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MisterLonely
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Confidence, hard to gain but golden... and it doesn't really work on women, that's the illusion of it, it works on you!
MisterLonely
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If that is true, then why are some "ugly" people doing better than others?
ardour
Well known loser
Noticeably ugly men are much more likely to be highly inhibited due to experiences with bullying and endless admonishments from parents/authority figures.The ones that aren't inhibited stick out, so you notice them.
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DarkSelene
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Xpendable said:
Could you elaborate on this, please?
ardour
Well known loser
He means you need others to validate your self-worth before confidence can develop.
The closest equivalent to "internally sourced" confidence is narcissism.
The closest equivalent to "internally sourced" confidence is narcissism.
VanillaCreme
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ardour said:
I think some people do need validation from others to be okay with themselves, but not everyone does.
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DarkSelene
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What about achievements based confidence, you think that's reliant on external validation? Is it a very specific type of confidence that we're talking about here?
Narcissism is the exact type of "confidence" I'd say needs lots of external validation to develop fully.
This argument will always suffer when the ones making it forget that this is more than social.
Narcissism is the exact type of "confidence" I'd say needs lots of external validation to develop fully.
This argument will always suffer when the ones making it forget that this is more than social.
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Joturbo
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Whenever you get a ten or twenty out....make sure it emerges from a fat wad.....also works with wifes too ,keeps them off your back
VanillaCreme
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Joturbo said:
Please stop with the generalizations.
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Joturbo
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VanillaCreme said:
Ok Vanilla...but when I was young in my area of London men were expected to pay when you went out of an evening.
If you were deemed as tight it was not good with the ladies I went out with.It still is amongst some people I know and my wife does indeed expect me to get my wad out when it comes to the bill.She still occassionally shouts at me 'to get the money in when i'm slacking...feeling lazy and it worked for me because her father also paid for everything so it was what she was used to.
How can you know you are good at something if the world doesn't tell you what it takes to be good at it?
Would someone like Tiger Woods be confident if golf was never invented? Could someone be confident about something if no one ever tells him he's good at it from birth?
Would someone like Tiger Woods be confident if golf was never invented? Could someone be confident about something if no one ever tells him he's good at it from birth?
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DarkSelene
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Yes
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DarkSelene
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There's stimulation from psyche which is based on external factors, not necessarily people, but there's also biological stimulation. That's incredibly primitive, it doesn't take consciousness or consensus.
That's why I'm saying, this is a specific type of behavioral issue you're looking at, not the full picture of it.
That's why I'm saying, this is a specific type of behavioral issue you're looking at, not the full picture of it.
Confidence comes from within, you don't need people telling you that you are good at something to have confidence in yourself. There is a massive difference in the type of confidence here, having someone tell you that you are good at something only builds your confidence with that one type of thing. Having confidence in yourself and not something you do but you are is mostly on you.
