LeaningIntoTheMuse
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nevermind
LeaningIntoTheMuse said:Well, I know she's not a bad person. She is a sweet person.
But I do know that she recently confessed that she hates men now. I suppose she is thinking that she will play with this guy, break his heart, and it'll make up for all the men who have toyed with her, abused her, and hurt her.
She needs therapy, massively. I know that. Both my mom and I have talked to each other about how she needs therapy. She doesn't seem to realize it, but this is a massive cry for help.
I know, that is more of my own issue than about her. I know all attractive women aren't like that. I just have a massive insecurity complex, tied to the way I've been treated by "some" attractive women in the past. I probably should bring it up in therapy, and since my therapist is a woman, she might be able to help me with that.
I just don't understand how someone can do something so cruel? It's something a 13 year old would do, not almost a 33 year old!
Lonesome Crow said:it's just part of the process.
She's just learning how to stand up for herself and releasing her anger.
so she's taking it to the extreem...but if she's been in a victim role rut...it's natrual
to do that when she's exerting herself out of the hole.
Eventaully she'll level off or stabalized....
But if you tell her she's all fucken up...she'll feel guilty and fall back into the hole or rut.
Its one of the reason why you dont fix people. She'll fix herself.
Get the fresia out of the way and let the miracle happens....
This is where being non-judgmental really comes into play.
rollingtrouble said:Lonesome Crow said:it's just part of the process.
She's just learning how to stand up for herself and releasing her anger.
so she's taking it to the extreem...but if she's been in a victim role rut...it's natrual
to do that when she's exerting herself out of the hole.
Eventaully she'll level off or stabalized....
But if you tell her she's all fucken up...she'll feel guilty and fall back into the hole or rut.
Its one of the reason why you dont fix people. She'll fix herself.
Get the fresia out of the way and let the miracle happens....
This is where being non-judgmental really comes into play.
There isn't any miracle process in action here at all. If she wants to get out of that victim rut she needs to direct that at the next asshat keeping her in it. The game she is playing is not "standing up" for herself at all. Thats like someone becoming a thief and start stealing just because someone stole from them. She is no different than the ******** that "victimzed" her now. Its not your problem to fix for sure, and shes not gonna fix herself by "victimizing" people that have not done anything to her except giving her attention. Shes an ******* now just like the ******** that made her that way. Thats not a "natural" thing, its weak and shows how screwed up she really is. She may grow up and quit playing all the games one day, until then she'll stay in one rut or another. Karma is keeping score, its what keeps the universe in balance.
SophiaGrace said:you put too much weight on the attractiveness of women Muse...
LeaningIntoTheMuse said:nevermind
Sci-Fi said:Muse, I don't mean to be rude since you seem to obviously care about your sister but she's a *****. That is just disgusting. This is a good example of wrong labels women get, when ones like her so something like this. I've heard of women doing it to catch a cheating boyfriend or husband but to just purposely mess with someone, that is despicable.
@Sophia, best signature ever!
Lonesome Crow said:rollingtrouble said:Lonesome Crow said:it's just part of the process.
She's just learning how to stand up for herself and releasing her anger.
so she's taking it to the extreem...but if she's been in a victim role rut...it's natrual
to do that when she's exerting herself out of the hole.
Eventaully she'll level off or stabalized....
But if you tell her she's all fucken up...she'll feel guilty and fall back into the hole or rut.
Its one of the reason why you dont fix people. She'll fix herself.
Get the fresia out of the way and let the miracle happens....
This is where being non-judgmental really comes into play.
There isn't any miracle process in action here at all. If she wants to get out of that victim rut she needs to direct that at the next asshat keeping her in it. The game she is playing is not "standing up" for herself at all. Thats like someone becoming a thief and start stealing just because someone stole from them. She is no different than the ******** that "victimzed" her now. Its not your problem to fix for sure, and shes not gonna fix herself by "victimizing" people that have not done anything to her except giving her attention. Shes an ******* now just like the ******** that made her that way. Thats not a "natural" thing, its weak and shows how screwed up she really is. She may grow up and quit playing all the games one day, until then she'll stay in one rut or another. Karma is keeping score, its what keeps the universe in balance.
karma dosnt exist....
if you believe it dose. then it'll be done on to you.
like I said...if you make her feel guilty it's just adds more guilt to her.
She's already in the process of stabalizing by confessing.
It's just acceptence and unconditional love.
all of these things that we're discussing are after the facts.
Been in recovery for too long. On both side of the coin.
Addiction, alcoholism, codependency...ect
There's alot the comes in the playing field of that arena.
Abusive relationship, dysfunctions, abandenment, isolations....ect
Most of not all people that enters recovery had lived through very
truamatic experince. Had been abused in one form or another.
Mental abuse, physical abuse, sexually abused...ect
It gets adress.....
You can tell her she has her head up her ass all day long
or tell her she's messed up. She needs help.
But you better have a workable salutions for her too.
A salution that will work for her...not for you.
A lot of copping skills and living tools that she must be willingly
somehow learn how to apply in her life.
Its not a shot in the arm instant gradification fixer upper.
And you certainly cant force her...she'll rebel
She didnt get that way over nite. She's certainly not going to
get well over nite. She'll probably act out several more times
Love...love heal wounds. It even burns away karma.
Unconditional love.
I love my daughter more than anything in life.
I wish for her to not suffer anytype of pains...even growing pains.
She's like a butterfly that's struggling out of the cacoon.
Through her struggles...she gains strenght in her wings.
If I touch her wings .She wont be able to fly.
I love her so I must ... let go.
That is the mirracle.
The only asshats around are the people standing on the outside judging her and condemning her.
The mother fucken rigthous perfect bitches casting stones.
Any of you fucken bitches that havnt sinned...cast a fucken stone...I dear you...go fucken right ahead.lmao
i didnt come to save the rightous bitches...I came to save the sinners.
I'll make another miracle so a blind man can see...excuse the fresia out of me..i got a fucken cross I gatta got
carry. BDSM...aint honeysuckle....
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