beetrootsoup
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I'm in a few therapy/support type groups. I've noticed recently that I find it harder and harder to listen to the other participants. I've gone from being an empathic, quite touchy-feely type with a genuine interest in and compassion for, others to being indifferent/unresponsive/irritable/frozen/numb and unable to come up with any words of comfort or help.
Acute and intense loneliness is the factor that has recently entered my life and started laying waste to my emotions and ability to relate to others. Resentment and irritation predominate instead. Intellectually, I know others are going through s*** too, that's what life is about after all. But **** it, they're not going through *this*...
Reading up on the psychological aspects of loneliness I find that one can become angry and resentful toward others, thus perpetuating the isolation and ensuring one stays lonely. I see this happeneing to me, I'm watching myself become someone else, acting out of character. It's pretty scary and I don't want to become this person - bitter, angry, envious, dried-up, mean, petty and with very little to give.
Does anyone else recognise the changes that can occur when loneliness bites down hard on ourselves and our lives? Do you also find yourself angry, irritated and resentful toward other people who are basically just going about their business as usual, and have really done nothing wrong, except to have social lives, partners, families and people around them?
And can the changes be reversed when one is able to make the changes necessary to stop experiencing such intense loneliness?
Acute and intense loneliness is the factor that has recently entered my life and started laying waste to my emotions and ability to relate to others. Resentment and irritation predominate instead. Intellectually, I know others are going through s*** too, that's what life is about after all. But **** it, they're not going through *this*...
Reading up on the psychological aspects of loneliness I find that one can become angry and resentful toward others, thus perpetuating the isolation and ensuring one stays lonely. I see this happeneing to me, I'm watching myself become someone else, acting out of character. It's pretty scary and I don't want to become this person - bitter, angry, envious, dried-up, mean, petty and with very little to give.
Does anyone else recognise the changes that can occur when loneliness bites down hard on ourselves and our lives? Do you also find yourself angry, irritated and resentful toward other people who are basically just going about their business as usual, and have really done nothing wrong, except to have social lives, partners, families and people around them?
And can the changes be reversed when one is able to make the changes necessary to stop experiencing such intense loneliness?