. It's very frustrating.

 

[IgnoredOne]

I was a teacher and ideally, part of my job is to try to communicate in a way that can be understood. I am not always successful, but I do my best.

 

[Sci-Fi]

I dunno, IRL the people that know me usually have me down to a tee. I think it's peoples ignorance of others/lack of knowledge/attention span etc that leads to misunderstandings. Who says you are misunderstood, the person who didn't quite get what you meant? If everyone always misunderstands your intentions then yeah you might have a problem. Some people just don't come off right.

LK, as for your pupil problem...yeah that might cause a lot misunderstandings from people who don't know.

When it comes to public forums you have to take the good with the bad. If someone is willing to air out their dirty laundry, they are going to have to expect others to react in the way they normally would. Berating and belittling someone is something that should go to PM's or just kept out, but you have to expect some negative comments. Not everyone is going to bring sunshine and sprinkles when it's not deserved. Honestly, there are some people who have posted threads on here, that I scratch my head wondering why, knowing there is going to be negative feedback.

 

[SkuzzieMuff]

I don't know if people understand my honesty and pessimism. But I also don't feel the need to explain myself any further, because everyone will make their own opinion anyway.

 

[Limlim]

Have you thought about grabbing a pair of colored contacts? They have non prescription ones which are made to ascetically correct damaged retina's

 

[LonelyClothar]

I Feel it right now

 

[fightclub]

No I feel harrased and stalked by a bunch of doggy scum bags round my way who have been leaning on me for years and making my life one of isolation and mysery and all I can do is put up with and be miserable, cant even move as i have kids here although many say I should.

 

[Doubt The Rabbit]

Mmm. OP is tl;dr at 8 in the morning, but to answer the main question:


Yeah.

 

[lonelyfairy]

Sometimes yes, because of my shyness.