CenotaphGirl
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Im far too innocent for this convo 
Questions for the Men
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I believe men in Modern World face severe discrimination. I understand that many people will disagree with me. I do not agree with MRAs 100% -- as a Jew I oppose any attempt to ban circumcision.
I am not here to argue, I am here to find help. There are many places online where I can argue with people -- even insult each other.
Sadly having unpopular opinions in a Society which does not tolerate these opinions dooms one to loneliness. I am looking for Zoom friends who understand me.
I believe this to be accurate for normal people:
CenotaphGirl
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Stop stopppp you mean theres a science to this?!I believe this to be accurate for normal people:
Bam111
Abandon your fear. Look forward.
So are all the guys checking themselves right now? Anybody here in the Ideal zone? I barely made it to satisfying. Luckily my hand isn't picky. 
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Thank you for confirming my suspicions in this department. I am a godI believe this to be accurate for normal people:
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I believe this to be accurate for normal people:
I'm reasonably sure a guy made that graph and the data is satire.
ACTUALLY, I'm gonna evoke some old internet satire here.
I used to think this video was hilarious as a kid, and I always wondered what happened to the guy who made it.
The guy who made this video, probably made that graph.
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Pretty soon my little sergeant major won't be able to stand to attention any more anyway.So are all the guys checking themselves right now? Anybody here in the Ideal zone? I barely made it to satisfying. Luckily my hand isn't picky.
Bam111
Abandon your fear. Look forward.
I'm reasonably sure a guy made that graph and the data is satire.
ACTUALLY, I'm gonna evoke some old internet satire here.
I used to think this video was hilarious as a kid, and I always wondered what happened to the guy who made it.
The guy who made this video, probably made that graph.
dear sweet jebious that voice and the randomness of the guy in the video awesome
CenotaphGirl
Under the dirt, that’s my home ⚰️
As a man… if you hated a woman you had a previous relationship with…. thought she was toxic and abusive… why would you keep asking her to come back to you? Why would you constantly ask her if she is seeing anyone? Why would you crave her? Why would you dump rebound after rebound just to have her again? Why would you stay with her whenever she cant find anyone else to keep her company and drive her anywhere she asks? Why would you plan kids with her? Why would you wanna marry her? Be truthful… do you think that would mean you dont actually think she is toxic, could that mean you dont actually hate her?
Bam111
Abandon your fear. Look forward.
Since you were so kind as to answer my question I feal it is only right I answer yours (these are my perspectives and I am sure there will be many, many, many.... more to fallow this analogy I give) so the best way I can share is to break them down into short question and answer format:
Question: As a man… if you hated a woman, you had a previous relationship with…. thought she was toxic and abusive… why would you keep asking her to come back to you?
Response: I don't hate women but ok so to answer this (in my perspective) she usually has a reasoning for the said toxic abusive nature could be many things (factors) will I take the time to understand those traits (personally I have before in the past) I don't ask her to come back to me, but usually the men who do are feeling different emotions whether they be (insecurity without her, obsessive, controlling whether she is abusive or not the male could also be obsessed with her physical or emotional energy ie (craves the attention she give whether it be negative or otherwise it's in the eye of the beholder) there are many factors these are just a few traits.)
Why would you constantly ask her if she is seeing anyone?
Why would you crave her?
Why would you dump rebound after rebound just to have her again?
Response: these to me are the same question asking in a different manner. and also, can be answered with the above statement of personality disorder.
Why would you stay with her whenever she can't find anyone else to keep her company and drive her anywhere, she asks?
Response: Is it odd to you that men might do this? It can be because even though you have broken the man's heart or simply went your separate ways that the man still values your friendship companionship or hopes for (some odd reason or another there is hope left.)
Why would you plan kids with her?
Response: Why do women plan kids? probably the same reason as a man does lol because he sees you as a potential mother to his children or is trying to capture or control you by locking you into a parenting role to his offspring, could also be unplanned really some just don't think with the top part of their head.
So yea anyways I do hope this helped as far as some perspective, and like I said I am very sure that there will be many different perspectives to this response so take it as a grain of salt amongst the endless sea of sand in the desert.
Have a great day take care. I'm going back to my research and creation of a new thread.
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Bam111
Abandon your fear. Look forward.
I'm reasonably sure a guy made that graph and the data is satire.
ACTUALLY, I'm gonna evoke some old internet satire here.
I used to think this video was hilarious as a kid, and I always wondered what happened to the guy who made it.
The guy who made this video, probably made that graph.
omg I am still not over the randomness of this video.... lol and sorry for the typos in the response above this one it was late when I typed it.
this video is going to get stuck in my head I blame you NoxApex
Why do we go back to people who hurt us Princess?.
Here's a list pick the ones ( if any ) that fit. We, as humans, are creatures of habit, meaning that once we develop a routine, it can be hard for us to break free from it.
For some, familiar pain is a source of comfort, so it comes as no surprise that those people find themselves in a constant cycle of hurt. Where this pain pattern stems from is unique to each individual. When pain is all you know, it can be challenging to seek alternative behaviours.
We are blinded by love. It’s easy to get caught up in a relationship, even when it’s toxic. Later, we’ll tell ourselves “Maybe they’ll change” or “Maybe things will be different this time” in order to justify going back.
The drama itself can be addicting for some people. One friend told me that she gave her ex another chance because she believed he had to make up for how he had mistreated her in the past. While people do have the capacity to change, more often than not a person won’t change their innate nature.
Because it's easy, Investing time and energy into a relationship is a lot of work, and the thought of starting over can seem daunting. Dating takes a lot of effort. Opening ourselves up to someone new inevitably comes with the potential to be hurt again. It’s scary, and that fear alone is enough to keep people at bay.
When we’ve made ourselves vulnerable to someone and labelled them as a person who knows us, it can be hard to categorise them as unsafe.
When you’ve had some distance from a partner, it’s also easy to romanticise the good memories until, suddenly, the bad memories are less significant. Repressing negative memories is a tool we use to protect ourselves from reexperiencing trauma.
Reviving relationships with people who have hurt us has to do with self worth issues. Trying to break free from a toxic relationship, and then returning to it, feeds and fuels an unhealthy cycle of low self-esteem and feelings of worthlessness. These feelings can make us believe that we are undeserving of, unworthy of, or not good enough for a better love.
Lastly,, it’s not uncommon for people in toxic relationships to experience a sort of “Stockholm Syndrome in which they begin to favour their abusers. Many people in this situation are convinced (either by themselves, by their partners, or both) that this is the “best” relationship they’ll ever have. Of course, this is untrue, and a tactic used to justify abuse and/or neglect.
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That is a classical fantasy ... to end up as the only male on a tropical desert island with a group of all the women you want
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Bam111
Abandon your fear. Look forward.
I find it humorous lol if you fallow his posts, he does this quite often playfully asks silly questions to get silly answers lol he makes games and other content the same way. It's interesting and funny at the same time
sweet. Thanks for the confidence boost.I believe this to be accurate for normal people:
CenotaphGirl
Under the dirt, that’s my home ⚰️
Since you were so kind as to answer my question I feal it is only right I answer yours (these are my perspectives and I am sure there will be many, many, many.... more to fallow this analogy I give) so the best way I can share is to break them down into short question and answer format:
Question: As a man… if you hated a woman, you had a previous relationship with…. thought she was toxic and abusive… why would you keep asking her to come back to you?
Response: I don't hate women but ok so to answer this (in my perspective) she usually has a reasoning for the said toxic abusive nature could be many things (factors) will I take the time to understand those traits (personally I have before in the past) I don't ask her to come back to me, but usually the men who do are feeling different emotions whether they be (insecurity without her, obsessive, controlling whether she is abusive or not the male could also be obsessed with her physical or emotional energy ie (craves the attention she give whether it be negative or otherwise it's in the eye of the beholder) there are many factors these are just a few traits.)
Why would you constantly ask her if she is seeing anyone?
Why would you crave her?
Why would you dump rebound after rebound just to have her again?
Response: these to me are the same question asking in a different manner. and also, can be answered with the above statement of personality disorder.
Why would you stay with her whenever she can't find anyone else to keep her company and drive her anywhere, she asks?
Response: Is it odd to you that men might do this? It can be because even though you have broken the man's heart or simply went your separate ways that the man still values your friendship companionship or hopes for (some odd reason or another there is hope left.)
Why would you plan kids with her?
Response: Why do women plan kids? probably the same reason as a man does lol because he sees you as a potential mother to his children or is trying to capture or control you by locking you into a parenting role to his offspring, could also be unplanned really some just don't think with the top part of their head.
So yea anyways I do hope this helped as far as some perspective, and like I said I am very sure that there will be many different perspectives to this response so take it as a grain of salt amongst the endless sea of sand in the desert.
Thanks for taking the time to respond mi laddie!
I appreciate your perspective, men are from mars or whatever and I guess it's telling... I simply cannot understand them. I asked the question because...my ex hates me... but he's all over me... I'm so conflicted and I'm so alone. When I considered myself a toxic person, I was happier, happy because I knew I was toxic and could simply stop, but now I'm trying to be good I'm depressed, because I have no idea what I am doing wrong anymore, no idea how to stop, and no idea why the way I love is abusive... maybe I dont know how to love.
that would a nightmare, not a fantasy.That is a classical fantasy ... to end up as the only male on a tropical desert island with a group of all the women you want
