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I have a question.

Has anyone done speed dating?
I've only seen it on TV/movies, it's not really a thing where I live. How is it? Does it work in the way it's intended to work? What's your take? Would you do it if you haven't already?

I mean, the way these kids date today, all dating is speed dating. 😂
 
I have a question.

Has anyone done speed dating?
I've only seen it on TV/movies, it's not really a thing where I live. How is it? Does it work in the way it's intended to work? What's your take? Would you do it if you haven't already?
I have!
In the UK, companies that run these events typically group by age (one event for 20s & 30s, one for 30s & 40s, one for 40s & 50s etc). I picked the 20s and 30s as that's my age bracket. The event itself was absolutely fine, it was pretty evenly balanced and there were some very pretty women there. I felt very at ease. They set you up with a name badge and a number on it, and a card to fill out, then put you at tables. You get 5 minutes talking to each person, moving around to a new table each time (the men moved at my event). I personally found a lot of women asked the same questions "What do you for work?" etc, so I made an effort to not ask that and ask people what they do for fun, as I find that's going to invoke a more passionate response from someone than talking about their day job. You write down each person's name/number on your card as you go, with a yes/no box. The next day everyone uploads their choices to a website (you keep the cards to help you remember), and you get a text or email if you've matched with someone, and you get their number or email to then stay in contact.

That said, when both times I've been, 12 out of 12 women ticked 'no' for me, so maybe I'm not the expert here. 😂
 
What kind of jobs we talking about? Because literally every fast food place, retailer and factory where I live is hiring. :p

The kinds that pay living wages without college degrees that don't look like they're going to go out of business anytime soon.

I applied to work at the Dillards in the mall a couple years ago.
The Dock Manager there took a look at my resume and told me I was overqualified for the entire mall.
So I asked her what I should be looking for to apply for job-wise and she said:
"My job. But, I need my job, so not here."
😤😔
 
What kind of jobs we talking about? Because literally every fast food place, retailer and factory where I live is hiring. :p
Ditto.
@NoxApex(N/A) I applied to jobs via indeed. I applied to about 4. 2 called back immediately, 1 took way too long. No experience required and, after a year, will make management level salary working in a factory.
They're out there. You just have to look in the right places. This was maybe a month and a half, 2 months ago.
 
Ditto.
@NoxApex(N/A) I applied to jobs via indeed. I applied to about 4. 2 called back immediately, 1 took way too long. No experience required and, after a year, will make management level salary working in a factory.
They're out there. You just have to look in the right places. This was maybe a month and a half, 2 months ago.

I live in a small countryside town full of mostly retirees.
There's not much here. Population is only 44,000, city size is only 40 square miles.
 
I live in a small countryside town full of mostly retirees.
There's not much here. Population is only 44,000, city size is only 40 square miles.
Do you drive? Can't you look further? Ironically, countryside jobs here pay even more, trouble attracting employees far from the city lol. Just download jobs apps and look progressively outside your circle. You'll eventually find something.
 
Do you drive? Can't you look further? Ironically, countryside jobs here pay even more, trouble attracting employees far from the city lol. Just download jobs apps and look progressively outside your circle. You'll eventually find something.

I don't have a car. I mean, I could buy a used car, but I'd really rather not due to upkeep and maintenance expenses. That would be all that I can afford though. The local area is also like really corrupt. Like the feds showed up to audit the city because they kept the renters relief money granted to them by the state which was granted to them by the feds, instead of giving it to people for rent relief during the original COVID outbreak. Place is very...half Sons Of Anarchy, half Breaking Bad, with Trailer Park Boys undertones. I almost went up in a fireball in the last used car I bought due to mechanical failure, and it financially set me back 5 years. So, I stopped driving. Switched to a bicycle to save money and improve my health.
 
:unsure:
Maybe I'll go sign up for OnlyBullshit and start selling How To Live Life Legit And Stop Sucking At Being A Human Being lessons.
Idk. 🤷‍♂️
 
That's actually bigger than all of the towns within 10 miles from where I live. The jobs are out there, just keep looking.

Do you drive? Can't you look further? Ironically, countryside jobs here pay even more, trouble attracting employees far from the city lol. Just download jobs apps and look progressively outside your circle. You'll eventually find something.

Thanks guys.
This is just really sucking right now. 😔
I've stayed where I've been for 7 years because this is the best job I've ever had.
 
Thanks guys.
This is just really sucking right now. 😔
I've stayed where I've been for 7 years because this is the best job I've ever had.
Well, if you want to rise above your current state, dude, you have to try and step out of your confort zone and try new things. I've never stayed at a job more than maybe 5-6 years. I made it a challenge of mine of doing things I'd NEVER done and had no knowledge of. Said so in interviews plenty of times. Right now I'm saving up for a drivers license, the plan to eventually drive a truck for a living, which I hear is very lucrative if you don't mind the hours and travel. I'm good with that. Job I have now will turn into really great money once I hit a year, but it's just a means to an end.
If I were you, I'd try to at least look at different ootions. Maybe a car wouldn't be a bad investment if you get a job to compensate the cost.
 
Well, if you want to rise above your current state, dude, you have to try and step out of your confort zone and try new things. I've never stayed at a job more than maybe 5-6 years. I made it a challenge of mine of doing things I'd NEVER done and had no knowledge of. Said so in interviews plenty of times. Right now I'm saving up for a drivers license, the plan to eventually drive a truck for a living, which I hear is very lucrative if you don't mind the hours and travel. I'm good with that. Job I have now will turn into really great money once I hit a year, but it's just a means to an end.
If I were you, I'd try to at least look at different ootions. Maybe a car wouldn't be a bad investment if you get a job to compensate the cost.

I'm perpetually stuck between either being able to afford a car, or being able to afford an apartment.

I've driven professionally, and I did distribution management and machinery work.


It's mostly that I've had the same staff for 7 years and my boss ISN'T a jackass for the first time ever.

I've long stretched my comfort zones. I have enough management experience that I can shop for jobs. The problem is, I don't like working with the public.

I might look into city and state labor jobs.
Better pay, away from the public, and benefits.
 
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Do you feel like people (romantic interests) ghost you or lose interest in you faster then they did in the past? Like has the attention span of people with one another plummeted.
 
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Do you feel like people (romantic interests) ghost you or lose interest in you faster then they did in the past? Like has the attention span of people with one another plummeted.
I think they judge you quicker. Not even just in the romantic aspect, but everywhere. But, we do live in today's world where everything is getting "canceled" and if you want to get anywhere you have to be the "wokest of the woke" So....I don't really mind if people lose interest faster because it just saves me time in the end.
 
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Do you feel like people (romantic interests) ghost you or lose interest in you faster then they did in the past? Like has the attention span of people with one another plummeted.

The attention span of people has absolutely plummeted. 😂
Rather the two or correlated or not though is difficult to say.
"Correlation does not imply causation."
If you take even an entry level college psychology course, they will ram that down your throat so hard it'll feel like you're in a romantic relationship anyway. 😂

Media consumption is a contributor to that.
Media production, being the subtext of media consumption.
Back before the Telecommunications Act in 1996 which deregulated the emergence of the internet within the telecommunications market and the broadcasting market, oldschool media regulation laws from the 1930s and 1940s still largely applied.
Which means that between 1934 and 1996, all broadcasted media outlets in the United States were Federally Regulated.

Deregulation was meant to create internal competition within media markets, allowing for the inevitable development of large-scale ownership, or Media Conglomerates.

Which is why you have instances where Disney owns Discovery Channel, but Disney+ and Discovery+ are paid for separately. And why Instagram got bought out by Meta (Facebook) but Instagram and Meta (Facebook) have different marketing accounts. The same is true of Google and YouTube and their parent company Alphabet.

The snowball effect of deregulation is that it's paradoxically reformed as regulated deregulation, and the average consumer either doesn't know, or doesn't care that they're paying double to the same conglomerates.

Musically, that's why no Independent Artists can break into Billboard.
Because Billboard has long standing affiliate relationships among its conglomerate sector with Sony, Apple, and Paramount, who all collectively own and operate the brunt of mainstream music record industries.
It isn't that Independent Artists aren't allowed into Billboard, it's that Billboards biggest contributor to the Independent Artist section, comes from Disney. So if you DO manage to get your foot in the door, congratulations on getting into Billboard as an Independent Artist, your direct competition is Disney.
If that sounds like it's rigged for business, that's because it IS rigged for business.

Because where did the Mafia go after alcohol prohibition ended?
Everybody knows the Mafia don't just quietly go away and never come back...

But I digress,
The point is, media production is now scientifically designed to be degenerative to the attention span of its consumers.
That started, arguably anywhere between what's musically considered to be Modern Pop Single Song Format, to Facebook digging into Neuroscience in developing their Notification system tailored to Dopamine, or with TikTok's increasingly shorter videos. Pick a card, any card.

So yes, people definitely have less attention span.
People have less attention span because of the media that is produced and consumed.
And it is done that way on purpose in order to be able to herd people around like sheep easier.

Politically speaking, it probably didn't start out that way intentionally.
It probably just gradually snowballed and became that way.
Operationally speaking, you've gotta work with what you've got.
Feds say jump, you jump.
If you can jump to the Moon, the feds don't seem to really care, the point is that you still jumped nevertheless.
 
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Do you feel like people (romantic interests) ghost you or lose interest in you faster then they did in the past? Like has the attention span of people with one another plummeted.
I never really paid attention...😈 (Here's looking at you, @NoxApex(N/A) 😜)
That's on people, actually. Maybe it has, maybe it hasn't. You can't control other people's thoughts or actions, you can only react to them.
If you feel you're being ghosted, ask. If the answer is negative, it's really just your perception that's wrong. If it's affirmative or if you don't get a response, well, that's on them. Their loss.
 

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