Ever force yourself to cry when you don't really have to?

[howtobealone]

Over the last couple of days I've felt pretty sad, and although I've felt the beginning of an urge to cry, I was very far away from the point of actually having to cry. I guess the closest thing I could compare it to is being emotionally constipated. This morning in the shower I tried to get it out, so I started telling myself really sad things that I didn't necessarily even believe and I really indulged in feeling sorry for myself. It took minutes of doing this, but I was finally able to cry. Afterward, I felt a lot better, almost as if I has taken a Xanax.

Has anyone here ever done something like this?

 

[BeyondShy]

No, I can't say that I have.

 

[HoodedMonk]

Try cutting onions. They work consistently for me.

 

[Mr. M]

I think I've been in such a shock for the past months, that sometimes I want to cry and I can't even cry. Usually, it's better to distract yourself or try to fix the issue In such occasions, or talk with someone willing to listen and help. In my case, I can't do either of those, so I just suck it up and go through it, usually lasts a couple of days.

 

[hugswithtrees]

Kind of, I never really cried past age 7, so I had to relearn how to do it later on in life. I don't know if that counts as not having to though

 

[Stonely]

No, I have never forced myself to cry. Whenever I cry, they were real tears of pain.

 

[blackdot]

I have sometimes forced myself to cry using music. There are certain songs that can bring instant tears to me and it can be a relief. It things have been wearing me down for a long time and there is no escape, sometimes a good cry can bring about a good night's sleep.

 

[JennaBond]

I have sometimes forced myself to cry using music. There are certain songs that can bring instant tears to me and it can be a relief. It things have been wearing me down for a long time and there is no escape, sometimes a good cry can bring about a good night's sleep.

I so agree with this. There are reasons for sad songs, and sometimes you need to just get it out, have a good cry. I find that I sleep like a baby after a good cry. And it's funny because a certain song can make me cry, and I'll listen to it a week later and nothing. I have songs for people and songs for experiences.
There's nothing wrong with a good cry, in fact, it might make you feel a little better...

 

[mickey]

Nothing wrong with what you did. Catharsis is not a current concept, but there seems to be something analogous to it. Things like crying and raging really can leave a person feeling calm. If it works for you keep doing it.

But I've never done that myself with tears. A couple of times I've thrown a tantrum and thrown non-breakable objects against hard surfaces and ended up feeling peaceful and relaxed afterwards.

 

[lonelyfairy]

I have tried it few times by just being curious can I cry without being sad and yes... I can. I just think some very sad moment in my life and tears start flowing.

 

[stork_error]

When I was young I used to purposefully put on slow lovesick type music and lay there for hours on the sofa crying, thinking about the boy I loved. In retrospect... WTF was wrong with me lol.