Dating websites - do they work ?

[EveWasFramed]

When you've messaged ladies in the past, whay ethnicities do you prefer?

I had a preference for Asian women, but I have also sent out messages to white/caucasian women and some afr-american women. None responded back to me.

I only had one Cambodian female send me a response, and where we met for coffee, and a week later, dinner. After that, she never responded to my text message. Plus she was a little "thicker" than I've expected, so she wasn't a good pick for me.

I had another female participant on another dating website email me back. We exchanged emails, but never led to any face-to-face date meetings.

But oh well, this is the sad reality of romance of me living in the US.

So YOU have a preference for Asian women who aren't "thick."
Does that make you a racist? You said people shouldn't choose a mate by eye color, etc but you're choosing by race and body type. There's a bit of hypocrisy going on there I think.

I have a feeling he'll blame the media again...

Lol, you may be right.

 

[desertexile]

Online dating does have merit, but not more, possibly less merit than the real world. My experiences haven't been stellar, but the problem is that if you are in my particular situation, having no income and living at home (caring for your sister who is disabled), with pretty much no way to get out of it, it makes you a whole lot less attractive, even if you do look nice. I'm not ugly, but generally women want (with some justification) to date and marry up, both in attractiveness, but also in resources.

 

[TheRealCallie]

Online dating does have merit, but not more, possibly less merit than the real world. My experiences haven't been stellar, but the problem is that if you are in my particular situation, having no income and living at home (caring for your sister who is disabled), with pretty much no way to get out of it, it makes you a whole lot less attractive, even if you do look nice. I'm not ugly, but generally women want (with some justification) to date and marry up, both in attractiveness, but also in resources.

I think a lot of women (with a shitton of justification) want to decide for themselves what they want...

 

[NewOrder2016]

1 year of try.

Hasnt worked for me.

I hate speed dating too.

Go for the hard way, do cold approaches or build a social circle, then meet from there.

Women are stupid, you must learn how the feel and think.

BTW, speed dating and online dating rely mostly on how you look.

So if you look good, they are your dating place for success and vice versa.

 

[Minus]

Please refrain from trying to paint a whole gender with your generalizations. There are plenty of women right here that disprove your nasty little stereotype.

 

[EveWasFramed]

Please refrain from trying to paint a whole gender with your generalizations. There are plenty of women right here that disprove your nasty little stereotype.

Amen. lol

 

[AmytheTemperamental]

you must learn how the feel and think.

That will be good skills to have when you switch to men, too.

 

[Lonelytoday]

I tried a couple. Met some really creepy guys. No one of any substance. I went out with one I thought might be a serial killer(he was a virgin in his late 40's and very weird) 
I also dated this other guy who was supposably a widow (but no pictures of his wife anywhere and I caught him in a few lies) 
I was getting operated on and he was suppose to go to the hospital  with me.  He just let me hanging and I had to find someone else to go at the last minute. He was really bizarre. 
So my luck hasn't been the greatest with any of them. I think I might be too independent. I am a single parent. I have a 17 year old daughter who i focus my life on while i am helping her get into a good college. She gets straight a' s and I keep as much pressure off her as possible. I. work Monday through Thursday at my main job. Do some events at the university  on weekends  and i volunteer whe never I can I am trying to get her name out there at the university.

 

[ardour]

I tried a couple. Met some really creepy guys. No one of any substance. I went out with one I thought might be a serial killer(he was a virgin in his late 40's and very weird) 
I also dated this other guy who was supposably a widow (but no pictures of his wife anywhere and I caught him in a few lies) 

So nice to hear the creepy serial killer older male virgin stereotype repeated... Cheers.

 

[BeyondShy]

Women are stupid, you must learn how the feel and think.

Excuse me, what???

 

[GrayAndLonesome]

I also dated this other guy who was supposably a widow (but no pictures of his wife anywhere and I caught him in a few lies) 
I was getting operated on and he was suppose to go to the hospital  with me.  He just let me hanging and I had to find someone else to go at the last minute. He was really bizarre. 

Yeah, lies are some of the stuff you need to keep an eye out for, especially females who meet men from online dating websites.

In fact, the over-sized chick I have met twice through online dating told me a story of one guy she's met whom lied about his age to her. He mentioned to her that he was 37 years old, when the truth was, he was a 45 year-old man. Another man she met prior to meeting me was that he lied to her about having been married in the past. Turned out that the guy divorced a lady five years ago and has two children from that marriage, which was not disclosed during the dates. Creepy!

 

[EveWasFramed]

I also dated this other guy who was supposably a widow (but no pictures of his wife anywhere and I caught him in a few lies) 
I was getting operated on and he was suppose to go to the hospital  with me.  He just let me hanging and I had to find someone else to go at the last minute. He was really bizarre. 

Yeah, lies are some of the stuff you need to keep an eye out for, especially females who meet men from online dating websites.

In fact, the over-sized chick I have met twice through online dating told me a story of one guy she's met whom lied about his age to her. He mentioned to her that he was 37 years old, when the truth was, he was a 45 year-old man. Another man she met prior to meeting me was that he lied to her about having been married in the past. Turned out that the guy divorced a lady five years ago and has two children from that marriage, which was not disclosed during the dates. Creepy!

So you think females cornered the market on lies, yet here the lady tells you about all the times men have lied to her.
Everyone lies - it makes no difference which sex organs they have.

 

[TheRealCallie]

I also dated this other guy who was supposably a widow (but no pictures of his wife anywhere and I caught him in a few lies) 
I was getting operated on and he was suppose to go to the hospital  with me.  He just let me hanging and I had to find someone else to go at the last minute. He was really bizarre. 

Yeah, lies are some of the stuff you need to keep an eye out for, especially females who meet men from online dating websites.

In fact, the over-sized chick I have met twice through online dating told me a story of one guy she's met whom lied about his age to her. He mentioned to her that he was 37 years old, when the truth was, he was a 45 year-old man. Another man she met prior to meeting me was that he lied to her about having been married in the past. Turned out that the guy divorced a lady five years ago and has two children from that marriage, which was not disclosed during the dates. Creepy!

So you think females cornered the market on lies, yet here the lady tells you about all the times men have lied to her.
Everyone lies - it makes no difference which sex organs they have.

Meh, what do you know.  You're a chick, you're probably lying right now :club:

*runs and hides*

 

[MisterLonely]

I also dated this other guy who was supposably a widow (but no pictures of his wife anywhere and I caught him in a few lies) 
I was getting operated on and he was suppose to go to the hospital  with me.  He just let me hanging and I had to find someone else to go at the last minute. He was really bizarre. 

Yeah, lies are some of the stuff you need to keep an eye out for, especially females who meet men from online dating websites.

In fact, the over-sized chick I have met twice through online dating told me a story of one guy she's met whom lied about his age to her. He mentioned to her that he was 37 years old, when the truth was, he was a 45 year-old man. Another man she met prior to meeting me was that he lied to her about having been married in the past. Turned out that the guy divorced a lady five years ago and has two children from that marriage, which was not disclosed during the dates. Creepy!

So you think females cornered the market on lies, yet here the lady tells you about all the times men have lied to her.
Everyone lies - it makes no difference which sex organs they have.

I think he/she ment "especially females," note the added comma

 

[EveWasFramed]

I also dated this other guy who was supposably a widow (but no pictures of his wife anywhere and I caught him in a few lies) 
I was getting operated on and he was suppose to go to the hospital  with me.  He just let me hanging and I had to find someone else to go at the last minute. He was really bizarre. 

Yeah, lies are some of the stuff you need to keep an eye out for, especially females who meet men from online dating websites.

In fact, the over-sized chick I have met twice through online dating told me a story of one guy she's met whom lied about his age to her. He mentioned to her that he was 37 years old, when the truth was, he was a 45 year-old man. Another man she met prior to meeting me was that he lied to her about having been married in the past. Turned out that the guy divorced a lady five years ago and has two children from that marriage, which was not disclosed during the dates. Creepy!

So you think females cornered the market on lies, yet here the lady tells you about all the times men have lied to her.
Everyone lies - it makes no difference which sex organs they have.

I think he/she ment "especially females," note the added comma

Which would STILL be bullshit and a misogynistic remark.

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I also dated this other guy who was supposably a widow (but no pictures of his wife anywhere and I caught him in a few lies) 
I was getting operated on and he was suppose to go to the hospital  with me.  He just let me hanging and I had to find someone else to go at the last minute. He was really bizarre. 

Yeah, lies are some of the stuff you need to keep an eye out for, especially females who meet men from online dating websites.

In fact, the over-sized chick I have met twice through online dating told me a story of one guy she's met whom lied about his age to her. He mentioned to her that he was 37 years old, when the truth was, he was a 45 year-old man. Another man she met prior to meeting me was that he lied to her about having been married in the past. Turned out that the guy divorced a lady five years ago and has two children from that marriage, which was not disclosed during the dates. Creepy!

So you think females cornered the market on lies, yet here the lady tells you about all the times men have lied to her.
Everyone lies - it makes no difference which sex organs they have.

Meh, what do you know.  You're a chick, you're probably lying right now :club:

*runs and hides*

LMAO!
I know where you live.

 

[MisterLonely]

I think he/she ment "especially females," note the added comma

Which would STILL be bullshit and a misogynistic remark.

I'm all for feminism and such, but reality states that in some cases women are more at risk, take for instance rape and/or sexual harrasment, women are more at risk and I think almost everyone will agree with that, is it misogynistic to make that clame then ?

 

[EveWasFramed]

I think he/she ment "especially females," note the added comma

Which would STILL be bullshit and a misogynistic remark.

I'm all for feminism and such, but reality states that in some cases women are more at risk, take for instance rape and/or sexual harrasment, women are more at risk and I think almost everyone will agree with that, is it misogynistic to make that clame then ?

When someone shows me a legitimate, broad study, with unequivocal evidence that women who you meet on dating sites lie more, I will rescind my remark. 
By the way, I'm not a fememist. Not even remotely close.

 

[user 115627]

Regardless of GrayAndLonesome's post history, the way I also understood it was that especially females have to watch out for men who lie which is why he followed up with stories from the girl he dated about various men who lied to her.

So...can I call misandry now?

 

[EveWasFramed]

Regardless of GrayAndLonesome's post history, the way I also understood it was that especially females have to watch out for men who lie which is why he followed up with stories from the girl he dated about various men who lied to her.

So...can I call misandry now?

Depends on who you call it on I suppose.  Not on her if she was simply relating her own experiences. Maybe on Gray, but it's a stretch and I don't think he's guilty of it. Not on me, because I wasn't generalizing men.  
However, if I misunderstood Gray's post, I'd certainly like to offer up an apology.

 

[user 115627]

Regardless of GrayAndLonesome's post history, the way I also understood it was that especially females have to watch out for men who lie which is why he followed up with stories from the girl he dated about various men who lied to her.

So...can I call misandry now?

Depends on who you call it on I suppose.  Not on her if she was simply relating her own experiences. Maybe on Gray, but it's a stretch and I don't think he's guilty of it. Not on me, because I wasn't generalizing men.  
However, if I misunderstood Gray's post, I'd certainly like to offer up an apology.

Of course it would have been on Gray since you called the same statement misogynistic when you interpreted it directed at women BUT I reckon you did so with his past remarks (for instance, about sexual discrimination from women based on his race etc. etc.) in mind.
Cause you know, if that statement stands there isolated and it's a stretch to call it misandry it would also be a stretch to call it misogyny...

I read it multiple times now and it still sounds like an advice to women to watch out for lying men...surely he'll clarify soon enough.