Not sure where to put this on ALL. It's about loneliness, yes, and it effects self-esteem and confidence, but it's also about relationships. Maybe it's even a social problem. So I'll put it here anyway ...
Does anyone have a problem with feeling as though your not accepted, or recognised, sexually? I'm not talking about the lack of sexual activity (although that is part of it), but about feeling as though your supposed to have no sexual feeling at all. That any attempt to express your sexuality, no matter which way it might be, is either totally ignored, or you encounter outright anger and hostility. That your even told not to have any sexual thoughts or desires or interest, not so much from any religious reasons, but apparently just because any thought of you being sexual is abhorrent to others in some way.
I have to say that I have felt like this a lot, and encountered it for most of my life. Being told to ignore or forget any ideas of sex, or even romance, and focus on other things. Being told that it shouldn't be important to me, and yet then hearing, and knowing in myself, that it is important to self-esteem. I've been told that I should be happy still being a virgin, because sex is over-rated ... yet those that make that claim will not counter any thought of giving it up themselves. When I try to express any form of sexual desire or interest, I just meet hostility to it, anger, or I'm flatly ignored. I've even been told on occasions that I should find some form of medication that will lower my libido, not because I want to, but because it seemingly makes those who have made the suggestion more comfortable. I must add that I am in no way aggressive or anything. If anything I am quite shy.
Anyway. I don't know if I have made any sense. And in a way, it's not just about six and sexuality, but also about affection, and having a connection with someone that is a bit more than just words and conversation. I'm someone who has never experienced physical affection. No hugs or cuddles. No hand to hold. No kisses. That's part of why I have not, and won't, go to an escort or anything like that. Because you are just paying for a service. A simple, cold, commercial transaction, without affection or emotion.
I just wonder sometimes, wether anyone has found the same sort of thing, or felt the same way.
Does anyone have a problem with feeling as though your not accepted, or recognised, sexually? I'm not talking about the lack of sexual activity (although that is part of it), but about feeling as though your supposed to have no sexual feeling at all. That any attempt to express your sexuality, no matter which way it might be, is either totally ignored, or you encounter outright anger and hostility. That your even told not to have any sexual thoughts or desires or interest, not so much from any religious reasons, but apparently just because any thought of you being sexual is abhorrent to others in some way.
I have to say that I have felt like this a lot, and encountered it for most of my life. Being told to ignore or forget any ideas of sex, or even romance, and focus on other things. Being told that it shouldn't be important to me, and yet then hearing, and knowing in myself, that it is important to self-esteem. I've been told that I should be happy still being a virgin, because sex is over-rated ... yet those that make that claim will not counter any thought of giving it up themselves. When I try to express any form of sexual desire or interest, I just meet hostility to it, anger, or I'm flatly ignored. I've even been told on occasions that I should find some form of medication that will lower my libido, not because I want to, but because it seemingly makes those who have made the suggestion more comfortable. I must add that I am in no way aggressive or anything. If anything I am quite shy.
Anyway. I don't know if I have made any sense. And in a way, it's not just about six and sexuality, but also about affection, and having a connection with someone that is a bit more than just words and conversation. I'm someone who has never experienced physical affection. No hugs or cuddles. No hand to hold. No kisses. That's part of why I have not, and won't, go to an escort or anything like that. Because you are just paying for a service. A simple, cold, commercial transaction, without affection or emotion.
I just wonder sometimes, wether anyone has found the same sort of thing, or felt the same way.