Doubt The Rabbit
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If I may...
That said, don't get this forum wrong. We're not "******* serious". We're serious and respectful to serious topics. This is a serious topic. Masson just expressed his opinion on it in a poor manner. But yes, let's not dwell on this for much longer - the morality of pedophilia doesn't matter in this case and discssing it is moot here. Plus I'm sure it's just making OP feel judged.
That said, I apologize for lashing out at you.
Anyway, I'm afraid I don't have any useful advice for OP that I can share without divulging my personal business to people I don't care to share it with. But, hey, good luck.
I think this is the best advice OP could possibly have.
I can't speak for BJD but I am appreciative of your apology. Not sure where you live or what other forums you've been to, but here (on this forum and in America), pedophilia is a very serious subject matter. It's not so much that we take everything seriously, but you simply touched on a subject that most of us take seriously. But thanks for the apologyMasson said:Fine I'l apologize , I don't want this thread to go in a totally different direction just because we don't agree. Lets agree to disagree.
Also I didn't know you take things so serious , I come from forums where people talk like this all the time and nobody takes it so serious. ( I'm not trying to offend you or anything , just saying ).
I was shocked, too, but in his apology he explained his point of view. He didn't mean to offend, even if he didn't use the right words to express his opinion ("rules are meant to be broken" = bad choice of words, bro) Where Masson is correct is that there are cultures that do condone marrying off young children to have sex (to which my only opinion on that matter is that "cultures" are not decided by children - they are decided by adults. Children don't make the decision of having sex so early. Adults make it for them.) Maybe it's not illegal where he is. America isn't the only lawmaking country. Looking back on Masson's post, what he said is true (except the rules are meant to be broken part), it was the attitude about it that upset me.LeaningIntoTheMuse said:Okay, you have now learned the reality of A Lonely Life...everyone is usually ******* serious here.
But I was also shocked by what you wrote, and I'm not the most PC person in the world.
Let's get this back on topic. The OP is struggling to free himself from his pedophilia addiction. Let's not say that something that is ILLEGAL and HARMFUL is actually not illegal and harmful, mmm'kay? That doesn't benefit anyone, especially the OP.
That said, don't get this forum wrong. We're not "******* serious". We're serious and respectful to serious topics. This is a serious topic. Masson just expressed his opinion on it in a poor manner. But yes, let's not dwell on this for much longer - the morality of pedophilia doesn't matter in this case and discssing it is moot here. Plus I'm sure it's just making OP feel judged.
(Even though you're not talking to me) As I said above, I don't know where you're from so perhaps it isn't even illegal where you are. Pedophilia in itself is potentially harmful (and in OP's case, child porn is illegal), and speaking on its behalf won't really sway people in your favor. However, looking back on it, what you said may have given some comfort to OP considering you didn't judge him or his morals at all. After all, he's just like the rest of us trying to overcome personal problems...for us to judge him is just being hypocritical. Just make sure to think about how others will react to the things you say before you say them. Your opinion may be valid but no one will listen if you don't deliver it well.Masson said:Please show me where did I wrote that someting illegal and harmful is not illegal and harmful and I will edit all my posts here.
That said, I apologize for lashing out at you.
Anyway, I'm afraid I don't have any useful advice for OP that I can share without divulging my personal business to people I don't care to share it with. But, hey, good luck.
nerdygirl said:That's great! I'm glad you've been making progress. Keep it going.
I think you might be making this harder on yourself than it has to be. I mean, I don't know how it is to have this sort of dysfunction, so I can only compare it to what other people experience. A guy who finds adult women sexy can go to a beach without freaking out about being surrounded by scantily clad women. He could go into an adult novelty store and be surrounded by pictures of naked women and adult toys without feeling overwhelmingly aroused. Is what you experience around a child different? If so, could you please try to explain?
Right now, I can only think that part of your extreme anxiety is because you're so incredibly focused on not seeing a young girl that way. Obviously, I'm not encouraging you to see them sexually. What I'm saying is that you must try to see them as desexualized human beings.
When you're in a store, remind yourself that you're in a store. Yes, you must try and control your thoughts, redirect them if they go the wrong way. That's all part of keeping yourself in check. However, no matter what thoughts go flying through your head, you're probably not going to act on them... just as a guy on the beach probably isn't going to violate some random woman in a bikini. Some guy in an adult toy store isn't going to start humping the cute cashier. You're not going to assault a little girl. You are not a victim of your disorder. Tell yourself that when you start feeling overwhelmed.
I think this is the best advice OP could possibly have.