Hezekiah's Thread Of Insanity (Update)

[LoneKiller]

I had a friend who once got a framed picture of his brother for Christmas. I'm not sure if that's insensitive but it seemed pretty self obsorbed!

Yeah. Really eh? lol

 

[Felix]

My uncle gave me some shitty presents sometimes. Because he doesn't really know me that well... The worst one was a t shirt with a giant killer clown head... it was ridiculous...

 

[bodafuko]

Yes. Every year when some stupid relative buys me clothes. I have been telling people since I was about fourteen years old not to buy me clothes. I am not average in size and I have long arms. Think basketball player build. Yet people refuse to stop buying me shirts that won't tuck in with sleeves that stop half way down my forearms. What's worse? Each and every time, they act surprised and disgusted (which I don't understand). So, one more time - for good measure - stop ******* buying me clothes. I'm in my mid-thirties and can dress myself.

 

[Lonely in BC]

I had a couple of friends who got married many years ago. When they slipped back to the hotel to "consummate" their nuptials before the party that night they pulled back the bedcovers and found his brother and sister-in-laws faces staring at them- some jackass used t-shirt transfers to put their faces on a couple of white pillowcases.

There was no nookie that afternoon, the bride was pissed off (she didn't really like the brother and sister-in-law much)....'twas a bit of a mood killer

Many considered it insensitive- hah! Lots of planning and forethought went into it.

Oh ya, forgot to mention, my date that night was one of the chambermaids from the hotel who had room keys.

 

[Syber Tiger]

a empty box
and a towl

 

[Veruca]

Someone once wrapped an old plastic rose in many MANY layers of paper and gave it to me as a present. It was odd....

 

[LoneKiller]

I'm just curious to know. To be honest, I've been getting that feeling lately and I don't know why. I keep thinking that I've offended some members, but am not sure because I never hear from them. I get the feeling that some members can't stand me, but are just acting nice to me to avoid being mean.

I just feel awkward coming here and worrying that I'm not welcome anymore. I know that I sound like a wimp, but I don't want to be here if nobody wants me here. Not knowing for sure is driving me crazy.

Sincerely,
LK

 

[ThisSideOfTheRainbow]

Well mate, I cannot answer that question. I am new here, but i do know that no matter what we write or don't write, no matter what we try to do to come across as human beings, we are never going to please everyone. It's just impossible.

The only thing any of us can do is try to be ourselves. Don't concern yourself with what other people think. A great guru once said, "What other people think of me is none of my business."

Let people have their opinions. Let them judge or not judge your posts, or you. It's their given right, and its their freewill to perceive you however they choose. Don't consume yourself with how they perceive you. You will only freeze yourself up. Only concern yourself with how you see yourself.

I hope that helps, mate.

Cheers.

 

[Okiedokes]

I want you here! I'm sure plenty of other members do as well. You keep the General area going for starters!

 

[Lost Drifter]

Do you need a wingman LK? I’m planning on giving up on the forum myself, similar reasons and the fact that anything I write goes unnoticed (like this) so I figured it was time to leave the ship.

 

[Woz]

I'm new here and I always feel like i'm not welcome when I first join forums. However this forum has really kept me going lately, I'm glad i found it and, even though I don't feel completely comfortable just yet, I've already spoke to some really somewhat-inspiring people.

I think it'd be a big loss if we all gave up on the forum and i would be gutted because i really like this forum. Maybe i'll meet people from other countries that i could see in the future!

 

[Lilianna]

I for one, very much enjoy the threads you start, there awesome!

 

[LoneKiller]

Do you need a wingman LK? I’m planning on giving up on the forum myself, similar reasons and the fact that anything I write goes unnoticed (like this) so I figured it was time to leave the ship.

I don't want to leave the forum. Many members treat me just fine. There are many fine people here. I am very grateful for all the help and support, but at the same time I'm confused.

If a member has a problem with me, why don't they just send me a pm and discuss it? When I feel that I've offended someone, I send them a pm, apologize and try to work through the problem, but when I do this and they don't reply, how the Hell am I supposed to respond to that? By not replying to me in my efforts to make peace, it just pisses me off.

If I've acted like an ******* in some way, just talk to me. Don't ignore my messages and leave me hanging there wondering what the Hell I did wrong.

I'm far from a perfect person. I've messed up plenty here, but one thing I've never done is ignore another member. I answer EVERY pm I receive. I'm not trying to start a fight here, but it's Goddamn frustrating when I get left hanging waiting to hear from someone that I may or may not have offended. I'm not the only one who feels this way guys. C'mon. I wouldn't be bringing this up again if I thought that everyone is out to get only me. We are asked to be civil in our posts. Should it not be the same for private messages?

 

[Veruca]

LK and LD, please don't leave!

I am going to list out reasons why you shouldn't:

1. What the other guys said.
2. Your comments are really good and to the point, so maybe there's nothing more to add
3. You both have a great sense of humour and some of your comments really lighten up the mood
4. You are very responsive on threads, which makes other people feel like someone cares.

So trust me, you're wanted!

 

[Felix]

I actually feel like that sometimes, but I try not to care too much (in the end this is just a forum).

Some members might not like you much, but that's normal... you can't please everybody.

 

[EveWasFramed]

LK..

How many times have you asked me about things like this and each time, I've said no - you've done nothing wrong, not offended, etc?
Sometimes the thoughts in our heads don't actually match the reality of the situation. And Felix is correct - this is just an internet forum.
You can't please everyone, so don't bother trying. Be who you are and don't worry about anyone else. If you do something that's out of line, the mods will let you know. Otherwise, don't worry about what you think others may think of you.

 

[itsmylife]

I'm sorry that you feel that way LoneKiller.

The majority of people on this site are thoughtful and caring. Unfortunately there will always be the few that aren't.

I have had experiences with people on here which made me steer clear of the site for a while. Which was a shame because this place should be (and usually is) a place where people with shared experiences can come and find comfort in being with people who understand. Not to be pushed further into a dark place by people who really should know better.

I think most of us would like to think we would never deliberately hurt somebody especially not someone from this site who has already seen the darker side of life. This site should be a place where everyone wants to come to. I have come back because I would rather be around the many people who can relate, who do understand and who do offer much needed support than avoid it over the few who maybe shouldn't be here in the first place.

I hope you stay LoneKiller. And I hope the people you get on with can help you focus on the positives.

 

[LoneKiller]

LK..

How many times have you asked me about things like this and each time, I've said no - you've done nothing wrong, not offended, etc?
Sometimes the thoughts in our heads don't actually match the reality of the situation. And Felix is correct - this is just an internet forum.
You can't please everyone, so don't bother trying. Be who you are and don't worry about anyone else. If you do something that's out of line, the mods will let you know. Otherwise, don't worry about what you think others may think of you.

I understand Eve. I just wanted to get it off my chest by addressing the other members as well. It's not easy for me to accept that some don't like me, when I just want people to know that I TRULY care about their happiness.

I don't like being disliked. Especially if I don't know the reason. I'm sure you understand. I just think that it's common courtesy to at least tell the person why you have a problem with them instead of leaving them wondering. Even murderers get the to see and hear their accusers in court.

If this is all just me, then why am I not the only one who has similar concerns?

 

[kamya]

Do you need a wingman LK? I’m planning on giving up on the forum myself, similar reasons and the fact that anything I write goes unnoticed (like this) so I figured it was time to leave the ship.

Lost Drifter, I read and like your posts a lot of the time. I just don't post too frequently when I cant add anything to discussions, but I do appreciate your posts and your stories about your experiences.

As for LK. I want you here bro. I've noticed all of your threads end up derailed by others but they do well in general. I've always enjoyed some of your silly threads. I'm just not as social as I used to be so I'm sorry if it feels like I started to ignore you.

Edit - After thinking about it, I think part of the reason I don't post as much is because of the same problems you guys have. Most of my posts get ignored too and most of my threads never get more than one or two replies. The only time I do ever get replies is when I'm just trying to stir up honeysuckle. It's a bad cycle. Ok, back to lurking.

 

[LoneKiller]

It's important to me that you understand that I'm not accusing anybody in a personal sense. It's just an issue that has been plaguing me for a long time now. Eve is correct. I've contacted her with this several times in a pm and she has assured me that I'm wrong. I've tried dealing with these problems in a pm as best that I could before making it a public affair. No such luck. Pretty tough to solve problems with someone when you receive no response whatsoever.

I just feels that way to me lately. I understand that this is just an internet forum and not real life, but as I've stated in the past, the internet is just a vehicle for people to get their words across to one another. The problem is, that the people at the keyboard are living human beings with real emotions and can be hurt, offended, and still get upset.

There is a reason the forum has rules that prohibit Name Calling, Threats, Trolling, Bullying, Posting Porn, Posting Gore, Telling other members to F**K Off, or posting cuss words that are just plain disgusting and offensive.

All of the above infractions are prohibited because they have a real effect on people. The computer just delivers all of these things from one person to another. If it were just the internet and not to be taken so seriously, then why do these rules even exist?