Facebook is depressing?

[PedroSilva]

Well i think.
I post something in my status, no one replies.
I look at others people photos they having fun and me: "nhé"

altough, having 44 friends including Family/mates/class mates/"friends" no one gives a honeysuckle about me, except when I was give away that ticket to see Coldplay on 6th July

I think im about to delete the account

 

[lonelyfairy]

I feel very same way. No one will respond to messages. I too was depressed on facebook.

I deleted my facebook account months ago, because it was useless place to me... :/

 

[SophiaGrace]

don't delete it. It's a valuable social resource. Just keep adding people and it'll add up.

 

[PedroSilva]

don't delete it. It's a valuable social resource. Just keep adding people and it'll add up.

yeah, but im fed up.

Since 6th of June i was diagnose depression and none of this 44 "friends" help me so far. Except my good cousin Hugo. He tries to make me happy, and he tries hard, but it´s worthless

They just want help from me when its English Exams, or computer technical help.

fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu

Last day they went to the beach and they did not invite me.
-.-

Was like:
-Hmm, we are 23 and there is 22 of us. Where is Pedro.
-What Pedro. The High Pedro, or the Short Pedro.
-The high one.
-fresia him, no one cares about him.

But, when they need me to be supportive, i am there, and, i don´t complain...

 

[unlucky in life]

facebook is pain i have the same 5 friends there not even friends i just people i added from photos for 2 years no one add me i have to do all adding .when i do that i don't even get added
people i know won''t add me .i know a guy he 100 friends in one month

 

[cumulus.james]

Well i think.
I post something in my status, no one replies.
I look at others people photos they having fun and me: "nhé"

altough, having 44 friends including Family/mates/class mates/"friends" no one gives a honeysuckle about me, except when I was give away that ticket to see Coldplay on 6th July

I think im about to delete the account

That’s exactly why I don’t bother with face book. Should be called Fakebook really. People are starting to live their lives though this virtual world controlled by a greedy corporation. It’s like some really far fetched and corny sci-fi - but its really happening!

My experience of face book was it was all about people going “look at me, no I haven’t got time to talk about you LOOK THE fresia AT ME! OMG I only posted 700 photos of ME on here today. I must go to the wall and post something about ME.

At least when myspace first started it was a customizable profile site (as opposed to the bland uniformity of Facebook). There was something of the persons character in there and you actually liked reading peoples profiles. The bulletin feature was entertaining. Now we have twitter. Where people get to post the most boring trivial crap about themselves. This whole tings about having 400,000 “friends” is not about having 400,000 friends its about having 400,000 looking at you.

You can tell I’m not cynical…..

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Playing a role of being sick or playing the victim is not healthy.
There's a pay off..such as getting a attention. Wanting other to take care of you.
You are dependent of others for your happiness, yet you create your own misery.
It's a cycle that will lead you into a deeper depression.

Taking care of other's needs and not your own..is codependency behaviors

Complete and comparing ourselves with others will only eat away at our self esteem.

You said you have been diagnose with depression...so why in the fresia arnt
you're doctor or therapist helping you? Have you received any type of consuling
or any healthy living tools or coping skills to help you get out of your depression?

Maybe close your facebook account or blowing up your computer might actaully
be a good thing for you..this way you'll go outside and get some sunshine or light.
Sunlight is healthy for a person. Being outside more often will also help clear your mind.

Going outside more often might be benificail and healthy for you.
You might get face to face interactions with poeple.
Learn and experience actual social skills.

Yes, life can be like that for a lot of people.
No one really cares oneway or the other what happens to me.
This however I know....SELF PITY GETS ME NOWHERE...been there, done that.

 

[Callie]

He tries to make me happy, and he tries hard, but it´s worthless

That will never work if you are waiting for someone else to make you happy. You can't rely on other people to make you happy, you have to learn to be comfortable with yourself and who you are. No one but you can do that for you.

As far as people wanting you for what you can do for them, well, if you LET them, why would you think they wouldn't. Tell them no. Being around people that you just think are using you is worse in the long run than having no one at all.

 

[condemnedsoul666]

with friends like that who needs friends? i think you should tell them straight how you feel, all at once or however you feel comfortable, i suggest talking to the ones you are closest to.
also what ******** if they know about the depression and don't even make an attempt. also try finding someone you are comfortable around and work on your relationship with them.

 

[VanillaCreme]

I didn't know people were supposed to always reply to a Facebook status. People take Facebook way too serious.

 

[Swamp Yankee]

I hate FB. It is just a mass demonstration of what a complete and total romantic/social disaster area.

The ugly fact is that no matter how hard you try you can not make people like you. If, for whatever reason, you can't get past 'hello' you are good and rightly stuck.

I finally purged my account, FB was just making me crazy.

 

[unlucky in life]

from my experience if you popular your popular there is nothing to stop it if you not poular your not popular.
facebook is crap.its all about being showing off and be important to others.
i do the same i write on my wall the words i write gathers dust.no one could be botherd to reply

you have the same problem as me

 

[Callie]

I didn't know people were supposed to always reply to a Facebook status. People take Facebook way too serious.

This... 100% agree

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Try any of these things...take what you want and leave the rest.

I personally like 44 and 45

http://celestinechua.com/blog/101-ways-to-live-your-life-to-the-fullest/

 

[SofiasMami]

Hi-
I like facebook. I keep in touch with family and friends. Some friends I lost contact with for a decade or more until we found each other on facebook.
I handle worker's compensation claims for a living. On claims that I suspect are bogus, I check facebook. You would be surprised how many people don't have their pages set on private and how much they post about themselves. It's pretty sweet when you can bust a fraudulent claimant with their own online postings.
I sent a pm to the OP with my facebook info and I'm fb friends with a few other ALL-ers. If you're interested, pm me. I love having new friends! Just don't file any fraudulent worker's comp claims!

Teresa

 

[VanillaCreme]

from my experience if you popular your popular there is nothing to stop it if you not poular your not popular.
facebook is crap.its all about being showing off and be important to others.
i do the same i write on my wall the words i write gathers dust.no one could be botherd to reply

you have the same problem as me

Well, that's not true. I don't have mine for a popularity contest. I've never been about all that mess. I have mine to keep in contact with family and people I went to school with. Old friends, and new friends. Facebook is important to me in a different way. I'd hate to lose contact with my little cousins, because my aunt - their mother - doesn't like my mom. And I'd hate for them to grow up and I never talk to them again.

 

[putter65]

It's a great way of keeping in touch with people.

You can't expect replies or comments all the time. People have lots of friends. I have written dozens of comments have nobody has replied to yet people at work have mentioned it so it proves they read it.

You've got to be carefull, don't bombard women you like with messages, keep it low key, a message here and there. Don't initiate chat, they might be doing something and you'll get depressed if they don't answer you. Don't 'like' every comment somebody does because it makes you look like a stalker. Expect nothing and what you get will make you happy.

I've only got 28 friends as well !

 

[PedroSilva]

Playing a role of being sick or playing the victim is not healthy.
There's a pay off..such as getting a attention. Wanting other to take care of you.
You are dependent of others for your happiness, yet you create your own misery.
It's a cycle that will lead you into a deeper depression.

Taking care of other's needs and not your own..is codependency behaviors

Complete and comparing ourselves with others will only eat away at our self esteem.

You said you have been diagnose with depression...so why in the fresia arnt
you're doctor or therapist helping you? Have you received any type of consuling
or any healthy living tools or coping skills to help you get out of your depression?
Maybe close your facebook account or blowing up your computer might actaully
be a good thing for you..this way you'll go outside and get some sunshine or light.
Sunlight is healthy for a person. Being outside more often will also help clear your mind.

Going outside more often might be benificail and healthy for you.
You might get face to face interactions with poeple.
Learn and experience actual social skills.

Yes, life can be like that for a lot of people.
No one really cares oneway or the other what happens to me.
This however I know....SELF PITY GETS ME NOWHERE...been there, done that.

im not playing any role whatsoever.
I am being treated right now, but my parents don´t ******* care, are they are too slow for anything. Today, is the day that they went to speak to my terapist.
I was diagnose in 6th June. And her wanted to see my parents soon as possible, but they were like: "-Work first, fresia my son, he is already 16, he is a grown up". today is the 27th... and only today they went to see my terapist

back on topic:
What I hate, about this is (and you might be right), my supposed "friends" moving with they life, and I feel that they leave me behind. Example is like, when I see my class mates having a relashionship, i feel like: =\

About the thing that i need them to be happy that is wrong, i can be happy without them, i am just "comparing" my life with the life of others.

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I didn't know people were supposed to always reply to a Facebook status. People take Facebook way too serious.

i don´t take it too serious i just compare my misery to their misery, and i get the conclusion that their misery is best than my misery

 

[paulo]

thats what facebook is.
adding a few 100 people you dont really know.
and never talk to em.

and keeping an eye on some of your friends to see what theyre up to.
saves you a phonecall or a visit.

i dont ad anyone i dont know or wanne know.
so i got 8 people on it now

its more of a shallow socialising tool for when your bored.
good for remembering birthdays though.

if you take it to seriously it can be really depressing yeh.

 

[Beyondthefourwalls]

What made me erase my first profile was when i asked a good(or so i thought) to go out with me, she replied she was busy, then, like five minutes later, she posts in another guys profile that she was bored and that she wanted to go out with him, and he wasnt his boyfriend.

After a while I made a new one, this time i blocked her.

Its also a little anoying to open the chat, and see tons of people you would like to talk to, but nobody seems to notice you.

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What made me erase my first profile was when i asked a good(or so i thought) friend to go out with me, she replied she was busy, then, like five minutes later, she posts in another guys profile that she was bored and that she wanted to go out with him, and he wasnt his boyfriend.

After a while I made a new one, this time i blocked her.

Its also a little anoying to open the chat, and see tons of people you would like to talk to, but nobody seems to notice you.