Brightshadow
Active member
I'm sorry, if this subject or my take on it is too controversial, but I'm really curious what you guys & gals think about it.
I guess, almost everyone is aware of the oversupply of potential male partners in the West. By potential partners I mean people, who want to find someone for a relation leading to marriage or at least a harmonious long-term relation.
Obviously there're different grades of "want" (from "wouldn't mind" to "desperate"), but in (almost?) every "grade" you'll find a ridiculous oversupply of men. Perhaps, except the grade "wouldn't mind".
I'm pretty sure, that the reason No.1 for this oversupply of men is that women get to keep children upon divorce / separation. (I know, there are some good reasons for this, especially the fact that a man doesn’t need to bear the hardships of pregnancy, besides the emotional involvement and taking care of his wife/partner.)
One of the two strongest instincts is procreation. But unlike the most animals, people desire not only give to next generation their genes, but also their knowledge, their love, their very soul. They long to imprint their offspring with their spiritual essence.
Now take a look at these figures:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Single_parent#Demographics
Sure, the most single parents, be it men or women, wish to find a like-minded partner / spouse. But *on average* the grade of desperation to find someone is definitely goes down quite a bit - at very least in case of women (men may feel more pressure to find a partner, for example, because the society may be more judgmental towards them, if they sacrifice career to stay at home to take care of children and live off social welfare).
One way to look at this is that an oversupply of men leads to a tough competition for men, which in turn ensures that only the best and the most motivated can procreate. The least attractive (in some/any way), the least motivated, the losers stay alone and can't procreate, OR give their genes to the next generation BUT can't give a piece of their mind/heart. Evolution at its finest.
There's nothing wrong about it... I mean, you just need to try harder, right?
Then I read stories, where guys mention trying really hard and still being alone, or even virgin at 57.
Then, maybe some people are just not meant to be happy, so what... I mean, you're a man, deal with it! Right?
I guess, almost everyone is aware of the oversupply of potential male partners in the West. By potential partners I mean people, who want to find someone for a relation leading to marriage or at least a harmonious long-term relation.
Obviously there're different grades of "want" (from "wouldn't mind" to "desperate"), but in (almost?) every "grade" you'll find a ridiculous oversupply of men. Perhaps, except the grade "wouldn't mind".
I'm pretty sure, that the reason No.1 for this oversupply of men is that women get to keep children upon divorce / separation. (I know, there are some good reasons for this, especially the fact that a man doesn’t need to bear the hardships of pregnancy, besides the emotional involvement and taking care of his wife/partner.)
One of the two strongest instincts is procreation. But unlike the most animals, people desire not only give to next generation their genes, but also their knowledge, their love, their very soul. They long to imprint their offspring with their spiritual essence.
Now take a look at these figures:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Single_parent#Demographics
Sure, the most single parents, be it men or women, wish to find a like-minded partner / spouse. But *on average* the grade of desperation to find someone is definitely goes down quite a bit - at very least in case of women (men may feel more pressure to find a partner, for example, because the society may be more judgmental towards them, if they sacrifice career to stay at home to take care of children and live off social welfare).
One way to look at this is that an oversupply of men leads to a tough competition for men, which in turn ensures that only the best and the most motivated can procreate. The least attractive (in some/any way), the least motivated, the losers stay alone and can't procreate, OR give their genes to the next generation BUT can't give a piece of their mind/heart. Evolution at its finest.
There's nothing wrong about it... I mean, you just need to try harder, right?
Then I read stories, where guys mention trying really hard and still being alone, or even virgin at 57.
Then, maybe some people are just not meant to be happy, so what... I mean, you're a man, deal with it! Right?