joejoeyjoseph
Well-known member
I've been listening to some really awesome "talks" lately that have opened up my mind to the fact that I need to take ownership of my own problems and strive for change. But the question comes up and I wonder if anybody else finds it hard to change the way we are, even though we know that we have to or we'll be lonely forever?
Here's some points from the talks:
So on one hand, I can see that I must change because my mentality is the general problem I'm having with my lonely life. *But* on the other hand, I find it very uncomfortable to accept that I must change, and I can't really make significant leaps in the right direction. It might take me forever to be who I feel that I should be. I find it very hard to live the way I am but I know that I need to change.
So does anybody else find it next-to-impossible to change for the better, or are we just so comfortable with -and good at- being complacent that change would mean we no longer know how to live at all?
Here's some points from the talks:
- [Change in general] We want to change but we want to change according to our own terms.
- [Peer pressure] This whole country (USA, & your country too, probably) is about production - "I am what I produce". For us to take leisure throws us back on our worst fears. We have to be alone - with your mind! Did you ever notice that a vacation is nothing more than who you are all day long? You've just taken it to a forest or a beach - just as miserable.
- [Internal pressure, needing to feel secure in our safe zone] "Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all" - Helen Keller, blind & deaf lady from Alabama.
So on one hand, I can see that I must change because my mentality is the general problem I'm having with my lonely life. *But* on the other hand, I find it very uncomfortable to accept that I must change, and I can't really make significant leaps in the right direction. It might take me forever to be who I feel that I should be. I find it very hard to live the way I am but I know that I need to change.
So does anybody else find it next-to-impossible to change for the better, or are we just so comfortable with -and good at- being complacent that change would mean we no longer know how to live at all?