This. Very much this.SofiasMami said:Meh, past behavior is a good predictor of future behavior.
Cosmo said:Keep in mind people have to EARN your trust. It's polite to give people the benefit of a doubt at first, of course. But if someone betrays my trust I have a VERY difficult time forgiving them.
So first decide IF you can forgive them. Second decide what would make you comfortable enough to begin to trust them again. Discuss this with them. If they are unwilling to abide by that then you know that it's all downhill from there. If they agree to abide by it do whatever you need to come to the conclusion of whether they are on the level or not. And then also decide if you are comfortable and happy even if they are.
You may find that despite their best efforts that your ability to trust them is now gone, regardless of their good behavior after the fact. In that case cut your losses and move on.
If you truly feel that there's hope for you to forgive them totally and to trust them again then proceed at your own risk. Remember: you gave this person your trust once already and look what they did with it then.
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