When I'm really angry, which I'm dismayed to say is pretty often, I'd say the best ways I have come up with to deal with it are going for a walk, meditating, or just having a good lie-down and doing nothing until the feeling passes. Just kinda letting it run its course. It might be counter-intuitive, but it works for me sometimes.
Just trying to remember that anger won't solve the things I'm angry at. Being smarter is my only chance, but I can't really be smart when I'm angry.
There's a lot of good options here as well:
ladyforsaken said:
Punching bag. I wish I had that, I don't but there are many times I wished I had that. That would be good to have.
Working out? I do this too, it helps some.. really good if you have pent up anger or frustration. Sometimes this isn't enough for me - thus why I wished I had a punching bag so I can have a go at that and just get rid of all the negativity.
Now this is something I've wanted too, for the longest time. I think I'll have to get one when I have my own place. I've wanted it before but I think the problem is my parents didn't want me to express anger this way. The thing is though, that's exactly what I needed. When I think of a person or a situation I hate, a punching bag would have done the trick and that's exactly what it's intended for. Oh well.
ladyforsaken said:
Cleaning around the house. Even when they're clean, there's always something to do. Reorganising stuff. This also helps me, this is more therapeutic than anything really. The last time I did this when I was frustrated - I got rid of 7 trash bags of stuff from my room. Not a very good idea if you plan to keep some stuff.. I just got rid of whatever I could and never looked back.
This is a pretty good one too. I remember something was really bothering me at the start of this year, so I really cleaned up my basement a lot, really threw out a lot of things and boxed up some other things to give away that I hadn't looked at in 20 years. Cleaning, I feel, is a great way to take one's mind off of anger or sadness, even if it only works as long as you have stuff to clean.
ladyforsaken said:
Music. This helps too, if I'm upset, I kinda like listening to mellow songs that would only end up making me cry. It's like a release. If I'm angry, I like listening to angrier or loud songs.. like some rock or metal or some Eminem - nothing beats loads of cursing in a song and singing/rapping along to them.
Eons ago, I used to write, when I had that passion burning. I wrote poetry, based and inspired by what I felt at any point of time. It was so easy to get the words flowing out when you feel something so strongly. But I've had my writer's block and since then I never wrote anymore. So this might help for some.
I feel this could or could not work, in my experience. Sometimes music works...the mellower stuff I feel is actually best. If I listen to something aggressive, I find it only intensifies what I feel even more....sometimes it makes me feel angrier. Though I often daydream about being a punk rocker like some of my heroes and letting it all out that way. Not only would it be healthy and constructive, but if I were doing something like that it would feel like progress. If I were successful, I would truly feel like I am finally hitting the dirty ******* or whatever situation back. If I was doing something like that, then in that situation I'd feel, if only for a while, that no bill can crush me, no boss can own me, no "badass" can steal from me. I'd feel 10 feet tall.
The trick is though, I feel I can only be creative when I'm in a happy state of mind. When I'm angry, my own writer's block is very intense.