EveWasFramed
Well-known member
I sometimes surf the very old threads here at ALL out of curiosity. I came across the one below and thought it might be a good one to bump (sometimes the old threads have very good messages). In this case, though the title caught my eye, the thread turned out to be total crap. Off topic, fighting, etc.
However, I thought the title was interesting enough to make a new thread from.
It seems to me that people are very different in the amount of attention they need from their significant others, friends and/or family to feel content (loved, cared for, etc).
I've often heard people complain because their spouse/gf/bf etc. doesn't "show them enough attention." I will assume that can be an issue for ANY relationship - even the ones you have with children, family and friends.
I wonder what can be done to rectify these kinds of situations? Does the person who doesn't give enough attention need to learn to show it more, or does the person who needs/expects it need to learn to make do with less of it than they'd like (or need).
I know the answer isn't simple or straightforward.
Have any of you ever been on either side of this coin, and if so, how did it go?
Do any of you feel that the amount of attention you get from your loved ones relates to your "value" at all?
Thoughts?
-->> The old off-topic thread: http://www.alonelylife.com/showthread.php?tid=965
However, I thought the title was interesting enough to make a new thread from.
It seems to me that people are very different in the amount of attention they need from their significant others, friends and/or family to feel content (loved, cared for, etc).
I've often heard people complain because their spouse/gf/bf etc. doesn't "show them enough attention." I will assume that can be an issue for ANY relationship - even the ones you have with children, family and friends.
I wonder what can be done to rectify these kinds of situations? Does the person who doesn't give enough attention need to learn to show it more, or does the person who needs/expects it need to learn to make do with less of it than they'd like (or need).
I know the answer isn't simple or straightforward.
Have any of you ever been on either side of this coin, and if so, how did it go?
Do any of you feel that the amount of attention you get from your loved ones relates to your "value" at all?
Thoughts?
-->> The old off-topic thread: http://www.alonelylife.com/showthread.php?tid=965