Ymir
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So my therapist and everyone else recently have been pressuring me into getting into a romantic relationship. Because I'm 17, I'm somewhat pretty, somewhat pleasant when I want to be, etc, etc... So I should totally find myself a nice boyfriend EXCEPT that I'm not really adept of this whole monogamy thing.
Mostly because I find romantic relationships to be 1) too taxing 2) unrewarding. And here's why: from what I've observed a romantic relationship basically entails reciprocal emotional support, companionship and sex if both partners are up to it.
Is this all...? Because I don't want two of those things in the list. I'm not really capable of developing deep feelings for people, as well as I'm pretty emotionally blank most of the times. I don't need or want emotional support (therapy has no effect on me on that aspect) and would never care for someone enough to offer them support 24/7 without feeling sick of the person. I don't want a companion.
I want someone independent who I can have sex with and debate issues that pick my interest, which go from literature and pop culture to controversial issues regarding the world's current situation and science. Because then I would have someone to offer me the intellectual stimulus I need and I could definitely settle for such person.
But doesn't look like I'm going to find this person anytime soon, and I can't even have casual flings or friendships with benefits without people and parents being judgemental.
Just venting really. I am not interested in hearing "oh but you are young you are going to change your mind" because yes, I've been told, yes I'm waiting for the time when I'll change my mind, but no, I didn't change my mind yet and the possibility of changing my mind in the future doesn't mean the problem at hand doesn't exist.
In short, I'm as frustrated as I can be now that all my friends have boyfriends and I wonder if that's all romantic relationships are supposed to be, because if so they are hella mediocre and the more time passes, the less I see the appeal and still I keep being pressured into finding myself one.
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Mostly because I find romantic relationships to be 1) too taxing 2) unrewarding. And here's why: from what I've observed a romantic relationship basically entails reciprocal emotional support, companionship and sex if both partners are up to it.
Is this all...? Because I don't want two of those things in the list. I'm not really capable of developing deep feelings for people, as well as I'm pretty emotionally blank most of the times. I don't need or want emotional support (therapy has no effect on me on that aspect) and would never care for someone enough to offer them support 24/7 without feeling sick of the person. I don't want a companion.
I want someone independent who I can have sex with and debate issues that pick my interest, which go from literature and pop culture to controversial issues regarding the world's current situation and science. Because then I would have someone to offer me the intellectual stimulus I need and I could definitely settle for such person.
But doesn't look like I'm going to find this person anytime soon, and I can't even have casual flings or friendships with benefits without people and parents being judgemental.
Just venting really. I am not interested in hearing "oh but you are young you are going to change your mind" because yes, I've been told, yes I'm waiting for the time when I'll change my mind, but no, I didn't change my mind yet and the possibility of changing my mind in the future doesn't mean the problem at hand doesn't exist.
In short, I'm as frustrated as I can be now that all my friends have boyfriends and I wonder if that's all romantic relationships are supposed to be, because if so they are hella mediocre and the more time passes, the less I see the appeal and still I keep being pressured into finding myself one.
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