MountainTop
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I see what you say, and i understand where you are coming from.
But you dont understand where i come from.
Yes my religion molded my views on sex, but its not the only thing i take into consideration.
I dont just want to be a virgin until I marry, i want the woman i marry to be a virgin.
Its not just about the religion.
I want my wife to be unconquerable except by me.
Its hard for me not to give in, and i know its hard for women too. thats why its so special. To know that the person Im choosing was fighting FOR ME even before I met her. Just as i fight for her without knowing her, or even if she exists.
That my friend is true and total devotion, and there is great honor in that.
Even if the first time is 'bloody akward' itll be awkward for us both, and well face it together.
as i said, I know this sounds a tad 'girly' and maybe its because my mother raised me alone, so that coloured my opinions on relationships.
either way, Im happy with my decision.
But you dont understand where i come from.
Yes my religion molded my views on sex, but its not the only thing i take into consideration.
I dont just want to be a virgin until I marry, i want the woman i marry to be a virgin.
Its not just about the religion.
I want my wife to be unconquerable except by me.
Its hard for me not to give in, and i know its hard for women too. thats why its so special. To know that the person Im choosing was fighting FOR ME even before I met her. Just as i fight for her without knowing her, or even if she exists.
That my friend is true and total devotion, and there is great honor in that.
Even if the first time is 'bloody akward' itll be awkward for us both, and well face it together.
as i said, I know this sounds a tad 'girly' and maybe its because my mother raised me alone, so that coloured my opinions on relationships.
either way, Im happy with my decision.
Badjedidude said:Mountain Top said:No sex till marriage.
Not exactly what I was referring to.
Many Catholics tend to pretend that sex doesn't even EXIST. That's what I was talking about.
My problem with saving sex for marriage is that when you end up with your wife, she will be the ONLY person you've ever slept with. And that means:
#1: Despite whatever people tell you to the contrary, your first time will be nice and bloody awkard.
#2: The only reason you'll like sex with each other is because it's the only sex you've ever known. A whole WORLD of pleasure could be out there that you'll never get to try.
#3: Repressing your innate drives like that for so many years will make you eventually question your decision to wait.
#4: Saving sex doesn't really create any special bond in and of itself. Plenty of people save sex for marriage, get married, and then cheat on each other because they wonder what else is out there.
That's my problem with saving it. If it works for you... then good! Honestly!
But I just don't think it's an overall good strategy or a good way to view sex. I don't mean to preach at you or anything. Just sharing my mind on the issue.