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ahsatan said:
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Aaah.. c'mere, ya li'l knucklehead...

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What's your week looking like so far? 
We'll be into punkin pie season soon!
 
lol very cute!

Oh u know a nightmare as always. What's ur week looking like?

I really like pumpkin! Pie makes my ibs worse so i skip that. lol
I do like to make pumpkin muffins though.
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:p  So cute!
 
MMMmmmm... pumpkin muffins! I'm going to give those a shot.

Dad's between treatments and appt's for a while, so we'll prolly
go to a few libraries this week, and maybe do a Costco run.

You should treat yourself to something nice this week. Pedicure,
petting zoo and a soak in a jacuzzi. Pick out something fun, tell me
what and when, and I'll think about you while you're at it.

These are the days we get. :O)


...and that little dog has that pumkin SURROUNDED!
 
I'll put  nail polish on my toenails  I guess. lol I'm too sick to go anywhere and to broke.


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:shy:  hugs for harper and skafish
 
fresia.. I made a decision and now I'm obsessing over it. Did I do the right thing? What's going to happen? It's so hard to keep myself from folding. I want to take it back but I also want to be strong! 😑
 
MissBehave said:
fresia.. I made a decision and now I'm obsessing over it. Did I do the right thing? What's going to happen? It's so hard to keep myself from folding. I want to take it back but I also want to be strong! 😑

Well whatever the decision.  You friends on ALL support you. :)
 
ahsatan said:
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:shy:  hugs for harper and skafish

aww, thanks :)




https://www.independent.co.uk/life-...ally-attractive-men-jobs-income-a9098956.html

Well, there you have it. It's just one article, and it's nothing really new or shocking. It makes sense. But at the same time, I don't know...I just don't know what to do about it.

I feel like the goal post is always moving, to be good enough for someone.

You have to be "economically attractive".
BUT you also have to be interesting and exciting, and usually those two things are opposite directions. Usually being economically attractive means committing lots of time to studying something dry and utilitarian. That's not going to get anyone excited about talking to me, and therefore I'd probably still be single.

If you spend your time trying to be interesting and exciting, then you're probably not working on being economically attractive, because to me at least, few things that are interesting, exciting, and adventurous have much to do with anything of high economic value, unless you're a superstar. And that is, IF you can even be interesting at all, cause that often takes money too. And that's if you even can at all, or if you have to have the right genetics to be able to do anything well enough to create any excitement about you, and get respect.

It also helps to be fit. Which takes learning how to lift and how to eat right. Which takes time away from doing stuff to make money and doing stuff to be cool.

And then there's "game", which I don't even know what to do about at all cause I feel like it's not me. Smooth-talking, "witty banter", sarcasm, etc. Always knowing the right thing to say, and saying it in a "cool", aloof, casually superior or "edgy" tone.

And all of this takes a very long time, if it's possible at all.

Idk. I know this might be controversial and I don't really want to upset anyone, but it just feels like there's so many bases you have to cover, and I don't see how I can cover them all at the same time. If I pay attention to one, I'm neglecting the rest. I just don't know how I'll ever be good enough.
 
TheSkaFish said:
ahsatan said:
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:shy:  hugs for harper and skafish

aww, thanks :)




https://www.independent.co.uk/life-...ally-attractive-men-jobs-income-a9098956.html

Well, there you have it.  It's just one article, and it's nothing really new or shocking.  It makes sense.  But at the same time, I don't know...I just don't know what to do about it.

I feel like the goal post is always moving, to be good enough for someone.

You have to be "economically attractive".  
BUT you also have to be interesting and exciting, and usually those two things are opposite directions.  Usually being economically attractive means committing lots of time to studying something dry and utilitarian.  That's not going to get anyone excited about talking to me, and therefore I'd probably still be single.

If you spend your time trying to be interesting and exciting, then you're probably not working on being economically attractive, because to me at least, few things that are interesting, exciting, and adventurous have much to do with anything of high economic value, unless you're a superstar.  And that is, IF you can even be interesting at all, cause that often takes money too.  And that's if you even can at all, or if you have to have the right genetics to be able to do anything well enough to create any excitement about you, and get respect.

It also helps to be fit.  Which takes learning how to lift and how to eat right.  Which takes time away from doing stuff to make money and doing stuff to be cool.

And then there's "game", which I don't even know what to do about at all cause I feel like it's not me.  Smooth-talking, "witty banter", sarcasm, etc.  Always knowing the right thing to say, and saying it in a "cool", aloof, casually superior or "edgy" tone.

And all of this takes a very long time, if it's possible at all.

Idk.  I know this might be controversial and I don't really want to upset anyone, but it just feels like there's so many bases you have to cover, and I don't see how I can cover them all at the same time.  If I pay attention to one, I'm neglecting the rest.  I just don't know how I'll ever be good enough.



The article seems like an overreaction to a 3.4% difference in the number of marriages UK had in 2015 compared to 2014. (not even all that recent)
I think they had a bit of a point about picking some one compatible... but that's it.

I can't speak for all women... but my only "financial requirement" in a potential partner is that they at least be able to take care of themselves on their own. I don't expect a man to rescue me from my financial issues and I don't want to play mommy to a grown man. 
*I'm not offended and I hope I'm not offending you. I'm just sharing my opinion. You can ignore it if you like. :)
 
TheSkaFish said:
ahsatan said:
cat-hug.gif
:shy:  hugs for harper and skafish

aww, thanks :)




https://www.independent.co.uk/life-...ally-attractive-men-jobs-income-a9098956.html

Well, there you have it.  It's just one article, and it's nothing really new or shocking.  It makes sense.  But at the same time, I don't know...I just don't know what to do about it.

I feel like the goal post is always moving, to be good enough for someone.

You have to be "economically attractive".  
BUT you also have to be interesting and exciting, and usually those two things are opposite directions.  Usually being economically attractive means committing lots of time to studying something dry and utilitarian.  That's not going to get anyone excited about talking to me, and therefore I'd probably still be single.

If you spend your time trying to be interesting and exciting, then you're probably not working on being economically attractive, because to me at least, few things that are interesting, exciting, and adventurous have much to do with anything of high economic value, unless you're a superstar.  And that is, IF you can even be interesting at all, cause that often takes money too.  And that's if you even can at all, or if you have to have the right genetics to be able to do anything well enough to create any excitement about you, and get respect.

It also helps to be fit.  Which takes learning how to lift and how to eat right.  Which takes time away from doing stuff to make money and doing stuff to be cool.

And then there's "game", which I don't even know what to do about at all cause I feel like it's not me.  Smooth-talking, "witty banter", sarcasm, etc.  Always knowing the right thing to say, and saying it in a "cool", aloof, casually superior or "edgy" tone.

And all of this takes a very long time, if it's possible at all.

Idk.  I know this might be controversial and I don't really want to upset anyone, but it just feels like there's so many bases you have to cover, and I don't see how I can cover them all at the same time.  If I pay attention to one, I'm neglecting the rest.  I just don't know how I'll ever be good enough.



Find something you love and can do well, pour everything into it and try and make that profitable. It's what I'm trying to do with my music composition and I'm just working on my first paid work at the moment. If the alternative is that you're just going to sit around and stagnate anyway then you might as well take the risk.
 
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