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Despair
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All my life I have this problem where I get my hopes up with people, and when they change plans, lie to me, dump me, etc.. I crumble to pieces. Until I learned the secret to not getting hurt... is to just stay broken.
This is especially true in relationships... If you trust someone, you make yourself vulnurable, you even assume there is intimacy where there may only be infatuation. If you're pessimistic then you assume she will dump you, you assume she will cheat on you, you assume she doesn't love you, and you know what? Every little thing she (or he) does will have the added advantage of making you unexpectedly happy. Expect to get hurt and you'll be happy, expect to be happy and you'll get hurt. Or humble yourself and be exalted, exalt yourself and be humbled. It works... every... single.... time.
Depend on no one... Define the true source of your loneliness... Don't focus on where you are, focus on where you're going. You can't just permanently maintain a state of absolute positivity. If you're at the top of the world, the only way to go is down. So start each day at the very bottom, expecting the worst. Then you will appreciate every little thing, because we are always moving. That's why the grass is always greener.
Life is a very deep interplay of polar opposites... Yin and yang, action and reaction. If you have a strict heaven that is always paradise, then paradise itself becomes meaningless. If you can't get away with from that paradise and suffer, then you can't ever really appreciate it.
We as humans try to have a good, fun, existence, but we always forget to give the negative the respect it deserves. No matter what you believe or explore, there is room for doubt. The stars would not shine without the black canvas of space, and light alone is as blinding as darkness.
Even knowing this, it is easy to forget. It is hard to put this concept into practice, but let me assure you of one thing. If you DON'T give the negative yin energy it's proper place in your life, the Universe WILL do it for you. Every good thing in your life will be taken for granted and diluted to compensate.
So be a pessimist... Make a daily affirmation of humility... Embrace the broken empty negative... That way everyone in the universe will want to brighten your day... And when you've got this down, try to work in the law of attraction (which requires positive thinking.) If I ever figure out how to do this without my head asploding, I'll let you know.
This is especially true in relationships... If you trust someone, you make yourself vulnurable, you even assume there is intimacy where there may only be infatuation. If you're pessimistic then you assume she will dump you, you assume she will cheat on you, you assume she doesn't love you, and you know what? Every little thing she (or he) does will have the added advantage of making you unexpectedly happy. Expect to get hurt and you'll be happy, expect to be happy and you'll get hurt. Or humble yourself and be exalted, exalt yourself and be humbled. It works... every... single.... time.
Depend on no one... Define the true source of your loneliness... Don't focus on where you are, focus on where you're going. You can't just permanently maintain a state of absolute positivity. If you're at the top of the world, the only way to go is down. So start each day at the very bottom, expecting the worst. Then you will appreciate every little thing, because we are always moving. That's why the grass is always greener.
Life is a very deep interplay of polar opposites... Yin and yang, action and reaction. If you have a strict heaven that is always paradise, then paradise itself becomes meaningless. If you can't get away with from that paradise and suffer, then you can't ever really appreciate it.
We as humans try to have a good, fun, existence, but we always forget to give the negative the respect it deserves. No matter what you believe or explore, there is room for doubt. The stars would not shine without the black canvas of space, and light alone is as blinding as darkness.
Even knowing this, it is easy to forget. It is hard to put this concept into practice, but let me assure you of one thing. If you DON'T give the negative yin energy it's proper place in your life, the Universe WILL do it for you. Every good thing in your life will be taken for granted and diluted to compensate.
So be a pessimist... Make a daily affirmation of humility... Embrace the broken empty negative... That way everyone in the universe will want to brighten your day... And when you've got this down, try to work in the law of attraction (which requires positive thinking.) If I ever figure out how to do this without my head asploding, I'll let you know.
