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I have a theory that I've come up with in the last few years to try to explain why people treat me the way they do--namely, as though I don't exist. I think most people in the world have "inherent value": they are worth something in other peoples' eyes simply because they exist. They are...

I'm an on and off member here... I think the last time I was here was a couple years ago, but I keep coming back because this community is so understanding and I can relate to a lot of the problems people here face. So, I'm back again with another dilemma. I'm 26 and have never been in a...

I was recently reading a blog post by a girl about her experience with ADHD, and while I had never even remotely considered the possibility that I might have it (being supremely mellow and not at all hyperactive as a child), a lot of what she talked about was distinctly familiar to me. I did...

but then I realized that in fact, it's easier when other people are drunk. When everyone else is sober, no one pays much attention to me at all, regardless of how sober/drunk/friendly/reclusive I am. But when everyone else is drunk, it's like I'm on top of the world. People actually talk to...

So I've been out a few times with someone who I think likes me. It's possible--not likely, but possible--that eventually, it may turn into a real relationship. He's smart, funny, easy to talk to (not a trivial thing for me), and amazingly, he's pretty attractive on top of all that. And for a...

There's something that's been bugging me for a while now, and I figure--if I can't ask this here, where can I? :P So for the last year and a half, ever since I moved across the country and started working, I've been a bit... well... gassy. I constantly feel like I'm trying to hold one in, and...

So here's the deal: I'm 24 and I had my first kiss a few months ago. I've been kissed twice since then, and all three times I kind of didn't like it. It wasn't awful or gross, just kind of boring and I was waiting for it to end. I have, for so long, imagined what it might be like to kiss...

got un-invited from a party a so called friend was throwing, then got rejection letters from 3 companies, one of which was my dream job that i was counting on. Lost a friend and any chance at the job i want both in one night. yay.

I wish I could teach. I don't mean teach well, just the basic ability to show other people how to do something. I go over and over in my head how I would explain something, but when I try to actually do it I fail miserably. There are some things that I am experienced at, so people assume...

Sorry, I wanted to be interesting. But I promise you, sex lies ahead. Although maybe not super sex. Something that I've always wondered about is the nature of sexual attraction. We seem to have these concrete terms--straight, gay, bi, neither, both, whatever--but how can we so easily...

I am privately freaking out about trying to find a job. I am going to grad school for the sole reason that I was unsuccessful in finding a job after undergrad. I am afraid that is going to happen again, except that I have no more years in school to fall back on. I have never had a single...

I had a conversation with a guy a while ago about two of my friends. One is super bubbly, cute, pretty, and an all around nice girl who everyone adores. The other is slightly more reserved, darker, smarter, and in my opinion, infinitely more interesting. I know that most people would find the...

And by "someone" I mean a counselor/psych. We have free counseling services at school and I've been toying with the idea of checking it out, but I'm not sure if I even need to. I mostly just feel sad at night when I'm trying to get to sleep, and it doesn't get in the way of carrying out my day...

I am invisible on Gchat most of the time because it gives me a reason that no one is talking to me that isn't totally pathetic. I'd rather not be talked to at all after never having taken the chance than not be talked to at all after putting myself out there. It's a pretty good exemplification...

I don't read message boards all that much, so this puzzles me. The closest I can think of for "un" is that maybe it's a cute little grunt or something, I dunno.

I've known for a while now that I am slowly becoming less important to a friend. I think I've had it confirmed recently that whatever was there is now completely gone. I am hardly a footnote in that person's life anymore. I need to let it go and sever all emotional attachment I have for this...

a sweet smile is more valuable than a sharp wit soulful eyes are more valuable than a kind soul dimpled cheeks are more valuable than an upbeat spirit ? There is no getting around it. Looks will always be one of the most important things in life, even if it is in ways that we might not...

Can someone say hello. I currently need to distract myself from my own neuroses. P.S. Does anyone have a strategy for dealing with moments of intense agitation? Not exactly panic, but just feeling very upset and knowing that the distress is coming from your own head. I get this frustrated...

I have a friend who I would consider a very lucky girl, but she is always unhappy. She seems unable to see the great wealth of good that she has in her life, only the misfortunes and failures. I try to think of myself as a positive person, but I too occasionally forget or discount the...

Chickened out earlier, but here goes: I feel a little silly getting worked up over something relatively small when there are people on here with much bigger problems to worry about, but in a weird way I feel like I just need to barf this out somewhere so it is recorded for posterity in case I...