The Ideal Woman

[RebeccaSarah33]

lol I like loafs description, its so unique and he knows what he wants

 

[Lonesome Crow]

LmAo. Loaf ....If she burned a hole in your wallet, she out smart ya. She's excellent at math too...counting ur moolaa.

 

[PoWer2tHePeOpLE]

that one over there

 

[Loaf]

7.) Beautiful-She must be, in my opinion at least, lovely. Physical beauty, although on its own not enough of solid foundation for a relationship, is important nonetheless because it is what gets our attention as men. Fortunately, beauty is a very, very subjective thing and opinions vary widely on what constitutes a beautiful woman. For me personally size, in the sense of weight and figure as well as in the sense of bust size, does not matter so much. I'm a sucker for a pretty face and a beautiful head of hair. If you pinned me down and asked what type of figure I prefer, I'd probably have to say short, skinny girls (I'm only five-six, so the short thing is for practical purposes. It is very awkward to cuddle with a girl who is taller than me). Really, as far as looks go, I'm looking for a happy-medium. My ideal woman is pretty enough to get and keep my attention, but she doesn't have to be physically perfect. I don't go for bombshells because I would be nervous and uncomfortable asking a perfect 'ten' out. And if I am nervous and uncomfortable, she'll be uncomfortable too and neither of us will have any fun together.

When it comes to this, I think you are removing a ton of people who you might find to be really awesome people. Just all these traits you want in a woman makes your chances of finding someone extremely thin, I mean like incredibly slim. Rating people on a scale of 1-10 is just absurd because it's like you're placing some people on a pedestal, in which you feel it's impossible to get them. When in fact you never know what that person is thinking or how they feel about you.

I just got a question because you say you would not date a girl if she wasn't beautiful enough for you. How would you react to a girl that you really liked who would not date you because she feels you are too short? I know people should be picky to a certain extent but when it comes to this world sometimes it doesn't work to be too picky. Although if you feel like you would not be happy with someone because of some of the fact that they don't possess all the traits you want in a human being. Than I guess you should just save yourself and them from any further trouble, since it does no good to for yourself to feel unhappy with a certain relationship. I'm not trying to flame at all, because I'm just trying to ask some questions and give some of my thoughts about it.

I thought the point of this was to describe the ideal woman. And I believe I did so. Remember, this is my ideal woman. She can be completely imaginary. And I admit, as a hopeless romantic, I am not very practical about these sorts of things. When it comes to love I am an idealist.

Here's the deal. These are not hard and fast requirements, and yes I understand I will have to make compromises on this to find someone I am compatible with. The reason I am picky is because I am not compatible with the vast majority of women on this earth. And if we all stepped back for a moment, we would all realize that there are six billion people on this earth of ours. The chances of one of us being compatible with a majority of the other half of the human race are very, very slim. The fact is, I am compatible with very few women. I am aware, very well aware that my pickings are slim. But, the silver lining to this dark cloud of a truth is that you only need one person. And that is exactly why I am picky. If my chances of finding love, real love that will last a lifetime are one in lets say three billion, don't you think I want to be sure I am with the right person?

Remember, the point of dating is to marry. I am compatible with very few women. Of those women, there is one I am most compatible with. The goal is to find that person. And if you want to know what I really, honestly believe, I believe that God has that girl picked out for me already and is guiding me to her. And will she meet all seven of those criteria I listed? Probably not, but she will be exactly what I need. And, furthermore, she will meet criteria that I didn't even know I was looking for in a woman, that as it turns out, I needed her to meet and wasn't even aware of. And, hopefully, I will do the same for her.

As far as beauty goes, what you ladies must remember is that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. There is no such thing as an objectively beautiful women. The perfect 'ten' does not exist. What I find attractive in a woman and what my best friend find attractive in a woman are very different things. And what we gentlemen must remember is that beauty is only skin deep and it is not eternal. Eventually, my wife and I will age to the point where we are no longer physically attractive. That's why marrying for looks is always a terrible idea. The reason I included beauty is I wanted to be honest. Any guy who tells you 'oh, I don't care about looks' is lying to you so you'll think he is really sensitive. Now, he may be really sensitive, but he still likes girls he finds pretty. When a guy asks you out, Ms. Remedy, you may be sure that there is something, probably multiple somethings, about you physically that drives that fella crazy. Or it could be something physical combined with your personality that makes you attractive. Is that such a bad thing for a man to think you are beautiful? I do not think so.

Look, I know a lot of amazing young women with awesome personalities, most of whom are very pretty. But, I am not pursuing any of them right now. And do you want to know why? I don't click with any of them, really. There is no real, substantive emotional connection. And that connection has to be there. I have only found it with one person in my life and even then she wasn't the one God had for me. Beyond everything that I have listed there is a certain quality that is just unexplainable that has to be there. It's so hard to describe but it's this undeniable feeling of "yes, this is right, this is natural. It is so plainly obvious, to both of us, that we are supposed to be together." And none of the girls I know right now inspire that feeling in me. I know that when I find a girl that inspires that quality in me that I will be able to fall in love again. But until then, you could be in my opinion, drop dead gorgeous, but if I don't feel that connection, I ain't asking out.

 

[cheaptrickfan]

As far as beauty goes, what you ladies must remember is that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. There is no such thing as an objectively beautiful women. The perfect 'ten' does not exist. What I find attractive in a woman and what my best friend find attractive in a woman are very different things. And what we gentlemen must remember is that beauty is only skin deep and it is not eternal.

Or it could be something physical combined with your personality that makes you attractive. Is that such a bad thing for a man to think you are beautiful? I do not think so.

But until then, you could be in my opinion, drop dead gorgeous, but if I don't feel that connection, I ain't asking out.

I agree with you 100%. Attractiveness is entirely subjective. We each have qualities which attract us to other people that are separate from the physical attributes. Some of us may put more weight on personality than superficial physical appearance, for others, they may insist on like religious views. I guess for some, a nice ass or great rack is all that they require.

That's why asking someone to describe their physical ideal is, IMO, kind of pointless. That's just the shell that you're describing.

 

[PoWer2tHePeOpLE]

And another thing
I've been wondering lately
Am I crazy
To believe in ideals?
I'm a betting man
But it's getting **** lonely.
Oh, honey, it only
I could be sure what I feel.

--Hoodoo Gurus

ideals.. ha. maybe they're like archetypes.. they only exist in your head..

 

[Loaf]

Thank you RebeccaSarah33. You are too kind. So are you cheaptrickfan. It is very odd referring to y'all by your user names.

 

[oarivan]

Dead.

Necrophilia ftw!

 

[PoWer2tHePeOpLE]

Dead.

Necrophilia ftw!

lol

the food bill will be cheaper..

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Loaf...in the other words an ideal woman is a woman that will accept me and love me unconditionally.
In order to have that I must also be willing to love and accept my so call ideal woman unconditionally.
In order to have that...I must also love and accept myself unconditionally..because I can't give what I don't have.

Whatever my wants are has to aline to how I live/act/behave.
"It takes a ***** like me to love a ******* like him"....
In other words...I will attract or be attracted to a woman that's about as sick or healthy as I am. (chemistry/same wave length/connection)
As sarcastic as it made be...that statement simply implies that she has accepted and love herself as who she is therefore she's able to accept him.

Triats/personalities/behavior patterns are also just like looks. They come and go. You know this...
In your own personal experince...you had certain traits and alter those traits over time.
Some triats you had develope were healthy, others you will pick up on the way in this so call journey of life will be not so unhealthy.
Some triats you had that work for you at one stage in your life....will also work againts you in a different stage of your life.
In other words just becuase you had certain triats in your life at one piont dosn't garantee that you will retain them for the rest of your life.
We will take on many roles during our life time. Our morals and values will also ulter or change throughout our lives.

We are all capiable of being the meanest son of ***** on this planet...as we are all capiable of being the nicest person.
Any woman proclaiming that she can't be a total wicked ***** from the south is lying to ya...

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder...I like my woman with some bitchiness in her
I'm thai...I like my woman just like how I like my food....Hawt and Spicy. I'll eat her up.lol
It makes my bloode boil..She's just very assertive that's all.
All she's saying is for me to fresia the bitchiness out of her. Hahahaaaaaa....
It's the woman in her that brings out the man in me.

Our level of consiousness, perceptions and awareness will flexuate throughtout our life time.
A person's consiouness/awareness traits/personalities will change in accordance to thier time or willingness to change (some poeple say in god's time).
All the mean is I have no control over how a person behave/live/belive. It's my chioce if I will allow or accept a person into my life...whatever my consiouse is
at that particular moment.

If you want an ideal woman...be an ideal man. whatever that is....
Every woman is an ideal woman for someone, somewhere. (visa versa) Timing...Perfect timing.

mmmm becareful what you ask for becuase you might get it...having an intelligent conversation with a woman is cool.. Mind ******* i suppose.
Eventaully she's going to what actions and not just words....there's no subsitute for actions.
On top that...when she's actually smarter than you and prove you wrong. Thats when you gatta be man enough to tell her to STFU *****, you talk too much.

Yes ladies...you're smarter than men. Thats why men say we cant figure you out or don't understand ya.lol

 

[Just_Some_Dude]

my ideal woman must be kinky with a very healthy sexual appetite. Is this wrong?

 

[Badjedidude]

my ideal woman must be kinky with a very healthy sexual appetite. Is this wrong?

It depends on exactly HOW kinky we're talkin' here. lol

Naww, that's totally a valid requirement....lol one that I share as well.

----Steve

 

[oarivan]

Dead.

Necrophilia ftw!

lol

the food bill will be cheaper..

The sex will be fantastic and I can invite all my friends. She won't mind.

 

[Brian]

Dead girls can't say 'no'.


They also don't complain if you haven't showered in three days or changed your clothes since the beginning of the week, and they're way easy to shop for.

 

[Badjedidude]

Dead girls can't get pregnant.

Dead girls can't walk out on you.

Dead girls can't get mad at you for shifting in bed a bit while you find a comfortable position...I mean COME ON, I wasn't jumping around or anything! I was just sorta turning a bit, trying to get comfy so I could ******* sleep! It's not like I was bonking you in the face with my elbows! YOU JUST HAD TO HAVE THE BED BE PERFECTLY STILL SO YOU CHEWED ME OUT FOR IT AND THEN YOU KEPT ******* BRINGING IT UP FOR THE NEXT 3 WEEKS!!! MY GAWD, WAS IT REALLY THAT BIG OF AN ISSUE??? DEAL WITH IT!!!

lol rant over. Dead chicks ftw.

----Steve

 

[Luna]

Dead girls can't say 'no'.


They also don't complain if you haven't showered in three days or changed your clothes since the beginning of the week, and they're way easy to shop for.

Dead girls can't get pregnant.

Dead girls can't walk out on you.

Dead girls can't get mad at you for shifting in bed a bit while you find a comfortable position...I mean COME ON, I wasn't jumping around or anything! I was just sorta turning a bit, trying to get comfy so I could ******* sleep! It's not like I was bonking you in the face with my elbows! YOU JUST HAD TO HAVE THE BED BE PERFECTLY STILL SO YOU CHEWED ME OUT FOR IT AND THEN YOU KEPT ******* BRINGING IT UP FOR THE NEXT 3 WEEKS!!! MY GAWD, WAS IT REALLY THAT BIG OF AN ISSUE??? DEAL WITH IT!!!

lol rant over. Dead chicks ftw.

----Steve

What the f...??

 

[kelbo]

Dead.

Necrophilia ftw!

lol

the food bill will be cheaper..

The sex will be fantastic and I can invite all my friends. She won't mind.

Haha. Dead girls eh? Have you ever seen the film 'dead girl' by the way? It is this weird film were these young lads find a dead girl and decide to keep her. It is pretty strange. One of my male friends made me watch it. And no it isn't porn. They try and make it less sleazy by turning the film around with the girl turning into some zombie/creature thing. Weird.

Though to be fair, surely you need a woman alive?! Who is going to make you a cuppa in the morning, or wash your socks?

My ideal lady would be strong willed, able to hold their own in a conversation, be independent and also fiesty in the sack (though not horrifically fiesty, that would end up too messy)

 

[cheaptrickfan]

Dead girls can't say 'no'.


They also don't complain if you haven't showered in three days or changed your clothes since the beginning of the week, and they're way easy to shop for.

Dead girls can't get pregnant.

Dead girls can't walk out on you.

Dead girls can't get mad at you for shifting in bed a bit while you find a comfortable position...I mean COME ON, I wasn't jumping around or anything! I was just sorta turning a bit, trying to get comfy so I could ******* sleep! It's not like I was bonking you in the face with my elbows! YOU JUST HAD TO HAVE THE BED BE PERFECTLY STILL SO YOU CHEWED ME OUT FOR IT AND THEN YOU KEPT ******* BRINGING IT UP FOR THE NEXT 3 WEEKS!!! MY GAWD, WAS IT REALLY THAT BIG OF AN ISSUE??? DEAL WITH IT!!!

lol rant over. Dead chicks ftw.

----Steve

What the f...??

Yeah.

So many times today I wrote a similar post extolling the virtues of Dead Guys, but figured I'd let it be.

 

[mintymint]

Dead girls can't say 'no'.


They also don't complain if you haven't showered in three days or changed your clothes since the beginning of the week, and they're way easy to shop for.

Dead girls can't get pregnant.

Dead girls can't walk out on you.

Dead girls can't get mad at you for shifting in bed a bit while you find a comfortable position...I mean COME ON, I wasn't jumping around or anything! I was just sorta turning a bit, trying to get comfy so I could ******* sleep! It's not like I was bonking you in the face with my elbows! YOU JUST HAD TO HAVE THE BED BE PERFECTLY STILL SO YOU CHEWED ME OUT FOR IT AND THEN YOU KEPT ******* BRINGING IT UP FOR THE NEXT 3 WEEKS!!! MY GAWD, WAS IT REALLY THAT BIG OF AN ISSUE??? DEAL WITH IT!!!

lol rant over. Dead chicks ftw.

----Steve

What the f...??

Yeah.

So many times today I wrote a similar post extolling the virtues of Dead Guys, but figured I'd let it be.

Imaginary girls don't smell like rotten flesh...

 

[cheaptrickfan]

Dead girls can't say 'no'.


They also don't complain if you haven't showered in three days or changed your clothes since the beginning of the week, and they're way easy to shop for.

Dead girls can't get pregnant.

Dead girls can't walk out on you.

Dead girls can't get mad at you for shifting in bed a bit while you find a comfortable position...I mean COME ON, I wasn't jumping around or anything! I was just sorta turning a bit, trying to get comfy so I could ******* sleep! It's not like I was bonking you in the face with my elbows! YOU JUST HAD TO HAVE THE BED BE PERFECTLY STILL SO YOU CHEWED ME OUT FOR IT AND THEN YOU KEPT ******* BRINGING IT UP FOR THE NEXT 3 WEEKS!!! MY GAWD, WAS IT REALLY THAT BIG OF AN ISSUE??? DEAL WITH IT!!!

lol rant over. Dead chicks ftw.

----Steve

What the f...??

Yeah.

So many times today I wrote a similar post extolling the virtues of Dead Guys, but figured I'd let it be.

Imaginary girls don't smell like rotten flesh...

So... real girls smell like rotting flesh?