AiyanaS
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Theres this guy I like and and am trying get over, he doesn't like me and now has a girlfriend he likes very much. We used to talk often but he began to act different around me (talk monotone, not look me in eye) and distance himself from me, will not carry a conversation, but will catch my attention to say Hi in the hallway before hurrying by, ever since I began to show I liked him (been ongoing for 3 months now). He's my first crush so I didn't know how to handle the feelings and I admit to overanalyzing his every move, getting very nervous around him (shaking), thinking about him constantly, start talking about a topic that I'm sure probably gave him the wrong impression about me, following him around and trying to talk to him often (3- 4 times a week), I'm afraid I creeped him out . Anyway, he's a nice guy and probably didn't want to say to my face that he didn't feel the same way. I asked a friend, who knows to talk to him about it and the guy I liked replied that I was cool and that he was sorry about the misunderstanding, he was just being friendly".
Anyway, I really do want to be friends with this guy, reestablish the friendship that may have been starting before I started to like him but I'm afraid I blew that chance. I'm thinking of talking to him when I next see him, in person I don't have these conversations over text, and asking if we could start over and be friends and that apologize for the past 3 months, when I showed signs of liking him, known him for 5 months. I have no intention of getting between him and his girlfriend, if thats what anyone maybe thinking, I am a religious Catholic and respect there relationship and if he gives me another chance, plan to keep at a respectable distance. I just want to reestablish a friendship with him, if thats ever possible.
Also this guy is not a loner, he has a well established circle of friends and hangs-out with them often, he told me. He's not like me who lacks self-confidence, never hung-out with friends before, has no experience with members of the opposite gender (most guys I met at my high school weren't worth befriending) and has few not close friends. When we used to talk often, before I started to like him, we really related well with each other, I think so at least, and were comfortable talking to one another. I was also comfortable talking to him about things I wouldn't to anyone else, even after 1 month of knowing him, and I DO NOT trust people easily, I could just sense something about him that I felt I could trust him. He also used to talk to me and tell me things about himself that he said he didn't tell others. I really want that friendship, that was forming, back but I'm afraid I blew my chance.
Guys, if you knew a girl liked you but you didn't feel the same way, but she apologized for her passed behavior and asked if you wouldn't mind starting over being friends, would you being willing to start over and be friends with her or would you only say yes to her face just to be nice?
Any advice?
Anyway, I really do want to be friends with this guy, reestablish the friendship that may have been starting before I started to like him but I'm afraid I blew that chance. I'm thinking of talking to him when I next see him, in person I don't have these conversations over text, and asking if we could start over and be friends and that apologize for the past 3 months, when I showed signs of liking him, known him for 5 months. I have no intention of getting between him and his girlfriend, if thats what anyone maybe thinking, I am a religious Catholic and respect there relationship and if he gives me another chance, plan to keep at a respectable distance. I just want to reestablish a friendship with him, if thats ever possible.
Also this guy is not a loner, he has a well established circle of friends and hangs-out with them often, he told me. He's not like me who lacks self-confidence, never hung-out with friends before, has no experience with members of the opposite gender (most guys I met at my high school weren't worth befriending) and has few not close friends. When we used to talk often, before I started to like him, we really related well with each other, I think so at least, and were comfortable talking to one another. I was also comfortable talking to him about things I wouldn't to anyone else, even after 1 month of knowing him, and I DO NOT trust people easily, I could just sense something about him that I felt I could trust him. He also used to talk to me and tell me things about himself that he said he didn't tell others. I really want that friendship, that was forming, back but I'm afraid I blew my chance.
Guys, if you knew a girl liked you but you didn't feel the same way, but she apologized for her passed behavior and asked if you wouldn't mind starting over being friends, would you being willing to start over and be friends with her or would you only say yes to her face just to be nice?
Any advice?