This is when I feel most lonely...

[annik]

When I've had a bad day that followed a crappy night before with little sleep in between and you just wish you had someone to turn to and you don't.

Yeah I know people but I wouldn't say any of them are friends. Certainly no one I can just give a bell too. It's even worse when you think you're being a bit more pro active to having people around you and it all comes to nothing.

I'm ok when I just muddle on in my own little world but a couple of upsets and it sort of hits you there's no one.

Anyway yeap

 

[SophiaGrace]

Sleep tends to lower your seritonin levels, sleep is when your seritonin gets released and when you don't get sleep that gets messed up and you get depression symptoms.

 

[annik]

Sleep tends to lower your seritonin levels, sleep is when your seritonin gets released and when you don't get sleep that gets messed up and you get depression symptoms.

Yeah I think this totally adds a lot to my problems.

 

[TheSolitaryMan]

When I've had a bad day that followed a crappy night before with little sleep in between and you just wish you had someone to turn to and you don't.

Yeah I know people but I wouldn't say any of them are friends. Certainly no one I can just give a bell too. It's even worse when you think you're being a bit more pro active to having people around you and it all comes to nothing.

I'm ok when I just muddle on in my own little world but a couple of upsets and it sort of hits you there's no one.

Anyway yeap

Gah, I can sympathise entirely.

I had a really, truly awful day a while back. It was a Monday, basically everything went wrong.

Heavy rain all day long, I had to get up early for something that was cancelled, wasting 4 hours of my time.

This was followed by a bunch of surprise assessments dropped on me, my phone breaking just when I needed to use it and the final discovery that there were 3 hour long hold-ups on the motorway and the only payphone within miles had been vandalised.

I felt like just yelling, never had a day that relentlessly bad before or since I think. When I got home I just had nothing but my own simmering thoughts to comfort me - definitely not good.

So yeah...it really does suck

Interestingly, my sleep pattern is absolutely FUBAR at the moment, so I wonder if there is a lot of truth in that statement. Seems like posters here have a lot in common!

 

[annik]

Gah, I can sympathise entirely.

I had a really, truly awful day a while back. It was a Monday, basically everything went wrong.

Heavy rain all day long, I had to get up early for something that was cancelled, wasting 4 hours of my time.

This was followed by a bunch of surprise assessments dropped on me, my phone breaking just when I needed to use it and the final discovery that there were 3 hour long hold-ups on the motorway and the only payphone within miles had been vandalised.

I felt like just yelling, never had a day that relentlessly bad before or since I think. When I got home I just had nothing but my own simmering thoughts to comfort me - definitely not good.

So yeah...it really does suck

Interestingly, my sleep pattern is absolutely FUBAR at the moment, so I wonder if there is a lot of truth in that statement. Seems like posters here have a lot in common!

Wow that day really makes mine not seem too bad! I mean it's not like I want to go on at someone but I just feel like a chat but I know where's no one really I can have one with. Just gets me down.

Yeah lack of sleeps a killer you've only got to watch one of those Ellen Macarthur things to see that...poor woman.

 

[Limlim]

Agreed with the statements above, perhaps a nap when you get home is in order? I pull one of those all the time

Also who are the cute girls you keep getting your avatar pictures from?

 

[annik]

Agreed with the statements above, perhaps a nap when you get home is in order? I pull one of those all the time

Also who are the cute girls you keep getting your avatar pictures from?

I think my sleep pattern is so buggered it would take a team of specialists working round the clock to sort it plus I never nap in the day I just can't do it. I'm sure if I slept better I wouldn't feel so generally fragile though I'd probably still want a chat now and again

Oh well right now its a painting by Jonathan Viner before that it was the Norwegian singer Ida Maria for quite a bit. I get bored and change them way too much.

 

[Badjedidude]

You're not alone!

Even if there aren't any DIRECT friendships that you can use to comfort you.... take solace in the fact that all of us have bad days and there are times when even the most popular of us feel lonely. As a human species, we all share the ability to feel lonely and to feel that we're alone, even if surrounded by others.

It might make it easier if you realize that everyone you see fights the same battle as you.

 

[gnome3]

When there's nobody to call that will listen, it can make one feel quite lonely. I've been in that place many times. Living by myself is nice at times, but other times not so nice. Good parts, bad parts. Oh well. Sorry, no answers here.

 

[oopsiedoop]

Yeah, I think the worst is when you feel really really bad and there's no one there to help.

 

[Sci-Fi]

Yep, you're not alone. There was a stretch of 3 weeks in a row that every Monday something crappy happened. Ruins your whole week. Really sucks when you don't have anyone to talk to, or if you try they can't talk long.

 

[freedom]

i think that many of us here go through that. i go through it everyday. i have no one in life to talk to. there are people at work that i sometimes talk to, but they don't really listen to me. when they do listen, i can't say three sentences without them laughing at my despair and saying things like, "oh, you're so crazy" or "oh my god. why? that's not right".

to be honest with you, this is the place i come to to let it all out when it builds up inside and i can't hold it in anymore. it really helps for me to type my thoughts here, even though i know no one probably reads them.

 

[annik]

Thanks everyone for the replies. It is nice to know I'm not alone. I guess it just annoys me a bit because I know I tend to be around for other people but don't think I can turn to them. Its like when my Nana died it took me two days to get hold of my then boyfriend. That was crappy.

Petty as it seems sometimes I leave messages and things a day or so or texts overnight because I sort of hate that I'm always there. Because I miss the company I don't want to be at peoples beck and call. I mean not if they need me but you know if its just chatty.

 

[jjam]

i think that many of us here go through that. i go through it everyday. i have no one in life to talk to. there are people at work that i sometimes talk to, but they don't really listen to me. when they do listen, i can't say three sentences without them laughing at my despair and saying things like, "oh, you're so crazy" or "oh my god. why? that's not right".

to be honest with you, this is the place i come to to let it all out when it builds up inside and i can't hold it in anymore. it really helps for me to type my thoughts here, even though i know no one probably reads them.

just saying...

 

[oopsiedoop]

when they do listen, i can't say three sentences without them laughing at my despair and saying things like, "oh, you're so crazy"

i used to get that all the time! back when i still tried to talk to people.

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I guess it just annoys me a bit because I know I tend to be around for other people but don't think I can turn to them. Its like when my Nana died it took me two days to get hold of my then boyfriend. That was crappy.

Petty as it seems sometimes I leave messages and things a day or so or texts overnight because I sort of hate that I'm always there. Because I miss the company I don't want to be at peoples beck and call. I mean not if they need me but you know if its just chatty.

I let go of a friend because all I got when my uncle died was "sorry" followed by a ten paragraph email about how her stupid boyfriend left her but she was sure still loved her.

When most people I'm in touch with now call, I have to be in the mood to talk to them, or only call once I just let too much time go by, because they're not people I can just be myself with and let my guard down with. They're not people who are there for me.

 

[Jilted John]

I've lived on my own for a while now,and I agree it can be terrible when there is no one there to moan to,laugh with,shout at,comfort,and all the other stuff.I think the worst thing is when you're ill in bed for three,or four days,and nobody but the cat checks on you.That's when I am at my loneliest.

But like Gnome say's,the upside is that some times it's nice to have the independence,the privacy,and generally to do what the hell you want,when you want to do it!

It's swings and roundabouts.

 

[LoneHistoric]

Not having anyone to talk to you - just to listen. And worse, even when someone offers to help you are embarrassed or don't want to burden them with your problems. But most of the time no one wants to be the only social outlet a person has. Makes them uncomfortable. And I am a recovering addict as well.. once that gets out, most women run for the hills.