I don't know. I would like to think that some families can do that. But, all the families I've ever gotten involved with kept a hidden score board. As long as you are doing more then others you are okay. If not then you get the cold shoulder.
Other then my mom, dad and his parents, the rest of my family is total honeysuckle. After those four people died I wrote the rest of my family off. I'm way better for it too.