Sexually frustrated

[MountainTop]

I see what you say, and i understand where you are coming from.
But you dont understand where i come from.

Yes my religion molded my views on sex, but its not the only thing i take into consideration.
I dont just want to be a virgin until I marry, i want the woman i marry to be a virgin.

Its not just about the religion.
I want my wife to be unconquerable except by me.
Its hard for me not to give in, and i know its hard for women too. thats why its so special. To know that the person Im choosing was fighting FOR ME even before I met her. Just as i fight for her without knowing her, or even if she exists.
That my friend is true and total devotion, and there is great honor in that.
Even if the first time is 'bloody akward' itll be awkward for us both, and well face it together.

as i said, I know this sounds a tad 'girly' and maybe its because my mother raised me alone, so that coloured my opinions on relationships.
either way, Im happy with my decision.

No sex till marriage.

Not exactly what I was referring to.
Many Catholics tend to pretend that sex doesn't even EXIST. That's what I was talking about.

My problem with saving sex for marriage is that when you end up with your wife, she will be the ONLY person you've ever slept with. And that means:

#1: Despite whatever people tell you to the contrary, your first time will be nice and bloody awkard.
#2: The only reason you'll like sex with each other is because it's the only sex you've ever known. A whole WORLD of pleasure could be out there that you'll never get to try.
#3: Repressing your innate drives like that for so many years will make you eventually question your decision to wait.
#4: Saving sex doesn't really create any special bond in and of itself. Plenty of people save sex for marriage, get married, and then cheat on each other because they wonder what else is out there.

That's my problem with saving it. If it works for you... then good! Honestly!

But I just don't think it's an overall good strategy or a good way to view sex. I don't mean to preach at you or anything. Just sharing my mind on the issue.

 

[Badjedidude]

^^^It doesn't sound girly at all. I completely understand the reasons for your choice, MountainTop. I've been taught a lot of those things as well, though I don't hold to them now. It's just not who I am, but it's who you are, and I never said there was something wrong with it.

Just a difference in personalities and outlooks.

Like I said before, I really do hope it all works out for you and I wish you every happiness in the decision.

 

[Shogun]

Sexual frustration is the worst. My sex drive is through the roof, but I can only have sex with women who I know find me attractive and want to be with me, so going to a hooker is not an option. Finding women who are attracted to me is difficult and approaching women is impossible, so I've been sex starved for over 3 years now.

There's a woman I know who I used to have sex with and she wants to see me again. She's really sexy too, but she's not affectionate at all, so I don't even wanna go and see her.

I'm really weird when it comes to sex. I have to feel wanted otherwise it's not even worth it. Might as well masturbate.

 

[huggybear]

I see what you say, and i understand where you are coming from.
But you dont understand where i come from.

Yes my religion molded my views on sex, but its not the only thing i take into consideration.
I dont just want to be a virgin until I marry, i want the woman i marry to be a virgin.

Its not just about the religion.
I want my wife to be unconquerable except by me.
Its hard for me not to give in, and i know its hard for women too. thats why its so special. To know that the person Im choosing was fighting FOR ME even before I met her. Just as i fight for her without knowing her, or even if she exists.
That my friend is true and total devotion, and there is great honor in that.
Even if the first time is 'bloody akward' itll be awkward for us both, and well face it together.

as i said, I know this sounds a tad 'girly' and maybe its because my mother raised me alone, so that coloured my opinions on relationships.
either way, Im happy with my decision.

No sex till marriage.

Not exactly what I was referring to.
Many Catholics tend to pretend that sex doesn't even EXIST. That's what I was talking about.

My problem with saving sex for marriage is that when you end up with your wife, she will be the ONLY person you've ever slept with. And that means:

#1: Despite whatever people tell you to the contrary, your first time will be nice and bloody awkard.
#2: The only reason you'll like sex with each other is because it's the only sex you've ever known. A whole WORLD of pleasure could be out there that you'll never get to try.
#3: Repressing your innate drives like that for so many years will make you eventually question your decision to wait.
#4: Saving sex doesn't really create any special bond in and of itself. Plenty of people save sex for marriage, get married, and then cheat on each other because they wonder what else is out there.

That's my problem with saving it. If it works for you... then good! Honestly!

But I just don't think it's an overall good strategy or a good way to view sex. I don't mean to preach at you or anything. Just sharing my mind on the issue.

Thats a normal thing just that todays world marriage and relationshiops are not treated like they used to traditionally speaking .

 

[Daan]

I am new here on the forum, so this is my first post.

I am 32 and never had a relationship, but i did have some very bad sex. it always goes wrong with dating, and i fear rejection very much. It is either really liking a girl and being afraid to be rejected or not liking a girl.

A strange episode was when i was worked in a computerrroom frequented by 1000 students, aged 16 to 20, of whom 95% was female. My job was to ensure that they would work instead of making too much noise and not finishing their tasks. Suddenly i was stalked by girls, while i always thought that the guys were the ones stalking. So, i do know that girls can be frustated. I didn't do anything with it out of fear of losing my job and because i thought it was unapropriate. After this school i thought that i should change my thoughts about women, but the strange thing is that it's like moving from the desert to the jungle and back into the desert. I guess loneliness has mainly to do with being in the wrong place, but you always need licenses to be somewhere.

 

[freedom]

yeah buddy. i know what that's like. i was thinking of taking the same road once because i was just so lonely, that i couldn't bear living anymore. then i met a really great girl and she helped me turn my entire life around. the life in me was strengthened because of her.

 

[blueindia2681]

Lonliness and sexual frustration sort of go hand in hand...wait maybe not...i have been both sexually frustrated and satisfied but the one consistency was i still felt lonely.

My problem is the emotional connection. Have not found that guy who i "connect" with EMOTIONALLY; i have ran into one or two that i have had the pleasure of connecting with physically.

 

[Daan]

yeah buddy. i know what that's like. i was thinking of taking the same road once because i was just so lonely, that i couldn't bear living anymore. then i met a really great girl and she helped me turn my entire life around. the life in me was strengthened because of her.

Good for you, hope it will last!

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Lonliness and sexual frustration sort of go hand in hand...wait maybe not...i have been both sexually frustrated and satisfied but the one consistency was i still felt lonely.

My problem is the emotional connection. Have not found that guy who i "connect" with EMOTIONALLY; i have ran into one or two that i have had the pleasure of connecting with physically.

Hope to find that as well some day. For me the emotional aspect is more important than the sexual.

 

[blueindia2681]

Hope to find that as well some day. For me the emotional aspect is more important than the sexual.
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I agree.....it is more important because it is harder to achieve. We always add value to things that are less common =)

 

[freedom]

yeah buddy. i know what that's like. i was thinking of taking the same road once because i was just so lonely, that i couldn't bear living anymore. then i met a really great girl and she helped me turn my entire life around. the life in me was strengthened because of her.

Good for you, hope it will last!

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we're not together anymore, but i'm doing much, much better now than i was before i met her. thanks!

 

[QuietGuy]

My sex drive is through the roof, but I can only have sex with women who I know find me attractive and want to be with me, so going to a hooker is not an option. [...] I'm really weird when it comes to sex. I have to feel wanted otherwise it's not even worth it. Might as well masturbate.

I don't think it's weird at all - it sounds perfectly normal.

I sometimes wish I didn't have a sex drive. I can imagine all the drama I could have avoided in my life had I simply kept my pants on...

I often wish I didn't have any sex drive at all. Things would be so much simpler, I think. I'd have no need for masturbation or looking at softcore porn. The only reason I engage in these things is because my body demands it of me. Like when your stomach starts rumbling because it's hungry. There's no solution apart from eating. I read somewhere that a guy's sex drive is highest around his mid 20s - right where I am now. When my sex drive goes off the scale (like it is today), there's no alternative but to get out my porn collection and masturbate. I really wish I didn't have to, but my body just will not shut up until I've satisfied it! "There, you've had an orgasm! Better now? Can I carry on with my life now?" Don't get me wrong - I enjoy a photo of a sexy babe in a swimsuit or tight jeans as much as any other guy But it does get annoying when my body constantly demands to be satisfied.

But of course, when* I finally have another girlfriend, then I'll probably be very glad that my sex drive is alive and well As I've mentioned before, sex is not high on my priority list when it comes to a relationship - things like companionship, sweet romance, simple affection, honesty, trust, sensitivity, tenderness and unselfishness are much higher. But I imagine I'd reach a point where my love for my girlfriend becomes so deep, and my desire to express that love becomes so strong, that sex becomes the top priority for a while.

* Notice I said "when", not "if" - I try to be optimistic!

 

[Electric_Fusilier]

I don't really miss the sex at all, after being single - and alone - for about seven months. I was never interested in one-night stands or casual sex anyway - having only ever had LTRs, the only sex I like is the affectionate kind. Not even into porn, either - no affection there, just mechanical meat-grinding. Yuk. Might as well just keep on slapping two pork chops together, for what it's worth.

Like Quietguy, the affection, fun, compassion, understanding and friendship that comes with having a loving companion is the most important thing to me. Funny how you never realise how much you miss holding hands with someone until you are no longer holding hands with her.

Hell, I'd settle for a lonely nun right now...

 

[suckaG]

Not even into porn, either - no affection there, just mechanical meat-grinding. Yuk. Might as well just keep on slapping two pork chops together, for what it's worth.

LOL! truthfully and awesomely said.

 

[Ice]

Kind of... when I do not know what I am and what I should want or should I want anything.... It makes me nut!

 

[epic fale boy]

sexually frustrated? yes

physical closeness frustrated? HELL YES.

man, i haven't been close to someone for like five years now. It ain't just the sex (although hehe I miss that too) I miss the being in bed with someone, being able to hold them close....

 

[SinfulVixen]

Being in the lifestyle I'm in a traditional relationships are out of the question. However my online relationship that I've been in for that past 2 months is not only convenient but satisfying. The only time I yearn for physical contact is when he says something extremely sweet or when I've misbehaved and want to "show" him how sorry I am. This with a combination of (healthy) masturbation seems to control the cravings.

I fear that I will get so used to online relationships that I no longer will remember how to behave in a "real" relationship.

 

[lkm370]

I havent been physical with a girl in over a year, the sexual frustration is unbelivable, ive had to go from wearing boxers to always wearing tight underwear because my c**k is always erect, it never goes away, even if i jack off,my c**k stays erect, thats how horny i am

 

[Badjedidude]

Go to the doctor, man. Continuous bonor syndrome is BAD for you. Don't you watch those viagra commercials?

 

[epic fale boy]

Yeah, constant boner syndrome is deffo bad for you. The England soccer team had a big, arrogant boner called Frank Lampard they couldn't get rid off.

It screwed us.

 

[Badjedidude]

^^^Hahaha... BaaaaaZING!