Recent content by futurecatlady

Hi fox, I can understand your pain and I feel it for you. You sound like a truly good friend--the way you describe your friend shows that you really appreciated and loved them, and there is no hint of bitterness there. I can tell you are a good person. I know what you mean about living in...

I like that term. It's true that the impression I'm getting isn't so much that they are making an active assessment of my value, but rather that they assume I'm not an eligible candidate for conversation or friendship. You know, some people just don't make much of an impression. I'm one of...

Tealeaf, I've worked in customer service and trust me--chances are, the benefit went both ways for at least one of them. Bits of chatter are what make the day less dreary, especially for those who are less introverted than us! Nothing is worse than a full day of head-down, no-talking drones...

I've tried to find someone else like me. But over time, everyone, no matter how awkward or strange, acquires a presence. I guess I'm primarily thinking about my workplace, which is much more open-minded than the world in general. Oddballs are embraced as unique. However, I am not.

Case, I feel that way before every party or get-together, big or small (especially when there will be people I don't know). Extreme anxiousness, anticipating all the different ways I will be avoided or ignored, imagining myself standing in the corner alone while everyone else is having fun...

Tangy, I can tell from your writing alone that you are not a stupid dude and are very likely quite the wordsmith. You sound young, and although I'm sure you hear this all the time, your youth and your passion are your biggest assets right now. Don't worry about pleasing your dad; he probably...

SofiasMami! Wow, I am so honored that you remember me! Yes, it's been a while. I've lurked now and then but haven't felt compelled to post until now. It really does mean a lot to me that you are still here and remember this old hen. :)

I have a theory that I've come up with in the last few years to try to explain why people treat me the way they do--namely, as though I don't exist. I think most people in the world have "inherent value": they are worth something in other peoples' eyes simply because they exist. They are...

The difference between good people and bad people is not how many bad things they do--everyone does some terrible things in their lifetime--but rather how they react to it. With your repentance, self-awareness, and consideration for your ex, you seem to be a good person. Accept that you have...

Thanks for the advice, guys! I really should probably explain to him what's going on. I think he was confused and probably wondered what he did wrong, and I don't want him to feel that way. I will probably just end it though; we live kind of far for each other and I don't think it would be...

I'm an on and off member here... I think the last time I was here was a couple years ago, but I keep coming back because this community is so understanding and I can relate to a lot of the problems people here face. So, I'm back again with another dilemma. I'm 26 and have never been in a...

I was recently reading a blog post by a girl about her experience with ADHD, and while I had never even remotely considered the possibility that I might have it (being supremely mellow and not at all hyperactive as a child), a lot of what she talked about was distinctly familiar to me. I did...

but then I realized that in fact, it's easier when other people are drunk. When everyone else is sober, no one pays much attention to me at all, regardless of how sober/drunk/friendly/reclusive I am. But when everyone else is drunk, it's like I'm on top of the world. People actually talk to...

If you have time for it, try joining an extracurricular group. Something on the smaller/more obscure side is great because there will be like-minded people in it and generally built-in social events that everyone in the group is invited to. I was very involved in an extracurricular and made a...

Peaches, have you tried earplugs? I'm not trying to sound snarky; this is a completely genuine suggestion. I also had problems sleeping because of environmental noise, and earplugs have literally changed my life. I use Hearos Ultimate Softness earplugs--they're like $5 for a pack of 50 at the...