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LoneAs
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To begin with as a child i was never encouraged to go out from the house and mix with other children, up until my teens i stayed mostly indoors, and now in my twenties i am still inside. I have lost contact, had fights and as a person have very little to give when it comes to friends.
With pressure on me, i need to get a job, and for that you need skills of various sorts. Basically because i have been alone most of the time, i have forgotten how to communicate with people face to face.
When i do talk to people i often repeat myself, or use quick get away excuses to end the convo mid-flow. I often lose interest fast or cant reply in bantering fashion to build rapport with someone.
Chatting online i can do easily, but when you are face to face with someone, they can easily pick up your disinterest or anxiousness, which i emit.
I am living in the UK, and now have to look for a job to support myself, and being another colour (i am not racist, but believe everywhere has its racist, I have had past & recent experiences where i have suffered racism in daily life, in the workplace and amongst people, so its something that has come against me in my pursuit for a job and in life, i have to cope with it and not let it effect me in re-connecting with people) having no work experience, and diminishing social skills because of my aloneness, I need to start getting things done.
To help myself I am going to do some free volunteering so i can connect with people again and get some work experience. Volunteering should help build my social skills back again, it will be a slow process, but i need to improve my ability to connect again. As a person i am stoic and often emotionless, but in the work field you cant be like that.
Besides chatting online any body got any advice on how to connect with people again on a social level?
Thanks..
With pressure on me, i need to get a job, and for that you need skills of various sorts. Basically because i have been alone most of the time, i have forgotten how to communicate with people face to face.
When i do talk to people i often repeat myself, or use quick get away excuses to end the convo mid-flow. I often lose interest fast or cant reply in bantering fashion to build rapport with someone.
Chatting online i can do easily, but when you are face to face with someone, they can easily pick up your disinterest or anxiousness, which i emit.
I am living in the UK, and now have to look for a job to support myself, and being another colour (i am not racist, but believe everywhere has its racist, I have had past & recent experiences where i have suffered racism in daily life, in the workplace and amongst people, so its something that has come against me in my pursuit for a job and in life, i have to cope with it and not let it effect me in re-connecting with people) having no work experience, and diminishing social skills because of my aloneness, I need to start getting things done.
To help myself I am going to do some free volunteering so i can connect with people again and get some work experience. Volunteering should help build my social skills back again, it will be a slow process, but i need to improve my ability to connect again. As a person i am stoic and often emotionless, but in the work field you cant be like that.
Besides chatting online any body got any advice on how to connect with people again on a social level?
Thanks..