Will many things get better if i stop masturbating?

[Bebeskii]

I know this is very inappropriate question to ask, but i thought it is a really important issue to consider. Personally, I think I might experience huge improvement in my confidence and social life, if i stop masturbation for a month or longer. I masturbate more often than other guys, because i find it as relief against my loneliness and hollowness. Whenever watch porn, my social anxiety increases little. I feel that I would become more sociable with others and not get easily bothered by little things without masturbation. I'm not very religious. By the way I find it really hard to quit masturbation; I can go without it 2 weeks at most. Any advice ?

 

[Seeker]

You are the only one who knows how you feel, so if you think that this is indeed a problem for you, I say yes, give it a shot, why not. Worse thing that can happen is that you find that it was not it and resort back to the habit, you won't lose anything out of it either way.

 

[Alienated]

I really don't know if it makes you more sociable ... I have been trying for years to get people to talk to me, but everybody has social anxiety disorder because of the internet. People seem to have forgotten how to talk face to face, where I am at least ???

Who knows maybe they spend all day thumping off, at work, and all night too !! So who's to say ??

 

[Limlim]

I disagree, you should masturbate more. I'm waaay happier when I do it.

 

[Rosebolt]

...give it a shot...

Teeheehee.

Err.

I've heard it indeed boosts all that good stuff when you stop. I don't think i get vey far either if i try. Not enough motivation!

 

[Seeker]

...give it a shot...

Teeheehee.

Haha, I made a that's what he said reference without noticing, you have a keen eye, Sai!

 

[daughter of the moon]

"I feel that I would become more sociable with others and not get easily bothered by little things without masturbation." - I honestly don't get the connection between the two? Especially the thing about not getting easily bothered by little things..... why would quitting masturbating help you with that? I'd have honestly thought that, if anything, it would be the other way around.

But yeah, like Seeker said (pun or not), if you think that's the underlying cause, give it a try.

If watching porn increases your anxiety, stop watching porn. Doesn't mean you have to stop masturbating

 

[Badjedidude]

Masturbating is awesome.

I'd only consider it a problem if you were doing it excessively... like... 8 times a day or more.

Hell, I'm jacking it right now.

 

[Lowlander]

I'd say it works the othe rway around, masturbating is supposed to make you feel better. I can not imagine quitting masturbation would make you more sociable. I think that the ability of being sociable has no direct connection with masturbation, I'd rather think that masturbation would boost your confidence, apart from relieving you from your feeling of loneliness. However, if you feel the need to stop masturbating, then stop masturbating. That is a decision only you can make, buddy

 

[Sci-Fi]

Search the forum, you'll find a ton of topics on this subject. It's been discussed many, many, many times. You might find past discussions helpful on what you are inquiring.

 

[Batman55]

I've read the opinions of those clearly against masturbation on the internet before, one thing they've often said is if you quit doing it, you might be more likely to shove your anxiety aside and approach a woman or ask her out--apparently because frustration is a better motivator. No joke, that is what I've read. I don't really believe it, but does it make sense to any of you?

 

[Midnight Sky]

Well. You can reduce how after you do it, but 2 times a day isn't bad, or excessive. As a man, you'll have to do it eventually. It's gonna build up and you gotta release it. 2 weeks is too long but that's just me. 4-5 days is ok.

 

[Badjedidude]

I've read the opinions of those clearly against masturbation on the internet before, one thing they've often said is if you quit doing it, you might be more likely to shove your anxiety aside and approach a woman or ask her out--apparently because frustration is a better motivator. No joke, that is what I've read. I don't really believe it, but does it make sense to any of you?

Frustration may be a better motivator, but imagine being a woman who will be approached by such a guy.

I'm not so sure it's a good idea to build up enough frustration to force you to seek out women that way. I'm pretty sure that a large portion of one's motivation for seeking out a woman at that point would be sexual. Rather than finding her for her character, disposition, etc... you'd basically be trying to achieve sexual release.

Or maybe that's just me.

Just sounds like a bad idea.

 

[Nocebo]

I agree with Vin, you have to make this decision ultimately. But what is is about maturation that makes you believe you should stop? If it makes you feel good, absolutely do it a lot. Society can make us think that it's wrong but people have done much worse things than make themselves happy. Even if it is only just temporary...well...until ok the next time you get chance

I made the conscious decision to masturbate more! Me and hubby havnt had sex for ages (blah, blah...this isn't about me) so I do it to make myself feel good.

Jut something to think about x

 

[Bebeskii]

okay guys thanks

 

[AlexChristy]

Just stop it, and your life becomes much better!

 

[Mike413]

Depending on your age don't decrease it too much or else you'll go crazy. Maybe just limit it to once or twice a day. That's what I'm trying to do now.

It's actually similar to eating in some ways because often people will do it when they don't necessarily feel the urge but it relieves tension and boredom so it becomes addictive.

If you think it will make it so you become more likely to go look for a girlfriend(or boyfriend if that's what you're into)then decrease it for that reason. I would say don't just stop it for more than a week or two because then tension builds up and it might affect your mood and make you angry or depressed.

 

[ardour]

I dunno, it's normal enough, at least I hope so... but quit watching porn. That is shame inducing and for good reason. Watching broken women's degrading ugly experiences for gratification isn't going to help you relate to women. It amazes me how so many guys, even some women have no problem with it.

 

[Limlim]

Aw man I love porn

 

[Batman55]

Aw man I love porn

Well, okay, I'm no saint either. But porn is one of the major reasons women continue to have trouble with body image, they're constantly comparing themselves to unattainable ideals. That leads to any number of problems for them.

So it's every guy's responsibility to stop watching and stop paying for the stuff, because after all, this is all our fault.