RobertJW said:
Yes I have tried dating sites. I am obviously too unattractive as they were a waste of time. I have made contact with a lot of ladies with little or no reply. All I can assume is women in Britain are very very picky.
My weekends with the kids are not court-appointed, I usually have them when they want to come. I suppose I'm being selfish or greedy, but she has them all week, why shouldnt I have them at weekends?
And Robin, I havent got anything I "like to do", and if I did I have no one to go with. I only really have 3 male friends, none of them live close and they are all married and busy doing family stuff. Being 40-something and alone in this day and age is pretty tough.
I was a house husband for 17 years so I have never really been one to mix with others. Its tough to think of places to go where I could talk to people, especially women, without coming across as some kind of weirdo.
I am stuck in a rut and can't see any way out
That would hurt yes
Am going to be honest with what I think. You know your lad is 13 and at that age they kinder want to start doing there own thing. It may not be that your ex that has stopped them but just that if they spend all weekend with dad then they lose out on spending time with there mates.
This dose not mean that they love you any less. I mean they would not have no clue about the pain your feeling. If they think of you like I did my dad at that age then they well think that your indestructible and can not be hurt and are unable to take anything the wrong way.
My dad worked away for a long time when I was a kid. He only come home at the weekend. I did never stay in to see him. he would say to me I have not seen anything of you all week why don't you stay in for a bit. My reply was hahahhaha UNLUCKY! SEE you later! thinking about it from your posts I probably hurt hes feeling moor then I could ever know. I had no clue as I had all the little stupid problems that a teenage boy has in hes own mined.
Bottom line was and still is. I have always known that my dad if I should need him was and is still is there if I ever should ask.
Kids do not understand that there dad has feelings as well.
Soon in a few years they well be older and even adults them self. You don't need me am sure to tell you how time can go. Just hold out and have some faith and they would probably be bringing there girlfriends round to meet you be for you know it. It is normol that kids well speed lees time with there mum and dad as they get older.
Now if you do anything stupid there going to be very hurt wither you think they well or not. You would be looking down to this place from up above when they have kids of there own and be thinking I should of stuck around to holed my grandchild.
Make sure you don't just see today but the hole thing and in the future things well get better for you.
As far as the weekends go I hear where your coming from. They can seem long and empty. You are a bright chap. You need to fined away to take your mined of things with something moor to do then just stewing over ye kids. You are suffering with empty nest syndrome. This is common for any parent to go fro when there kids no longer live at home. You just need to relies just cos ye kids are not spending every weekend with you it dose not mean that they love you any less or need you any less. I needed my dad even when I was hurting hes feelings. I needed to know he was there when ever I might have needed him. Just that alone was enough for me to feel a stronger person.
chilzz and try and be Happy.... This is the most important thing in life... You need to fined other things. Your kids well always be there and you have not got that many moor years be for you don't have to go fro your ex and there mum be for you and your kids can see one another..... Have a little faith.