Questions for the Men

[CenotaphGirl]

Well okay okay lads my last question for the mens section for today is...

Would you date a girl that works as a cam girl? Or would you think her job is immoral and not for a woman in a relationship?

 

[Sunless Sky]

Well okay okay lads my last question for the mens section for today is...

Would you date a girl that works as a cam girl? Or would you think her job is immoral and not for a woman in a relationship?

For me, it's not about her job being immoral or anything. I wouldnt get up on my pedestal and judge her.

I think that in a relationship, both partners belong to each other, no one else. So, for this hypothetical relationship to work, she would have to quit and find another job or become a housewife, I can provide for both of us. Then again, as I mentioned before, I am very protective and possessive so my answer isn't free of personal bias.

As far as dating her is concerned however, I wouldn't expect her to quit right away until our relationship became serious. If we did have a connection, I wouldn't throw it all away on account of her profession.

Tldr; I wouldn't be okay with her work but that wouldn't stop me from dating her if a connection is there.

 

[randomguy]

Well okay okay lads my last question for the mens section for today is...

Would you date a girl that works as a cam girl? Or would you think her job is immoral and not for a woman in a relationship?

Defo yeah, I could sleep with loads of her girlfriends while she was working innit

 

[M_also_lonely]

Would you date a girl that works as a cam girl?

No.

 

[M_also_lonely]

Would you judge a potential partner on their work ethic/performance and attitude towards their job?

Not consciously, and specifically. But the way she sees life will be reflected in how he handles her duties.
If she does things with humility, genuine love and devotion, I'd be drawn.

 

[TheSkaFish]

Well okay okay lads my last question for the mens section for today is...

Would you date a girl that works as a cam girl? Or would you think her job is immoral and not for a woman in a relationship?

Maybe, if there's genuine interest and affection. But then again, I don't know, it would be hard for me.

I think the kind of person who would become a cam girl in the first place, probably wouldn't be compatible with me by nature/temperament. They're probably more extraverted than me, more confident, and raunchier than I am and more of a risk-taker. They'd probably see me as too tame and boring, weak and "uncool", not wild and exciting and masculine enough for them.

 

[ewomack]

OMG I'm going to have way too much fun in this thread!!! Who allowed me to find this!?!? lol Sorry but I really appreciate a mans perspective on these topics.

Okay, so now... ugh im a nightmare but I have to ask because I find it interesting how different people consider cheating as different things,

You are dating a girl, and you find out she's been having an emotional affair online only. She's been messaging a guy and there has been "I love yous" exchanged. She explained that it was simply a fantasy and you're the only man she loves. Would you end the relationship ?

If it was a real man on the other end, then it wasn't "simply a fantasy." If it was some kind of bot or simulation, then she might be able to get away with the "fantasy" excuse. I wouldn't break up with her immediately, but I would want to have a serious talk about the relationship and her commitment to it. At the very least, it would be a serious breach of trust that would need to get healed.

 

[ewomack]

Well okay okay lads my last question for the mens section for today is...

Would you date a girl that works as a cam girl? Or would you think her job is immoral and not for a woman in a relationship?

That would depend on a lot. Why is she working as a cam girl? What does her being a cam girl involve? I wouldn't dismiss her outright, but I would want to know more before getting serious. It would make me proceed with caution, at the very least.

Some guys might even find the "naughtiness" of her job appealing. The book "Candy Girl" tells the story of a woman who takes up stripping as a side career while dating a guy who loves the fact that she's a stripper. There are many, many kinds of people in the world.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

For me, it's not about her job being immoral or anything. I wouldnt get up on my pedestal and judge her.

I think that in a relationship, both partners belong to each other, no one else. So, for this hypothetical relationship to work, she would have to quit and find another job or become a housewife, I can provide for both of us. Then again, as I mentioned before, I am very protective and possessive so my answer isn't free of personal bias.

As far as dating her is concerned however, I wouldn't expect her to quit right away until our relationship became serious. If we did have a connection, I wouldn't throw it all away on account of her profession.

Tldr; I wouldn't be okay with her work but that wouldn't stop me from dating her if a connection is there.

Ooooh I like this response, that you wouldn't judge, but later in the relationship you'll start to expect her to quit.

Maybe, if there's genuine interest and affection. But then again, I don't know, it would be hard for me.

I think the kind of person who would become a cam girl in the first place, probably wouldn't be compatible with me by nature/temperament. They're probably more extraverted than me, more confident, and raunchier than I am and more of a risk-taker. They'd probably see me as too tame and boring, weak and "uncool", not wild and exciting and masculine enough for them.

Hmm interesting, so you'd be more worried about not being her type, than the job itself?

That would depend on a lot. Why is she working as a cam girl? What does her being a cam girl involve? I wouldn't dismiss her outright, but I would want to know more before getting serious. It would make me proceed with caution, at the very least.

Some guys might even find the "naughtiness" of her job appealing. The book "Candy Girl" tells the story of a woman who takes up stripping as a side career while dating a guy who loves the fact that she's a stripper. There are many, many kinds of people in the world.

Kinda like a online stripper lol Its interesting that most guys on here aren't the jealous type...

im way too jealous for all that You all have shown me, that maybe I am a little too jealous

 

[TheSkaFish]

Hmm interesting, so you'd be more worried about not being her type, than the job itself?

Yeah, kinda. It's one thing if I fell for this person and they fell for me too.

But I'm saying that the very nature of the work, the kind of personality who would do that in the first place, probably wouldn't be my type, and they probably wouldn't see me as their type either.

I'd have a tough time saying "no" to Lucy Collett, though (not a camgirl but a glamour model). Because her asking me out is totally a thing that could happen, and it's important for me to think about it so that I'm prepared. Just sayin'

 

[ewomack]

Kinda like a online stripper lol Its interesting that most guys on here aren't the jealous type...

im way too jealous for all that You all have shown me, that maybe I am a little too jealous

I wouldn't say that "you're too jealous," you just know your boundaries, which is important. But it's also good to test those boundaries, because you never know who you'll end up being compatible with, you may end up surprised.

I will say that I'm having a hard time reconciling this with another thread you started earlier, but perhaps that's no longer an issue.

 

[Colster]

Okay okay okay, so im gonna step it up a notch since I am impressed with all the answers,

Do you guys think its okay for a boyfriend to ask his girlfriend not to wear an outfit out with her girl friends if he thinks its too revealing?

Also, is her posting revealing pictures on social media... cheating?

I have heard suchhh varying opinions on this....

Yeah, a guy is entitled to an opinion. But is this opinion based on jealousy, religious bigotry, etc. Or, is he simply stating that perhaps on one occasion, you went OTT.

revealing pictures is a rabbit warren of debate. A brief and very generalised view is, she does because she seeks male attention, protest as she might, that IS why it's done. The cheating is not necessarily physical, she may never any intention of pursuing another intimately. However, she is pursuing make attention, deliberately so.

WE can further debate a woman's right to freedom. You do indeed have the right to live as you see fit. If anyone wanted to tease guys in the old interwebby, then so be it. However, why even bother being with anyone, if you still require affirmations from others multiple.

But, there are guys who pursue the Instagram models, and then expect them to change, which is never going to happen either. People become highly addicted to receiving notifications, even negative ones. So imagine the euphoria of dozens upon dozens of guys, all praising you. Nobody gives that up until either their brain frazzles, or the bank account is well padded.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

I will say that I'm having a hard time reconciling this with another thread you started earlier, but perhaps that's no longer an issue.

Ohh fair points, i'm gonna be honest im scratching my head a little at this bit, dumb it down for me? lol

Yeah, a guy is entitled to an opinion. But is this opinion based on jealousy, religious bigotry, etc. Or, is he simply stating that perhaps on one occasion, you went OTT.

revealing pictures is a rabbit warren of debate. A brief and very generalised view is, she does because she seeks male attention, protest as she might, that IS why it's done. The cheating is not necessarily physical, she may never any intention of pursuing another intimately. However, she is pursuing make attention, deliberately so.

WE can further debate a woman's right to freedom. You do indeed have the right to live as you see fit. If anyone wanted to tease guys in the old interwebby, then so be it. However, why even bother being with anyone, if you still require affirmations from others multiple.

But, there are guys who pursue the Instagram models, and then expect them to change, which is never going to happen either. People become highly addicted to receiving notifications, even negative ones. So imagine the euphoria of dozens upon dozens of guys, all praising you. Nobody gives that up until either their brain frazzles, or the bank account is well padded.

ooh I also think this perspective is valid, I have to say a lot of guys tell me that they understand certain posts/pics when someones single, but they dont understand why they get into a relationship and keep doing it (by a lot my brother and all his bros lol). I will say though that if she's a model... thats just way different than some random girl fishing for likes, its the literal job in some cases. But like most men wanna be pro footballers most women wanna be models. (very broad stereotyping but I hope it kinda makes a point more than cause upset).

 

[Colster]

Ohh fair points, i'm gonna be honest im scratching my head a little at this bit, dumb it down for me? lol


ooh I also think this perspective is valid, I have to say a lot of guys tell me that they understand certain posts/pics when someones single, but they dont understand why they get into a relationship and keep doing it (by a lot my brother and all his bros lol). I will say though that if she's a model... thats just way different than some random girl fishing for likes, its the literal job in some cases. But like most men wanna be pro footballers most women wanna be models. (very broad stereotyping but I hope it kinda makes a point more than cause upset).

If you date either a footballer or a model, then that's what you get, and you cannot complain. But how many footballers have a bazillion photos of themselves on insta, posing with butts out, full pout, fishing for compliments.

Personally, I have no issue with modelling, even provocative through to pornography. If that's who you date, then that's who they are. I would merely hope they are business savy, and not in Insta fishing for compliments.

And, as we all know, some guys just try too hard to be the man they think is expected of them.

 

[beingnobody]

You wanna do nothing together, virtually?

 

[CenotaphGirl]

If you date either a footballer or a model, then that's what you get, and you cannot complain. But how many footballers have a bazillion photos of themselves on insta, posing with butts out, full pout, fishing for compliments.

Personally, I have no issue with modelling, even provocative through to pornography. If that's who you date, then that's who they are. I would merely hope they are business savy, and not in Insta fishing for compliments.

And, as we all know, some guys just try too hard to be the man they think is expected of them.

I mean, models post pictures like that and "most" women want to be models, so... they emulate that behaviour. Sometimes that can be all it is, in the sense that they want to feel like a model even though they aren't one. Like I often compare it to how some men will join a Sunday league or watch football religiously, because they love football so much and want to live and breathe it as if they are a player themselves, when they are not. I just mean that is just another perspective/reason than they're doing it for male attention.

I think in this social age, being social media famous is business savvy for a model, it's also powerful for a girl who would never really be considered for modelling outside of social media for example a girl who struggles to meet lower height restrictions.. also I think it gives false hope that anyone can be a model and so you get people... posting revealing pics trying to out do each other.

And, as we all know, some guys just try too hard to be the man they think is expected of them.

Sorry, this point was interesting to me, "the man they think is expected of them"? Do you mean they can sometimes pretend to have an issue as they think they should?

 

[Colster]

I mean, models post pictures like that and "most" women want to be models, so... they emulate that behaviour. Sometimes that can be all it is, in the sense that they want to feel like a model even though they aren't one. Like I often compare it to how some men will join a Sunday league or watch football religiously, because they love football so much and want to live and breathe it as if they are a player themselves, when they are not. I just mean that is just another perspective/reason than they're doing it for male attention.

I think in this social age, being social media famous is business savvy for a model, it's also powerful for a girl who would never really be considered for modelling outside of social media for example a girl who struggles to meet lower height restrictions.. also I think it gives false hope that anyone can be a model and so you get people... posting revealing pics trying to out do each other.



Sorry, this point was interesting to me, "the man they think is expected of them"? Do you mean they can sometimes pretend to have an issue as they think they should?

exactly that, yes!

 

[NoxApex(N/A)]

You are dating a girl, and you find out she's been having an emotional affair online only. She's been messaging a guy and there has been "I love yous" exchanged. She explained that it was simply a fantasy and you're the only man she loves. Would you end the relationship ?

Would you date a girl that works as a cam girl? Or would you think her job is immoral and not for a woman in a relationship?

I don't really care if she has online relationships, or if she does cam work, but I draw the line at actually going to meet clients. No meeting clients. That's both dangerous and stupid. But also if I'm going to take the relationship seriously, that shouldn't be her primary form of income, that should be the side hustle. Ya gotta have a day job, like an actual day job, and actually properly apply yourself to that day job and develop a real work ethic. Otherwise I just can't take it seriously.

I kind of have a background in operations management and logistics, so when it comes to business credentials in relationships, I don't really have high expectations, but I do have a no-bullshit expectation. I don't fresia around with my life, because hey: It's my life.

I don't care if she works in food service or at a gas station, so long as she's got a consistent day job and a work ethic that'll hopefully help her develop a resume to move up. I know A LOT of highly creative people, both men and women, all trying to make their side hustles into their day jobs, and not a single one has succeeded in doing it in the last 10 years. So, I'm okay with it, but also, don't try to bullshit me about it. For one thing, I've got gypsy blood in me, ya can't bullshit the people who invented bullshitting.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

I don't really care if she has online relationships, or if she does cam work, but I draw the line at actually going to meet clients. No meeting clients. That's both dangerous and stupid. But also if I'm going to take the relationship seriously, that shouldn't be her primary form of income, that should be the side hustle. Ya gotta have a day job, like an actual day job, and actually properly apply yourself to that day job and develop a real work ethic. Otherwise I just can't take it seriously.

I kind of have a background in operations management and logistics, so when it comes to business credentials in relationships, I don't really have high expectations, but I do have a no-bullshit expectation. I don't fresia around with my life, because hey: It's my life.

I don't care if she works in food service or at a gas station, so long as she's got a consistent day job and a work ethic that'll hopefully help her develop a resume to move up. I know A LOT of highly creative people, both men and women, all trying to make their side hustles into their day jobs, and not a single one has succeeded in doing it in the last 10 years. So, I'm okay with it, but also, don't try to bullshit me about it. For one thing, I've got gypsy blood in me, ya can't bullshit the people who invented bullshitting.

oooh this is a new perspective, fair enough to the not meeting clients bit. Yeah I agree, I think it is often just a side hustle, usually just doing it to save for a cosmetic procedure or a girls trip.

I think its interesting that you care if your partner works, I've never had a man say anything like that to me lol im intrigued, I have to ask, as not everyone is "working class"...

Do you think you could be with someone maybe who never works, or works but doesn't take it seriously as its more a bit of fun that an actual requirement to a full life?

 

[ardour]

Well okay okay lads my last question for the mens section for today is...

Would you date a girl that works as a cam girl? Or would you think her job is immoral and not for a woman in a relationship?

No, they'd have incompatible values and ideas about what counts as monogamy.

I can generalize to say most of us wouldn't like the idea of thousands of men masturbating to a girlfriend's naked body online while she does whatever to please them. It's not the same as modelling when it's overtly objectifying oneself for the sexual gratification of strangers. Quite an extreme thing to expect acceptance over this.