Sexually frustrated

[Broken_Doll]

Nahh I'm a big boy, I'm sure I could handle ya. haha

I usually seem to scare away most guys I meet LOL.

Hmmm that's strange that he would just randomly act like that. Could it have been something that you did? Or that he THOUGHT you did?

Yeah, it is strange, there never seems to be any reason, or at least he acts like everything's fine, or he gets stroppy and irritable. I always ask him if something's wrong, I always try to talk to him/get him to talk. Usually he'll either say nothing's wrong and then kiss me or something, or he will get angry and start being verbally abusive.

It's good that you made up, though. No point in just getting bitter and building up anger against each other!

Yeah, at least we always make up and tell eachother we love eachother afterwards.

I'm an affectionate and physical person, but every now and then I just want to be left alone and this seems to upset my boyfriend (for example, we were cuddled up on the sofa, I was wearing a short skirt, he had his hand on my thigh and kept moving it up, I moved his hand back down and he got angry)...

 

[Badjedidude]

Well I'm not scared of you...yet! lol

Yeah, it is strange, there never seems to be any reason, or at least he acts like everything's fine, or he gets stroppy and irritable. I always ask him if something's wrong, I always try to talk to him/get him to talk. Usually he'll either say nothing's wrong and then kiss me or something, or he will get angry and start being verbally abusive.

Yeah, it's hard to tell sometimes if a person like that just has a cold/hot personality normally, or if there IS something wrong. But if you think there is something wrong, maybe from his past... then it could be worth looking into. *shrug*

I'm an affectionate and physical person, but every now and then I just want to be left alone and this seems to upset my boyfriend (for example, we were cuddled up on the sofa, I was wearing a short skirt, he had his hand on my thigh and kept moving it up, I moved his hand back down and he got angry)...

Haha I think that I would try the same thing. Short skirt + cuddling = oooohhhh nice!! lol Well it seems like he wanted sex and simply got mad when you wouldn't give it to him. I dunno if that happens a LOT for you, but I think it would happen at least a few times during any relationship, because there's always going to be at least one time when one person really wants sex or intimacy and the other really doesn't.

 

[suckaG]

So.....how's your flexibility?

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hmm.

currently not at peak, but i'm working on it! it's the intention and effort that count, right ?

 

[Broken_Doll]

Well I'm not scared of you...yet! lol

That's good to know. LOL.

Yeah, it's hard to tell sometimes if a person like that just has a cold/hot personality normally, or if there IS something wrong. But if you think there is something wrong, maybe from his past... then it could be worth looking into. *shrug*

It's hard to know because it's hard to get him to just talk to me if something's wrong. I don't think it's anything to do with his past, he told me it was all normal and that nothing happened. I do know he also gets bitchy and irritable and will moan about everything if he's had lots of coffee, or if he's sleepy, I leave him alone then and go read a book or something and he'll go do whatever then come back to me and be all nice an hour or so later, it's annoying because he's really childish and petulant sometimes.

Haha I think that I would try the same thing. Short skirt + cuddling = oooohhhh nice!! lol

LOL. XD

I just didn't want his hand up my skirt at that moment because his friend had walked into the room. Doesn't happen alot, I don't know why he reacted like that, he just said "Fine, be like that!" and pouted (sometimes I have to try really hard not to just LOL when he's being snotty over nothing or for no reason because it's really quite funny how childish he acts sometimes), I asked what was wrong and he didn't say anything and I gave him a kiss and everything seemed fine after that. I am never un-affectionte towards him, even if we fight I still tell him I love him or give him a kiss or something, it's very important to me that he knows I love him.

 

[Mr.Solution]

I think my signature photo is the answer to this

 

[MountainTop]

have i ever been sexually frustrated?

HAHA!

all. the. time.
seriously.
first off, Im catholic, secondly I want to be able to give myself to the woman i marry (if i ever find her) completely mentally and physically (yeah i know... crazy huh? i guess its because i was raised by my mom so im kinda a chick about somethings), so i have not had sex yet at 21 and half. But that doesnt mean I dont think about it... all the freaking time.
Especially after a victory of any sort. Ive been in a few local boxing matches, and after every one, i felt like grabbing the nearest woman and just sexing her till i couldnt move any more. Same thing after any football games.
Also after i work out, not to such a great extent, but its there.
And of course randomly throughout the day every day for no reason. Im a guy, what can i do about it? haha

 

[Badjedidude]

first off, Im catholic

Sexual repression. (no)

 

[MountainTop]

first off, Im catholic

Sexual repression. (no)

most definitely my friend.

No sex till marriage.

 

[Badjedidude]

No sex till marriage.

Not exactly what I was referring to.

Many Catholics tend to pretend that sex doesn't even EXIST. That's what I was talking about.

My problem with saving sex for marriage is that when you end up with your wife, she will be the ONLY person you've ever slept with. And that means:

#1: Despite whatever people tell you to the contrary, your first time will be nice and bloody awkard.
#2: The only reason you'll like sex with each other is because it's the only sex you've ever known. A whole WORLD of pleasure could be out there that you'll never get to try.
#3: Repressing your innate drives like that for so many years will make you eventually question your decision to wait.
#4: Saving sex doesn't really create any special bond in and of itself. Plenty of people save sex for marriage, get married, and then cheat on each other because they wonder what else is out there.

That's my problem with saving it. If it works for you... then good! Honestly!

But I just don't think it's an overall good strategy or a good way to view sex. I don't mean to preach at you or anything. Just sharing my mind on the issue.

 

[Remedy]

*No Filter at the moment since im feeling stressed about a family situation, going to offend most likely, but I shouldnt take it out on others @_@*

What the hell is so natural about sleeping around? Don't we consider ourselves above animals? I don't see how most human beings are even above animals when they go by instinct and hump anything they are attracted to. When you state there is a whole world of pleasure out there. I get the impression that this pleasure you talk about is for yourself feeling it which is selfish.

I guess everyone has their own views and opinions but I just see everything very differently then the way most of this world is becoming. The best desciption of sex I think of and have heard is like. It's the deepest and most intimate way of bonding with a person of the opposing gender(with my views). It is receiving pleasure and giving pleasure in the deepest, closest way possible. I know not everyone is the same but I only want to give pleasure like that to one person and one person only. That one person is the love of my life. I don't see how having sex with multiple people is even special. After awhile it just becomes an act and not an expression of love because of one's selfish desires.

I don't know when love, relationships, and intimacy started revolving around selfishness. It has become "what can you get from the person" instead of "what can you give to that person". Maybe everything tends to fail because of the fact that both sides do not think mutually. It is selfish thinking that way, it is what probably ruins marriages or relationships. I know that I have never experienced anything but I don't think selfishly at all. I just know and feel like I would enjoy sexual/intimate moments with the love of my life. Sex and my love is for the love of my life only.

I don't know what is so natural about having sex with so many people,intentionally. All it does is help spread Std's because of the fact that there are so many stupid people out there. Or brings kids into this world that won't be loved/treated the way they should be. There is so much selfishness in this moraless world and I think that is one of the problems that effects/complicates everything in a bad way.Like I said it has come down to "what can I get" not "what can I give". That is one of the most selfish things I have ever heard. Sleeping around just too find the most pleasure. I guess I just think differently then everyone else but it doesn't make sense.

I just think that the people who think with their hormones and trying to seek the most "pleasure"( pleasure to me is being with the person i love) should stick with people who think similar. People who have always dreamed about being having sex with the person they love and whom they want to spend a lifetime with. Should not be corrupted by the people who just want to fresia em and chuck em (excuse my language). They dont deserve it and should not feel ruined by someone who doesn't think the same way.

I guess some of us just look at sex as something special while others do not. Some people look at sex as an act where you receive pleasure for yourself. While others look at sex as making love and bonding with the person in the closest way possible. There is no way sex is special when you have it with as many people as you want. You are not saving it for anyone and saving it just feels much more special I don't know why. It just isn't special at all when it is treated as if it can be done and is done with multiple people. Everyone thinks differently but I feel it's just so special having sex with someone you know you are going to spend your life with.

I shouldn't have posted this but I guess I have no filter at the moment. I'm going through a big time family crisis so I guess that is causing me express my frustration with stuff I read more.

 

[Badjedidude]

Haha don't worry, dude, I won't get offended.

What the hell is so natural about sleeping around? Don't we consider ourselves above animals? I don't see how most human beings are even above animals when they go by instinct and hump anything they are attracted to. When you state there is a whole world of pleasure out there. I get the impression that this pleasure you talk about is for yourself feeling it which is selfish.

OK, for starters, there's a HUGE difference between having sex before marriage and "sleeping around." I never advocated free-range promiscuity or something. I was just saying that it's nothing to lose a bunch of sleep over if you end up having sex with a girl before you get married. *shrug*

And YES, it is selfish to want pleasure for myself. But there's nothing wrong with wanting pleasure for yourself. It's not like I declared that I wouldn't do my best to pleasure the woman I was with; my philosophy on sex is that I need to give 150% (and then some) and simply hope for a bit in return.

\What I meant by a world of pleasure being out there is that different women like different things. If you only have sex with one woman, you may end up only having sex pretty much the same way for the rest of your life, with no room for experimentation or anything. IMHO, there's nothing wrong with wanting to explore sexuality...and that can sometimes be hard to do if a virgin marries a virgin. *shrug* lol

Should not be corrupted by the people who just want to fresia em and chuck em (excuse my language). They dont deserve it and should not feel ruined by someone who doesn't think the same way.

I am in no way a supporter of the fresia 'em chuck 'em doctrine. lol

I guess some of us just look at sex as something special while others do not. Some people look at sex as an act where you receive pleasure for yourself. While others look at sex as making love and bonding with the person in the closest way possible. There is no way sex is special when you have it with as many people as you want.

I do believe that sex is very special. Again, this is just my personal belief. If waiting for marriage is what works for you (or anyone else), then go for it! I wouldn't try to stop anyone from experiencing that. It's just my personal opinion that it's OK to have sex before getting married.

And again, having sex before marriage does NOT mean simply sleeping around willy-nilly without a care in the world. Sex is a big thing with big consequences. It's important to be careful about who one has it with; and not just because of STD's. Hearts and souls can be made or broken with sex, and it's up to the people involved to have the discernment to have sex responsibly.

I shouldn't have posted this but I guess I have no filter at the moment. I'm going through a big time family crisis so I guess that is causing me express my frustration with stuff I read more.

NOOOO Don't apologize for this! I think it's a good thing. It can be very cathartic to finally just let loose every once in a while, with no filters on. It shows a healthy level of assertiveness and self-confidence, IMHO.

So no prob, man.

 

[QuietGuy]

I'm going through a big time family crisis

Would it help to discuss it here, or would you rather not?

 

[edgecrusher]

can you be sexually frustrated even though youve never had it before?

 

[Depressedology]

ultimate sexual desperation indeeed!. put me to drugs and addiction. isolation, weirdness.. just a **** worthless crazy loner

 

[suckaG]

can you be sexually frustrated even though youve never had it before?

helllls yeah!

 

[edgecrusher]

can you be sexually frustrated even though youve never had it before?

helllls yeah!

i guess thats what i am then.

 

[TheMuffinMan]

Every time I have had sex (which is infrequently) I have had difficulty figuring out good positions and penetrating whilst wearing a condom which has always been a disappointment for both of us. The physical side can't do it for me, I don't know if I need my mind stimulated further or if I need close intimacy with someone but I would describe it as very frustrating.

Partly though, I would say i've been in a sexual malaise since I grew up young with an internet connection in my room and access to pornography. I've been completely desensitized and burnt out on fantasising about vanilla sex, after developing a taste for fetishist acts and BDSM which I wasn't old enough to comprehend the ambiguous nature of fully. It left me feeling rather unsure about myself sexually, and i've only recently started coming to terms with understanding myself in this manner and realising how many people out there have their own little peculiarities I can relate to.

I completely love and respect women, problem is when it comes to having vanilla sex and i'm not fully erect because she can't stimulate me I always feel bad. I love the intimacy of being close, but when it comes to pleasuring her I can only do it through foreplay.

That is so similar to myself it's kind of scary.

I am very sexually frustrated, it's been 4 years since I last had sex. After thinking about it for a bit and wiring several versions of this post it's not so much that I am sexually frustrated (I masturbate a lot to take care of that) it's that I can't find people who are interested in me to connect with, to share things with.

 

[suckaG]

i guess thats what i am then.

you and me both, bredren.

 

[NotBillMurray]

I have sex rather infrequently due to the fact that I'm mostly attracted to types who do not live near me, but whenever I know it is coming up, I worry that I've lost the ability to enjoy another human's touch. And I think it actually happened the last time. Scary.
It's not a lack of sex, but I have it and then worry that I am mostly into the chase.
I guess what I mean is, sex or not, our issues will rear their ugly heads.
No one should be made to feel bad if they have or have not had sex yet. People are such jerks about that.

 

[Bluey]

i guess thats what i am then.

you and me both, bredren.

Actually I think not having ever had it can make the hole thing even moor frustrating.
You know when ppl say its not as good as you imagined. well I guss the dream and fantasies are always better then the real thing.

Bottom line is really wither you have or have not ever had IT, it makes no difference to how sexually charged you are.
Thats what I think anyway