Paraiyar said:I find that seeing couples can sometimes trigger it for me. It reminds me that it isn't normal to have not had a real girlfriend at my age. It doesn't feel good.
it isn't normal to have not had a real girlfriend at my age.
reynard_muldrake said:I can think of a few years when I *wasn't* lonely. It's something you never get used to, despite dealing with this issue for much of your years.
it isn't normal to have not had a real girlfriend at my age.
According to who?
edamame721 said:I feel especially lonely when I'm with a friend but they are in a bad mood or are not really "there." I also get lonely when I reach out to people and am rebuffed. I suppose, it's when I'm lacking the connection I am making an effort to make. I'm not unreasonable and would be glad to meet up in person once a month, so I find it very sad when people can't even give me that. I realize they probably have other friends who they meet up regularly with and wish to devote their time to them, but then it feels like they leave their negativity with me because it's safer to do so.
When I feel that way, I try to focus on my hobbies or use meetup and be social with strangers, which is nice because there is less pressure and people want to be social. But it doesn't always work since the lack of a deep connection is still there. Maybe a romantic relationship would help, but then I feel I would put too much pressure and expectations on my partner to meet that need.
lonelyfairy said:I noticed it in a very young age already, because being ''different'' than others, more shy and quiet, very introverted personality. I was 5 years old, I think? I noticed it by other kids bullying me in kindergarten and elementary & high school, I didn't have any friends so of course it made me feel really lonely. It's something I've felt and known for my whole life really.
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